how to turn down

[Thatguyouknow]

OK, so i made an account on X hookup site- someone inquires w/no facepic, i request it before moving on, they send it......

but they don't appeal to my tastes...



This seems stupid even when i'm typing this question, but... how exactly should i decline politely... i feel like a picky bitch sometimes, especially when someone types up like a paragraph about themselves with their picture...

I'm kinda fumbling over my words to reply with. Help!

 

[Ryuukie]

Just be polite and say you're not my type... thats the nicest thing to say

Yep. That's what I would do, too.

 

[Homoerectus]

I'm sure you are a nice guy but you just aren't what I was looking for in a relationship.

 

[Danugh]

i feel like a picky bitch sometimes, especially when someone types up like a paragraph about themselves with their picture

You should feel like that.


Someone once said, "You know, you can't be much of a catch if you have to fish for a man online." So the least you can do is hear the guy out and maybe meet him for coffee or tea if he is British, and see how things go.


If you keep up this attitude you will end up all alone.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

My standard line is:

"Dude, thanks for your pic. I do not think that we would fit together this time around. Take care."

#1
You can be polite about turning someone down. But rejection will always hurt the other dude anyway.

#2
Sure, the dude is not your type. Otherwise, you would not be sending him packing... That much is obvious. Yet, I find it good to emphasize that there is nothing really wrong with him but that the chemistry between the two of you just would not be right.

#3
I hate hurting people and I find that rude guys are intolerable. Yet, a man must be able to take a simple 'NO' without much ado. So, if he comes back whining and bitching, he gets a quick membership to my 'ignore list'.


SC

 

[maxpowr9]

Yeah I tend to let them down gently if they are not my type. however, i feel like i attract all the horny guys looking for a quick trick and usually just end up ignoring them.

 

[Danugh]

^ Well obviously, men online are just in it for the sex. You cant expect to find a man for a relationship on the internet. Online men are about BS and games, and fake this and fake that.


You want a man get off the computer and go out in the real world.

Just yesterday i was produce shopping and i saw a cutie stocking the shelf. I walked up to him and asked him a question i already knew the answer to and 10 minutes later i had his number. Easy as 2 + 29.5.


And online men are recycled. Its the same men day after day, going from one man to the next.

Its much safer to get away from the online dating.

 

[G-Lexington]

Silver's response is pretty much ideal, I think. It's polite, it gets the point across, but doesn't leave the guy feeling crushed. I once got turned down by a guy (hard to imagine, I know ) but his refusal was so well-worded that I ended up feeling BETTER about myself afterwards! That may be too much to hope for, but it may be something to aim for.

Lex

 

[UC3543]

Just be as honest as you possibly can be, but nice about it.

 

[trawler69]

^ Well obviously, men online are just in it for the sex. You cant expect to find a man for a relationship on the internet. Online men are about BS and games, and fake this and fake that.


You want a man get off the computer and go out in the real world.

Just yesterday i was produce shopping and i saw a cutie stocking the shelf. I walked up to him and asked him a question i already knew the answer to and 10 minutes later i had his number. Easy as 2 + 29.5.


And online men are recycled. Its the same men day after day, going from one man to the next.

Its much safer to get away from the online dating.

Good to see you are generalising away nicely. I take it he was straight of course.

I have physically met several people over the internet and I regard some of them as friends. I also know people over the internet who I have a good "electronic friendship" with. It doesn't make them a lesser person or a lesser friend, just somebody to share things with and enrich each others lives. I have friend I haven't seen for years but we phone and that friendship is still there but maintained by electronic means.