How To Become A 'Top'?

[yuty]

So here's the deal:

I live on a college campus with two guys that I really like and really wanna have sex with.

Problem? They're exclusive bottoms.

And I'm a bottom too. However I'm not exclusively bottom so there's hope. I've not much experience in topping and I don't really know how to top well.

When I've topped, I had alot of difficult getting my dick INTO the damn guy in the first place, and I often either go too slow (because I fear I may hurt him) or I go too fast (and I hurt him regardless).

So any tips on how to properly top a guy?

 

[nitish]

I wish I had your problem. hahaha

Practice.

 

[yuty]

- Warm up to it... don't be so anxiety-prone about it(hell knows i was the first time i dated a total bottom... and so... i speak from bad experience...)

- Use abit more lube... finger him to get him prepared, if you're into that(finger... don't probe, don't poke... just gently go in and out... and please, PLEASE, cut your fingernails!!!)...

- Ease the head in... hold him, massage his back... kiss the back of the neck(or his cheek, if missionary)... put his mind at ease, and yours... don't get embarassed if you can't get it in the first time...

- Uhmm once you get it in and get over the initial shock... then go at it?

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I don't know if that'll help... but there ya go... lessons from a versatile guy? I think so.

Thanks for the advice!

 

[nitish]

And if the sex turns out bad, just call him a lousy lay. Then he'll feel bad and you wont! manipulation 101 baby!

 

[ElMmSM]

Ram it in. They may like it rough, but ask first to be sure.

 

[silversmith1213]

Ram it in. They may like it rough, but ask first to be sure.

Ouch? Yes, please ask for the sake of their poor sphincter.

 

[yuty]

And if the sex turns out bad, just call him a lousy lay. Then he'll feel bad and you wont! manipulation 101 baby!

That's too mean.

Even for me....

 

[Shepherd 2]

- Warm up to it... don't be so anxiety-prone about it(hell knows i was the first time i dated a total bottom... and so... i speak from bad experience...)

- Use abit more lube... finger him to get him prepared, if you're into that(finger... don't probe, don't poke... just gently go in and out... and please, PLEASE, cut your fingernails!!!)...

- Ease the head in... hold him, massage his back... kiss the back of the neck(or his cheek, if missionary)... put his mind at ease, and yours... don't get embarassed if you can't get it in the first time...

- Uhmm once you get it in and get over the initial shock... then go at it?

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I don't know if that'll help... but there ya go... lessons from a versatile guy? I think so.

I am a committed top and I believe this is exactly the best advice here. I hope my affirmation will encourage you. It has been so long, I have no memory of being anxious, but hot and horny.
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