How Long Can I Feel Like This?

[ElmosToe]

Loner[/B];10148290]
To be honest, I'm not really sure a bubble exists. I'm pretty out there all the time. And yes, a psychotherapist is something I've done for years.

Sounds like you're in a rut and seeking meaning in your life, an enriching, fulfilling life, a life of purpose.

An all too familiar concept comes to mind...sometimes the most popular people with an endless supply of friends and a busy social life can be the loneliest.

You can still live in your own little mental bubble even though you may still be putting yourself out there and dating people, hanging out with friends etc. But yet you still feel alone, you feel life is pointless and meaningless.... Just doesn't seem like you have anything you enjoy in life that gives you a purpose.

In order for any therapy to work, you have to want to make it work, you have to engage your therapist and work with them to face whatever it is you don't want to face that is blocking you from being who you want to be and living the kind of fulfilling life you desire.

People live in their little bubbles because it is their safe place to deal with everyday life.
One thing that sticks out to me is in all the posts, threads etc. I've read of yours, it seems you like to keep yourself bottled up, detached. Even with all the people in your life both IRL and online, you seem to not truly connect with people on a genuine deep or emotional level.


So what are you afraid of?

 

[offthewall14420]

Suffering is not enough.

"Dwelling in the present moment." While I sit here, I don't think of somewhere else, of the future or the past. I sit here, and I know where I am. This is very important. We tend to be alive in the future, not now We say, "Wait until I finish school and get my Ph.D. degree, and then I will be really alive." When we have it, and it wasn't easy to get, we say to ourselves, "I have to wait until I have a job in order to be really alive." And then after the job, a car. After the car, a house.

We are not capable of being alive in the present moment. We tend to postpone being alive to the future, the distant future, we don't know when. Now is not the moment to be alive. We may never be alive at all in our entire life. Therefore, the technique, if we have to speak of a technique, is to be in the present moment, to be aware that we are here and now, and the only moment to be alive is the present moment.

"I know this is a wonderful moment." This is the only moment that is real. To be here and now, and enjoy the present moment is our most important task. "Calming, Smiling. Present moment, Wonderful moment." I hope you will try it.

Thich Nhat Hanh. Being Peace

 

[Seasoned]

I apologize for getting to your post late. As for your original question, there's no time limit on the way you feel until you do something to make it better. How long would a broken bone hurt until it was set? Your psychotherapist has done you a disservice if not suggesting you see a psychiatrist who has the ability to diagnose a mental health issue. Hurt, whether physical or emotional, needs to be treated. Wishing you a healthy new year.