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How much of an age difference is too much?

TX-Beau said:
True, but it's not like they're acting in a vacuum. There are external factors that come into play. Age is one of them. Ignoring that is pointless.
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I agree that it matters to some extent, I simply found the phrase "maximum age differences for sustainable relationships" rather silly. There is no maximum. Now true as the difference gets larger you might run into more issues and the chance it becomes a problem could increase.
 
youngnihilist said:
Sorry, age absolutely matters. The whole "age is just a number" thing is usually said by older guys who like younger guys. I can understand attraction and casual sex among a wide variety of ages, but nearly all the time a 22 year old and a 45 (or even 30) year old are at way different places in their lives. I can hang out with anyone of any age, but by far I relate best to early to mid 20s
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Age is just a number, and its being said by a guy in his 20s. A person can be compatible with another and be difference ages. I've seen people in healthy relationships who have a 25 year old age difference. So it doesn't matter if they are in different places the relationship can be good or bad like any other relationship where both people are the same age.
 
youngnihilist said:
Sorry, age absolutely matters. The whole "age is just a number" thing is usually said by older guys who like younger guys. I can understand attraction and casual sex among a wide variety of ages, but nearly all the time a 22 year old and a 45 (or even 30) year old are at way different places in their lives. I can hang out with anyone of any age, but by far I relate best to early to mid 20s
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Agreed but yiu forgot to include younger guys with daddy issues in the "age is just a number" crowd.
 
youngnihilist said:
Sorry, age absolutely matters. The whole "age is just a number" thing is usually said by older guys who like younger guys. I can understand attraction and casual sex among a wide variety of ages, but nearly all the time a 22 year old and a 45 (or even 30) year old are at way different places in their lives. I can hang out with anyone of any age, but by far I relate best to early to mid 20s
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Age is just a number. I'm 21. You can be in different places in your lives and be the same age. Being in completely different places in your lives is a personal compatibility issue that is not necessarily age-related IMO.

Ignoring the fact that an age difference CAN be a factor to consider... this is dumb. However, the attitude a lot of people here is strange. Same shit I got for when I started a relationship with my guy. OH HE'S JUST USING YOU OMG WHAT A CREEPER
 
Right, young guys with daddy issues too. When a 21 year old and a 45 year old are at the same place in life, one of them is way behind or way ahead. And true, a lot of guys in their 40s and 50s who pursue youth are trying to live (or relive) something they never had. It represents more chaos than 2 people of the same age.
 
There is a large age difference between my bf and myself. It's NEVER been an issue with us. Are we at different stages in our lives? Of course but does that have to be a problem? No. We make it work because we love each other very much. We have many things in common and concentrate on those. Both of us have different experiences and views on issues. We share those with each other and learn from them. We each have our social network of friends our own ages and try to work it out so when one is out with friends so is the other with theirs. Then we find time for us to be together. I'm not trying to relive my youth and he's not trying to be middle aged. We've been together for almost 5 months and it works for us. We are both happy with each other and the relationship. In fact last night he said we should move in together.

Of course age can be a factor, if you let it. Like any relationship it takes work, sacrifice and understanding. As long as both of you are open and honest with one another the age factor doesn't have to be an issue.

Steven.
 
Haha wow guys, didn't know this thread would get so much attention. I feel like everyone has contributed a wide range of very interesting opinions. I enjoyed the "cut your age in half and add 7 years" formula haha. That would work perfect. But like many of you said, it really depends on the people and the specific situation.

Why I ask is because I recently started talking to a guy that is 15 years older than me. Yeah! Some of you may think that's a lot, and some may say it doesn't matter. To be completely honest, I haven't had a non-sexual connection with someone like him in a long time. We are both definitely at two separate places in our lives at the moment, but if you think about it who isn't these days? I guess what I am saying is that I am going to tread cautiously with this one but I am open to exploring the waters. Who knows? I believe that every experience can teach you something new about life.

Thanks for all the insight guys!

Daniel
 
Good luck. You sound like a very thoughtful, level-headed young man.
 
I like trying to avoid preconceptions...:=D:

When I was 51, four years ago, I met a man who was just 17. Over the last four years we've spent a fair amount of time together. The connection is unique and extremely powerful, and we just try to enjoy it for what it is

And, btw, he was the one who first asked for time together, so its not a matter of 'creeper' unless he's the creep. And in any case I'll take him, with pleasure :D
 
youngnihilist said:
Sorry, age absolutely matters. The whole "age is just a number" thing is usually said by older guys who like younger guys. I can understand attraction and casual sex among a wide variety of ages, but nearly all the time a 22 year old and a 45 (or even 30) year old are at way different places in their lives. I can hang out with anyone of any age, but by far I relate best to early to mid 20s
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Truly one of the silliest posts I've seen. To make such a generalization shows a level of shallow thinking that makes me question your own maturity.

Age, as long as both parties are legal and consenting, is irrelevant. I've know May-December romances that worked and others that were disasters, just as I've seen the same with people close in age. It all comes down whether two people can connect on a very deep level regardless of their ages.

For me, I generally connect with people withing 8-10 years of me, but I've had enough experiences with people outside those parameters that I would never say never when it comes to a relationship with someone much older or younger than I.
 
^That's your opinion. Others have different opinions.

"A very deep level"? How is that so when the older guy is lusting over the youth's physical features, and the youth is replaying some daddy issues or desiring money?
 
youngnihilist said:
^That's your opinion. Others have different opinions.

"A very deep level"? How is that so when the older guy is lusting over the youth's physical features, and the youth is replaying some daddy issues or desiring money?
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So in age difference cases all older guys are lusting after younger guys bodies and all younger guys have daddy issues and or want money? You couldn't be more wrong. I'm not saying there aren't guys out there doing that. Of course there are. But that is far from the case with most older/younger RELATIONSHIPS. There's a difference between a relationship and a hook up. You have some stereotypical view on this matter and keep repeating it in different threads. I don't know if you've been hit on by some creep or what happened but obviously you think us older guys are just looking for a hot romp in the sack with a younger guy. You fail to see that there can actually be an emotional connection. My bf. and I have a wonderful, loving relationship. I love him because of who he is on the inside. The things he say's and does is what matters. I've dated guys that are "hotter" than him. In fact 1 of them was an A & F model. I stopped seeing him when I became serious with my current bf. If I was only looking for a hot body I'd never had met my current guy. Of course there has to be a physical attraction at some point but that isn't what makes a relationship work. Neither one of them has "daddy issues" and certainly aren't looking for money as I don't have any. There isn't any hidden agenda or ulterior motive. We met, we dated and now love each other. Sorry if you have a problem with that. My bf. and I don't. That's all that matters to me.
 
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