sorry to have confused yall... the other guys in the first post had nothing to do with the rest. just to explain how i found the site that this other guy was on. and ive made plenty of friends via facebook so i dont understand how its creepy unless i were to use all his personal information against him somehow... and i dont really know if i even wanna make out with him. i mean i definitely dont want to date him but id at least like to be friends... just to see where it goes. i mean didnt u ever fantasize about one of those hott preppy jocks in high school suddenly coming out of the closet? its just an opportunity i dont wanna pass up... i mean to at least get to know him a little
OK, what opportunity are you talking about? This guy says he’s straight. Fantasy and reality, are not the same thing. In Fantasy Texas I get pulled over by that smokin’ hot DPS officer who lives down the lane end up with his cock down my throat. Back here in reality he’s a nice guy with a nice wife and a kid and that’s never gonna happen. I’m not gonna push myself into his life and “see what happens.” Because he’s straight, he said so. Which leads to the second issue.
You know, there are a lot of guys in here who say just ignore what the straight guy tells everyone and go for it. That’s just wrong. Sure it might be nice to fantasize about the straight guy coming out and wanting you, but that’s fantasy, and if we as gay men take that fantasy as a plan of action and insinuate ourselves into the lives of these straight guys with the intent of pushing a sexual agenda, that’s not ethical, that’s predatory, it’s selfish and it’s boorish.
Ethical behavior pretty much comes down to one thing, and yeah its fucking cliché, don’t do anything to someone else you don’t want done to you. So say you let the world know that you’re not attracted to some type of person, then one of those persons becomes your friend – knowing how you feel, then hit on you anyway. How would you feel? How fair is it to put someone into that situation? How incredibly self centered is that?
If some guy tells you he’s straight, don’t ignore it, and let your fantasies lead you into a situation where not only are you pushing something he doesn’t want, but requiring him to deal with your feelings, and your issues, when you have no right to ask that of him.
If you have a lot of the same interests and you want to be friends, then you need to be upfront and honest about who you are, all cards on the table – that’s only fair, it's only ethical, it’s prudent and it’s not going to cause problems later.
If you become friends with this guy because you want to fuck him, or date him, or "see where it goes" (honestly he says he's straight, where on earth do you think this is going?) and you don’t even let him know you’re gay, then at that point down the line when you hit on him, or unburden your tortured heart on him, how do you think he’s going to behave? What do you think his opinion of you will be?
Being attracted to someone else does not exempt us from being considerate of their feelings and their situation. It certainly does not exempt us from behaving in a mature and ethical manner.
