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How to let a guy know I Like him

ILoveYouandFB

ILoveYouandFB

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Ok, So here's the thing:

I like this guy, I think he's gay or bi. All the signs are there: The high pitched voice, He Hangs out with mostly girls (Gay guys are a girls best friend), His favorite Disney Movie is The Little Mermaid (Mine Too) And he does the Spring Musical Every year. He is also a Choir boy.

I can't let people at my school know i'm gay, you get kicked out for it. Only a few close friends know.

A friends told me to "accidently" brush up against him and check him out a lot. Does anyone think this will work? I want to let my feelings be known!
 
but what is he isnt gay and he tells, i get kicked out and my family finds out im gay....
 
^ Maybe you could ask his close friends how many girlfriends hes had in the past just to test if he's gay or not?

If you do find out he's gay and you ask him out, what are you wanting to happen between the two of you? :confused:
 
idk, i just really like him and i want him to know how i feel, i will probably have one of my friends tell him and if he isnt gay ill say it was just a rumor. OOO IM SO SMART!!!!
 
ILoveYouandFB said:
idk, i just really like him and i want him to know how i feel, i will probably have one of my friends tell him and if he isnt gay ill say it was just a rumor. OOO IM SO SMART!!!!
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Careful. That could backfire...especially if he finds our somehow that YOU started the rumor.

Why not just ask him to go out somewhere? It doesn't have to be a gay thing. Go to a movie or hang out at the Mall or something, just to spend time to get to know him. The rest will happen by itself. :)
 
Well, you're not asking him to elope. :)

You're wanting to hang out with him and talk at this point? Just ask him if he wants to grab lunch/dinner, hang out or do a movie- something that friends would do. If he's gay (which it sounds like is a distinct possibility), you'll know after a couple of hours of hanging out with him.

That's the easy part.

At your age, if a gay guy finds out you're gay, chances are he's going to tell other people. And unless you are dating someone from another town some distance away, chances are that word is going to start getting around.

So, ask yourself if you're interested in this guy because he's the only gay guy that you know of or are you interested in this guy because you really find him attractive?

There are other guys. There are other guys who are as closeted as you and will be happy to keep your secret. Maybe they would be a better option for you if you're ready to start dating.

But keep this in mind: you're not going to be able to pull off this closet thing forever.

Finish school, get financial security and then stop living in the closet. Yes, it will be rough and yes, it will take your friends and family some time to get used to. But it is a lot less work for the long term and you will have the freedom to be with whoever you wish to be with.
 
What kind of school kicks out kids for being gay? A private, ultraconservative religious school, I'm guessing. Unless you're not in the US. Anyway, befriend him. See where it goes. Have a sleepover :)
 
This is not really as complicated as it sometimes seems. If you would experience the fullness of life you have to be in touch with others.

Start by being a good friend. Not all friendships will ever have a clear sexual element; but all friendships are important. And, by being a friend one invites friendship from the other person as well.

With some persons the friendship becomes more than friendship. One comes to see the other person as a person of great worth and one comes to seek the good of that other person as one seeks one's own good. The wonderful result is that in loving the other person one sees on's own self more clearly and one finds oneself affirmed by the other.

That, my friend, is when the big IT often happens: two men bonded in deep friendship and love tell each other in many ways that they like each other, but, at a deeper level they tell each what the connection has come to mean. The sex that happens between them seems so natural and so right.

And, the sex confirms and strengthens the bond that has come to exist between them. What they have between them is very personal and private and, if they are wise, they keep it that way.

The rest of the world (family, friends, schoolmates, etc) are entitled to only what they see. No one really needs to "come out" and it is enough that those others see two young men who are very good friends.

It all begins with ordinary friendship, but the loving relationship which develops is still the strongest and most enduring basis for fantastic sex.
 
youngnihilist said:
What kind of school kicks out kids for being gay? A private, ultraconservative religious school, I'm guessing. Unless you're not in the US. Anyway, befriend him. See where it goes. Have a sleepover :)
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Yep, Private School. Two guys got kicked out for making out in the bathroom.
 
i told him, he told everyone. i wonder how long it will take for me to get exspelled...
 
Brilliant.

The plan worked.

and now you're out and you can get on with your life.

And what a little shit he was for telling.

what did you see in him again???????????????????
 
He wasn't the person I thought he was, now I just see him as a MAJOR BITCH. I need a boyfriend!
 
Hangon there sweetie - all stop!

You can sooo turn this around to get him.

Hell, start spreading rumours he's been blowing you behind the fieldhouse every Thursday for a year. Have fun! Be a bitch! It's part of life. =]
 
It's a done deal now. You might as well own it.

And if asked about what he's saying just say, "Well, if anyone would know, it would be him" and smile.
 
Some schools can be so discriminatory. I hope I never have to see this when I teach high school. I'm sorry he went and told everyone... some people can be dicks. There is a potential that he is gay and is just a spiteful little bitch because he doesnt want to be outed. Who knows though, you can't judge if someone is gay or not by their friends or hobbies. Sometimes you can, but its not always 100%.
 
orton86 said:
Sometimes, it's hard for me to believe it's 2010 after reading this thread.
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Yeah, it's really sad reading some of these threads.

Congrats ILoveYouandFB, though. At least you're out, you won't have to fear people finding out.
 
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