How do you address a new boyfriend?

[Lube]

Let's say you just started dating a guy. Maybe 4 or 5 dates under your belt. Now you send them an e-mail or (heaven forbid) an actual letter.

How do you sign it?

"Take care"?

"Hugs"?

"Hugs & kisses"?

"Sincerely"?

"Yours truly"?

"Still waiting to fuck your ass"?

(I daren't say the "L" word yet)

 

[MidnightPrism]

I like "kisses"


.... but maybe that's just me

 

[ahotjock71]

Yours truly seems appropriate. Or just, "Yours,"

How about, "Until next time," or "Thinking of you,"

By NO means use the "L" word yet! NNNNNOOOOOOOOOOO!

 

[ahotjock71]

^

 

[confusedboy23]

like this....xoxoxo........

That's just sooooo sweet!

 

[Swellegant]

I've given up on signing out with anything. Start off with a Hey, Darlin'! (I call everyone that, or Sweetie, it doesn't mean anything) and end with my initials. No fuss, no muss. Or something funny, like Hogs & Quiches (and then my initials).

Unless you're dating Jane Austen. Then you'd go with Yours most sincerely.

 

[Kurn]

How about,

I know we've known each other awhile but I'm still a block of ice when it comes to ending a letter.
Let's talk about it.


Or just make something up more or less goofy if you want.

Gotta decide: Do I want something seriouser or more-or-less like things are now?

 

[Leidian]

I wait for the other person to start the mushy stuff. I'll just sign "~Mike" until he gives me a reason to write something else.

 

[dkonfrost]

i think it's quite neutral to say, "see ya soon!"

 

[justsimon]

I use "love" for good friends... I also use "yours" and "x" or "xo." I've used those for people I'm just starting to date, also... not "love," though.

 

[Lube]

Thanks, everyone, for your feedback. It's been very interesting (and humorous!) reading the replies.

hugs, hugs and kisses, or just 'yours' seem appropriate, the rest seem too formal

I wait for the other person to start the mushy stuff. I'll just sign "~Mike" until he gives me a reason to write something else.

Yeah, see that's the thing. He's started signing his e-mails "Hugs," or "Hugs & Kisses," and I didn't want to just ape whatever he wrote. I was signing mine "Take care," but now that feels empty next to his. He's upped the ante.

And, OK, let me reveal my insecurities about my newfound gayness: In my str8 life, I never signed a letter--even to my wife--with "hugs and kisses". It's not me. OTOH, every gay guy I've dated has turned from perfectly normal in daylight to gushy and emotive when we're alone--and I like that a lot.

Maybe I just need to get over myself!

Hugs and kisses xoxoxo,

Lube.

 

[Lube]

I use "love" for good friends... I also use "yours" and "x" or "xo." I've used those for people I'm just starting to date, also... not "love," though.

Yeah, isn't it strange how it's perfectly normal to use the L word for friends, but not for dates??!!

 

[treanir]

I usually sign with 'cheers', but I'm not sure if that's appropriate here... If he's already signed with hugs&kisses, you can reciprocate by doing the same (really, it's such a common reply, I don't think it would be seen as copying). Alternatively, though it might make him a bit unsure about where you stand, you could refer to some event in the future i.e. 'see you Friday' or 'can't wait to see you again'.