[HOW TO] Learning to top..

[Bhazer16]

Hello.
I'm new to posting here, but seems like someone here at the forum could help.

I am a bottom, in nature. I've always thought and fantasized from the POV of a bottom. My issue is, I would like to "learn" to become versatile. As I'm writing this, I'm imagining getting something like Fleshjack, or a 'holed' toy, may help my purposes tremendously. But, to continue, I have attempted topping less than a handful of times and have nearly always begun losing my erection within the moments of insertion.
'This' understandable to me as, if I'm not directly stimulating {myself}|being stimulated, I lose erections very quickly. And, not being turned on naturally imagining myself topping, the loss of erection is no surprise. Which lead me to try Viagra on 2 occasions. But in neither situation was there any known effect, to my penis nor my 'drive'.

I'd love to hear from someone who's made the addition, or Switch, from being a total bottom into becoming comfortable being versatile, or even into total Topism (I'm sure that must've happened at least once in history).

 

[DarkHelios]

Maybe try wearing a butt plug while you top?

 

[KaraBulut]

...I am a bottom, in nature. I've always thought and fantasized from the POV of a bottom. My issue is, I would like to "learn" to become versatile. As I'm writing this, I'm imagining getting something like Fleshjack, or a 'holed' toy, may help my purposes tremendously. But, to continue, I have attempted topping less than a handful of times and have nearly always begun losing my erection within the moments of insertion.
'This' understandable to me as, if I'm not directly stimulating {myself}|being stimulated, I lose erections very quickly. And, not being turned on naturally imagining myself topping, the loss of erection is no surprise. Which lead me to try Viagra on 2 occasions. But in neither situation was there any known effect, to my penis nor my 'drive'.

One thing that you didn't mention is whether you have trouble maintaining an erection when you're not topping- i.e. during masturbation and when you're bottoming. In situations like this ir there's a physical issue with maintaining an erection, always start with your primary care practitioner and a physical. It's important to eliminate possible physical causes like endocrine issues.

There's not a toy or a aide that specifically addresses the issue of topping. There are "ass masturbators" that are life like silicone asses that fit the bill but they run about $200-300.

The most reasonable and inexpensive option is to find someone who is versatile top and with whom you feel comfortable- basically, a friend with benefits or fuckbuddy situation- and over time, work through the issue trying different positions and removing a lot of the mental pressure of "I have nearly always begun losing my erection within the moments of insertion". A fuckbuddy with whom you are comfortable is more likely to be patient and not put additional pressure on you to "perform". If you do find you're losing your erection, then switch positions and once you are hard again, have your fuckbuddy hop on and go a for a ride for as long as your erection holds....then change positions again and repeat.

ED drugs like Viagra don't have any direct effect on libido or in helping get an erection. They are usually pretty effective for maintaining an erection. You might try Cialis or one of the other ED drugs but the key is that after taking the drug, you do need to be able to get an erection on your own. So, if you are having issues getting and maintaining an erection without medications, discuss this with your doctor and make sure there's not a physical cause.