how to come out as bisexual?

[moto]

I’ve seen a lot of people admit that they’re gay,
But how do you come out as bisexual?
Growing up I’ve been tease about being gay, but I think it’s normal because most guys experience that. And I think some people are still confused if I am, or maybe most think I’m not. because usually the question is you gay or not? The answer is I’m bi. So how do I tell without them making a big fuss about it? Well actually I don’t want to say it; I just want them to see that. Especially my family, I know they think I’m gay and I don’t think they have a problem with it, and they’re only waiting for the confirmation. And that’s not happening because I’m not. What I want them to realize is that I go both ways. So they won’t be surprised if they see me dating a guy or a girl. And that’s more difficult to explain. And I don’t want to explain my sexuality; I just want people to see that from me.
So I’m thinking maybe I should just let people see me hooking up with both sexes.
What do you think guys? What’s the best way to do it?
NEED HELP HERE, THANKS

 

[runner]

I think you have the right idea. Let them see you hooking up with both sexes.

 

[januaryguy]

Just be yourself and have best of both worlds. I know I have.

 

[Orlandude]

You don't owe anyone an explanation for who you are. Just be yourself and they will see it and draw their own conclusions. I am gay but I have friends who are Bi and when asked, they state the truth. Everyone knows the difference between Bi and Gay so there is no need for any further explanation.

 

[teh_nathan]

Personally, for me, it is not a big deal. I don't explain who I am to everyone I meet; if it comes up, it comes up and I mention it. If not, I don't make a point of saying it (unless it's online profiles etc where I do mention it).

It is really no big deal. Be who you are and if anyone doesn't like it/doesn't agree with it, it's their loss.

 

[moto]

thanks guys, i really do get your point.the thing is acting like myself make people think im straight. which is fun too. anyway my concern is my family.
ill just let caught me hehe, this could be fun!

 

[Zeremonie]

If you decide to "come out" as a bisexual guy then maybe you open yourself up to a world of opportunities with LGBT organizations. I hope your family won't be too confused - I moved your thread to the Coming Out forum btw.

 

[slobone]

Straight people don't have to come out, but gay people pretty much do have to, and so do bi's.

No, you don't have to tell everyone you meet, but sooner or later you have to tell the people who are important to you unless you want to spend your life in the closet.

Some time when you're spending time with your parents, psych yourself up and decide to have a really awkward conversation. You can keep things light if you want:

"I think you should both know that I'm probably bisexual. I'm only telling you so you don't get confused if I bring home a guy one week and a girl the next. I'll let you know if I meet anyone I want to settle down with seriously."

That's enough to start with. Then keep them posted as you go along, to the extent you think they need/want to know.

 

[confusedboy23]

"I think you should both know that I'm probably bisexual. I'm only telling you so you don't get confused if I bring home a guy one week and a girl the next. I'll let you know if I meet anyone I want to settle down with seriously."

That's a great way to tell them!!!

If they've got no problems with you being gay, I don't think they would mind knowing you're bi because you're actually also telling them you are trying to discover yourself to see who you really want to settle down with.

Good luck!

 

[slobone]

^^^ And that way they can hope you'll manage to beget some grandchildren in between boyfriends....

 

[moto]

"I think you should both know that I'm probably bisexual. I'm only telling you so you don't get confused if I bring home a guy one week and a girl the next. I'll let you know if I meet anyone I want to settle down with seriously."

thank you for that, but thats just way to awkward for me to say, and i could just imagine how my parents especially my sisters would want me to elaborate on everything!

and yeah im confident that they going to be cool about the whole thing. but im not sure if i can stand all the questioning...... but theres one weird thing about me, cause i get pissed off with my moms sarcasm, one time she ask me (i dont introduce my girlfriends nd friends to them) " what are you looking for girl or boy?" and i just said "dogs!" i really dont know what to say then, though that could have been the perfect moment.. i just get annoyed whenever she does that, but im trying to get used to it, she always smile at me when a family friend ask if i already have a girlfriend, shes like saying hes not going to have one! and i wanna prove her wrong. i dunno .... i need to get use to her, and use it as my chance to finally come out......
i cant wait

 

[brandon84]

Just tell your family that sexuallity is out of style

 

[moto]

....................lol

 

[mabby7]

and yeah im confident that they going to be cool about the whole thing. but im not sure if i can stand all the questioning...... but theres one weird thing about me, cause i get pissed off with my moms sarcasm, one time she ask me (i dont introduce my girlfriends nd friends to them) " what are you looking for girl or boy?" and i just said "dogs!"

What is it with the dog comments today? ... haha .. What type of dog?

 

[3nipples]

....................lol

It's been almost a year. Have you been able to resolve anything?

 

[ichorinmyveins2]

Why do you have to stress the fact that you aren't gay but bi? You think you're any better being bi than being gay? Or you just want to give your momma a hope that there is still a part of you that is straight and to just wait for some more years and you'd be there.

 

[biguy69]

I'm bi, I never came out I just started dating guys.
It's not something I've ever felt I had to do.

I'm who I am and I don't go around telling people my religious or political views, why should sexuality be any different? I lived in a house share with 5 other guys and they were all stunned when they found out but didn't have a problem with me not telling them. I never hid it, I just never put it on show. I'm a private person concerning relationships and always have been as and when the relationship reaches a certain level then people will get to know about it whether it be a guy or a girl.

If you want to come out then do it, just tell a few trusted friends, I guarantee your entire circle of freinds will know within the week if you tell just a couple of them.

 

[moto]

It's been almost a year. Have you been able to resolve anything?

and now its like two years!

well i have a boyfriend now and im much more comfortable with my sexuality,
but im still not out yet.... i just realized that its really not important if im out or not as long as im being myself, i still have the same trouble with my family though i just really dunno how to tell them or say whenever they ask... i hope i can get over it soon , and finally tell them about my boyfriend (sigh)

and i agree what diff thus it make if im bi or gay ? its just not relevant anymore i call myself gay now, not because i dont feel bisexual anymore, it just doesnt matter.

its always intresting for me to know how older bisexual guys deal with their sexuality, i really learn a lot so thanks for all the advice