How is dating a guy different?

[rainman256]

Hey everyone,

I have a question. From your experiences how is dating a guy different from dating a girl? I just recently accepted the fact that I'm bi. I've only dated women before, and had short-term and long-term relationships but they've all been with women. Forgive me if it's too basic a question, but I've never dated a guy before so I have no idea what it would be like compared with dating women.

I just wanted to pick your brains a little bit

 

[FabFairy]

Couldn't tell ya Never dated a woman!!

 

[evil_danger]

I wouldn't know, but I don't see why it would be different, although depending upon the area you live in finding a guy to date could be hard.

 

[Romantico]

Not sure if I'll be much help, but here goes. As a bisexual who has dated and been in relationships with both men and women I can say this. (drum roll please) Its all the same. If you are really bisexual you go into it as you would any relationship. I am now in a serious relationship with a woman. A year or so ago I was in a relationship with a man. Sometimes we over think the easiest things. I am just as guilty of this as anyone else. Its mostly because we are nervous I think.

Act as if your just hanging out with a guy friend. I think you'll find everything will just be natural as if your with a woman. Is there an actual guy you fancy or is this just a general question? Reason I ask is, if there is a guy and he feels the same about you it can be a great experience discovering this new feeling together. It may bring you both closer and you can sort of figure it out as you go. Good Luck dude!

 

[Eternaldarkness]

Its the same. Nothing is different. Bisexuality is the same for both men and women.

It might depends though on who you date. If he's totally masculine, you will see fewer affectionate moments, less requests, less shopping, less emotional moments, your dates would be more simple and quite, things like that. You will feel more like you're hanging out with a guy friend. Then again, he might be very caring and loving.

If he's more of a feminine type, then expect more dramas, more elaborate moments, your dates would be more open, huge, and totally full of life and colors. I know this is bad but, stereotypically, its like dating a woman who can be most of a time...a bitch if you don't please him.

but then again, like I said, not everyone is like that. There are people who lies in between.

What you want is just totally be yourself. They will be whoever they are...and if you click, you click...

If not, then you move on.

 

[rainman256]

That's excellent. Thanks everyone! It was more of a general question. There's no one I really fancy at the moment, but someday maybe there will be. It was a question that popped into my weird little head a few days ago so I thought I'd throw it out there.

Thanks again. That helps out a lot

 

[conrad]

My first thought is that one can make friends of both men and women. When friends become something more than just friends they share more with each other. There may come a time when you know you are having sexual feelings toward the other person. One hopes that this feeling is also one the other person has. My first boyfriend and I thought of ourselves as regular guys but there came that time that sexual contact was the natural next step and it all felt good. Later I found that friendship/love with women can also come about as naturally; I also enjoyed two other long term relationships with men. What was common to all my relationships was that they rested on the solid foundation of friendship/love. All my former partners are still very dear friends; I loved them sexually once and I still love them although I have been a happy and faithful husband for many years.

 

[ferri]

Sometimes the cliches are true. You fuck the guy first and then get to know him; you get to know the woman first ant then fuck her.