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How Good Are You At Making Friends ?

I can strike up a conversation with a stranger at a store or Bar and sometimes we exchange social media. I made friends on facebook and hang out with people. I think nowadays people have a hard time keeping and maintaining friendships.
 
I'm better at it online than I am in real life, I'll admit that freely. I tend to be incredibly shy and introverted in real life, and it makes me come off as stuck up, or rude, when in all actuality I'm just awkward as fuck when meeting new people face to face.

With that said, if someone is worth getting to know I will put in the work and tend to make pretty good friendships fairly easily with those I genuinely click with.
 
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I'm good at being momentarily warm and engaging with strangers, I suppose. Bright and brief like a flame from a cigarette lighter, before the breeze scatters me. It's rare that a friendship emerges from such an encounter; but that's to be expected.

I'm generally suspicious of people who take a special interest in me and have to take time to carefully gauge their intentions before I decide to admit them to the moist embrace of my inner circle.
 
I feel I'm pretty easy to talk to by strangers. But like Ludlow mentioned above, I'm suspicious when someone starts to get unexpectedly friendly. I use to have a job in that people would pretend to be a good friend or acquaintance in order to try to get an advantage from my job position. A similar example would be if i was a bouncer/screener at a club and a person would hope to be allowed inside as a special privilege. So I still find it difficult to make good trustworthy friends. I am judgemental, but keep those type of thoughts to myself. Apparently, I perfectly happy hanging out at home along watching TV and messing around on the computer.

Since I'm retired I have lots of time. It is good to go out to eat with a former co-workers, but for some reason I have no interest in going back to their home to watch TV, play cards, or just to talk. I suppose the main reason is most of those former co-workers are women who are single. The males I am okay hanging out with are married and I don't want to be a "third-wheel" hanging out with the spouse also. I live in a small community and the 2 gay guys I used to hang with years ago have moved hundreds of miles away or have moved 50 miles away and as a female spouse.

The guy who moved hundreds of miles away...We were FWB's before he moved away. We used to keep in touch by phone. I finally figured out he was back deep into drug use and would only contact me when he needed money. I finally cut the money off and he ghosted me. I can see him on Grindr and Facebook so he hasn't blocked me, but he won't answer any messages when i reach out to him. I keep wanting that connection to real life gay person to chat with. We were FWB's before he moved away.
 
I once made a friend out of two rolled up slices of bologna.
 
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Knowing French helps a little, but you still need to have read a certain number of my posts to get the whole image :mrgreen:

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Actually, I merely follow a lead, in that department :rolleyes:
 
CyborgDreamSt8 said:
I'm better at it online than I am in real life, I'll admit that freely. I tend to be incredibly shy and introverted in real life, and it makes me come off as stuck up, or rude, when in all actuality I'm just awkward as fuck when meeting new people face to face.

With that said, if someone is worth getting to know I will put in the work and tend to make pretty good friendships fairly easily with those I genuinely click with.
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I have found I'm pretty shy in a group setting...even if I am antiquated with who people are. I just tend to listen and wait for someone to ask me a question.


ShadowCat said:
I havent seen a good majority of people I used to consider friends for about 12 years now, essentially you can say I am friendless, I had one real good friend but he ghosted me I did see him coincidentally on grindr but didn't message him I wanted to but would've outed myself thinking back on it I don't think it would have been such a big deal at least I'd have a gay friend to chat about gay things with none of my straight "friends" know. Other "friends" are online only and only on facebook. Then I have my x rated friends on skype.
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What I missed are gay (male) friends in real life. I have none left...not that I've had that many in my life anyway. Since I'm not out it sure makes it difficult to find guys for person to person conversations. I'm so old now I would not fit in with many of the public activities with several guys, especially younger, than me around my small community. There are no gay themed activities here...except the small community college might have something for students. That age range is too young for me...unless they are the chaser!
 
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