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How to deal with HIV anxiety

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Rijaal

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Hi, I've been dealing with anxiety ever since I dated a guy who is HIV positive. I just keep becoming convinced that I've contracted HIV some how and it's starting to drive me nuts.

This AIDs tester told me that the virus does not die until the semen is completely dried up. Is that true? For example, I was jerking off with a guy and he finished before I did, then about 30 seconds to a minute later I finished and he handed me his towel and I used it to clean myself off and some of his cum was still on it. Should I be worried over exposures like this or does the virus die in about 2-3 seconds outside of the body?
 
Well now, the virus has to enter the body and it cannot do that through intact skin. So your wiping example poses no risk.

How long ago did you date this guy?
 
Well the jerking off scenario was a few weeks ago with a new guy who I saw.

The HIV positive boyfriend was more than 3 months ago.
 
will somebody pleeeeeeze get this guy some literature...maybe a web site.
this type of ignorance CANT still be happening.
 
Rijaal said:
Hi, I've been dealing with anxiety ever since I dated a guy who is HIV positive. I just keep becoming convinced that I've contracted HIV some how and it's starting to drive me nuts.

This AIDs tester told me that the virus does not die until the semen is completely dried up. Is that true? For example, I was jerking off with a guy and he finished before I did, then about 30 seconds to a minute later I finished and he handed me his towel and I used it to clean myself off and some of his cum was still on it. Should I be worried over exposures like this or does the virus die in about 2-3 seconds outside of the body?
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Just get a blood test man to set you mind at ease.
Go to a doc or a free clininc, tell them just what you've told us ^.
And stay from any sex until you've gotten the results. It won't talk long to find out.
I doubt that you'd have have picked up hiv by cleaning yourself off with a towel with cum on it.
First go see a doc and get yourself checked... then either get on line to find out about how hiv is passed. You are obviously computer literate.... so you can google this stuff.
Don't be stupid man.... get the info and be careful.
All the questions you've asked are things that have been medically figured out long ago. Just inform yourslef..... and you'd best do so as I don't want you fucking guys that will pass it on to you and then you having sex with guys and pass it to them.
 
versa39 said:
will somebody pleeeeeeze get this guy some literature...maybe a web site.
this type of ignorance CANT still be happening.
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The original poster should read the HIV FAQ http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=198186

If he is that concerned he should get a test even though the scenario he gives would not indicate getting exposed because HIV needs an entry point and intact skin is not now nor ever will be an entry point for HIV.
 
There's a couple of issues here-

  1. HIV is very hard to transmit. You must exchange body fluids and live virus must get inside your body. There's a line in safer sex recommendations: "On me not in me" that is intended to tell people that jacking off and coming on each other is safe but fucking without a condom is not safe.
  2. Too many people get worried when they have sex with an HIV+ person. Risk is about your behavior not about who you do it with. Just because you think someone is HIV- doesn't mean that you can relax from your safe sex practices. You should be safe with everyone. If you adhere to to safer sex practices, you shouldn't have unnecessary anxiety about getting HIV.
 
I'm a lot more at ease after reading that CDC info. It seems like it would have been impossible to contract it that way since it would have been considered to be an environmental exposure.

Thanks.
 
I'm a bit confused. You worry about jerking off with someone, but aren't concerned about the guy you dated? Have you been tested in the 3 mos since you broke up with your bf?

Everyone should get tested to know their status. It also influences behavior because once you have gone through it you understand better the seriousness of sexual practices.
 
Oh I forgot to mention I got the HIV results back from 3 months after the last time we did something and it turned out to be negative.
 
I think the comments you read here are just going to make you more anxious. If you want real peace of mind about something like this, I'd talk more about it with people in real life. Or do some research about it on your own.

Every site on the internet as their own agenda. The panic and fear of having an std is overwhelming your ability to be intimate and trust and love yourself right now. That is more important than anything in the world.

How do you deal with hiv anxiety though? That's a great question. Ultimately it depends on what you individually.

The brain is a funny thing. Whatever works you know.

Get tested in the real world. Join a real , non-online support group.
 
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