How do you deal with drama?

[terps420]

To answer your question: marijuana.

But on a less illegal and incriminating note, Jason probably has feelings for Tom as well; it's only human nature for a mutual attraction to begin for one party once they find out the other party is to them. The fact that Jason now knows his best friend is in love with him and always has been must be incredibly confusing for him. When it comes down to it, if he's forced to choose... well, I'm sure you can figure it out.

Just make sure to give him more than enough space, and tell him you're giving it to him. It might even help if you mention you're not going to play games like Tom. "I like you, I'm not going to play 'matchmaker' or 'unrequited lover', I enjoy your company; we get along well and I really think we'd be good together. If you'd ever like to find out, you know how to reach me"

Don't willingly begin a relationship with someone when you know there's going to be competition though. Be cordial with Tom, but above all, watch out for yourself.

 

[rareboy]

I deal with drama by telling people to snap out of it.

It is no substitute for living and is usually the refuge of the intellectually and emotionally lazy in order to entertain themselves, instead of pursuing more important issues or learning how to deal with relationships as a mature, balanced and emotionally healthy man.

So.

Recognize that everyone is behaving like 15 year old girls and
walk away from these princesses and let them sort out their own shit.

 

[G-Lexington]

A friend of mine gets involved in a bunch of things like this. She works in theater, and it seems that theater folk have a tough time leaving the drama on the stage. Anyway, we started a saying between us - "Put the (drama) llama to bed.". It means don't participate. It doesn't mean you have to not deal with the people at all, but it's actually very easy to simply not play their games, and not choose sides. If you feel them tugging you one way or the other, just say "Sorry - I'm not getting involved in that". It really IS as easy as that.

We even have a hand motion for it now. So when somebody comes up and starts with the "he said/she said/I dunno/tee hee" stuff, she glances at me, does that hand motion, and remembers - put the llama to bed.

Tom and Jason appear more interested in their soap opera than in really doing anything with you (in or out of the bedroom). So let them. Put the llama to bed, and go find yourself some people to hang out with who aren't hung up on the soap opera. They ARE out there.

Lex

 

[TX-Beau]

I deal with drama by telling people to snap out of it.

It is no substitute for living and is usually the refuge of the intellectually and emotionally lazy in order to entertain themselves, instead of pursuing more important issues or learning how to deal with relationships as a mature, balanced and emotionally healthy man.

So.

Recognize that everyone is behaving like 15 year old girls and
walk away from these princesses and let them sort out their own shit.

I don't think I can better this.

You deal with drama by refusing to play. If you don't want to be in the middle of this, don't be.

Never escalate, never engage.

 

[G-Lexington]

It's not even "drama" at this point, except on your end. It's a guy who's too attached to another guy to do anything with you. In short, he ain't worth it.

How do you move on? Time, mainly. Take a bit of time to kick the walls and bawl your eyes out. Then get out there, get social, and get some friends that aren't into the soap opera.

Lex

 

[TX-Beau]

Look, you may have never had an argument, but all you did have were a few dates surrounded by hassle. This guy John sounds like he's decided to avoid the drama.

Yeah it sucks, but if he can walk away that easily then he wasn't that into you in the first place. Such is life. All we can do is suck it up and move on.

Anyway if you did end up with this guy the other guy would have made your life hell.

 

[rareboy]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Stop bawling and don't look back.