How would it affect a friendship to suck his cock?

[Sammael]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

I'm still not sure why do you have to tell him about your experiences with other men? If you don’t want to, just tell him you are bisexual.

But what am I going to say if he asks whether I had sex with men or not? I don't want to lie about it because that would defeat the whole purpose, I wouldn't be honest and I would still be keeping secrets. And I would have to tell him later eventually and he would not like the fact that I lied. So should I tell him that I'm not comfortable talking about my past experiences? If I do that he'll get curious and have pictures in his head, and will probably ask more. That's the biggest reason I have not come out before to him or generally. I'll have to deal with lots of questions that I don't want to answer. And when I don't answer, they will start guessing themselves which may be even worse.

By reading your replies it looks like I'm being selfish because I'm looking for sex. If I wanted him to suck my cock, I would say yes I'm selfish. But it's the opposite. I want to give him pleasure, not vice versa.I will be happy because I can give him pleasure and make him happy but that's like helping someone in a non-sexual way and being happy for that. He's the only one who will have orgasm. However you guys are still right. What I wrote is my opinion but it's not necessarily his opinion. I can never be sure about what he thinks until he tells me and if I ask him to suck his cock and he says no, I'll have to live with rejection.

So I decided. I will only come out to him and won't say anything else. If he wants anything, he can tell me or give signs. Now the only thing I have to decide is whether I should come out to him today when we're alone or wait for sometime when both him and his twin are togather. This can only be on weekend because his twin is not available weekdays. I will probably wait for his twin because as a friend I'm as close to him as the other one. They don't think there's a difference between my relationship with them.

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

I want to give him pleasure, not vice versa.I will be happy because I can give him pleasure and make him happy but that's like helping someone in a non-sexual way and being happy for that. He's the only one who will have orgasm.

Him: "I'm really feeling bad about myself today"
You: "I'm sorry. Do you want me to suck your cock?"

Him: "My psychiatrist put me on anti-depressants"
You: "I'm sorry. Do you want me to suck your cock?"

Him: "I'm stressed today"
You: "I'm sorry. Do you want me to suck your cock?"

By reading your replies it looks like I'm being selfish because I'm looking for sex. If I wanted him to suck my cock, I would say yes I'm selfish. But it's the opposite.

Everyone is telling you that you're being selfish for a reason: because you're being selfish. You've wanted to suck his big cock since you saw it when you were 13. Now, you're trying to take advantage of your friend's problems to pursue your agenda. Friends don't do that to each other.

Your plan will fuck your friend up even more. Stop it!

 

[Sammael]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

Today I was with my friends(the twins that I talked about). I was planning to come out but I felt like everything about sex is unimportant. Maybe it was because we didnt talk anything about sex or girls. So I felt weird to say something like "oh by the way I'm bisexual". One problem I have is that when I'm at home, I mostly think about guys and I'm like a bottom only gay. But when I'm outside I don't see guys that way and I only look at girls and I feel like a heterosexual. That is why I only had sex 4 times during all these years. So it seems weird to come out when I'm feeling like that. Anyway I'm still gonna come out to them at the right time when we're talking about girls. But I won't offer oral sex or anything like that. If it goes well, telling them that I hooked up with 2 man just to suck their cock will be a big enough hint. When I come out(if I find the guts at an appropriate time that is) I will write here how it went.

 

[Sammael]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

So are you saying that I shouldn't come out? Because in my last post I already said that I will only come out to them and I won't say anything else(like offering oral sex). And if I'm ever gonna come out, it is only natural to start from my 2 best friends.

 

[Telstra]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

So are you saying that I shouldn't come out? Because in my last post I already said that I will only come out to them and I won't say anything else(like offering oral sex). And if I'm ever gonna come out, it is only natural to start from my 2 best friends.

didn't you say u are feminine, that means people around you already know.

 

[Sammael]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

I'm more feminine than %99 of other males but I don't wear female cloths or anything like that. It's mostly about my voice. It is pretty easy to spot that I'm gay but everybody knows that I like females and noone knows that I also like males. For example one time there was a girl I liked a lot. There was a slight possibility that a group of people, she and me would go to another city to stay there for a few days. A friend of mine said that maybe I would stay in the same room with her because noone would be afraid that something's gonna happen since noone would see me as danger. It looks like this is something a male would say to another male to make him angry but he was sincere and he talked without thinking. He probably said it because in his subconscious mind his view of me was feminine.

 

[joshgld]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

Speaking of psychology, you are projecting...look it up.

Plus, you already got enough dishonesty going without throwing more in the mix.

 

[rareboy]

Re: How would it affect a friendship to suck his c

So do you guys think that it would be better if I just come out to him? I know he wouldnt tell anyone. If he wants anything he'll tell me anyway after learning that I'm bisexual. However it seems a lot harder to come out, tell him that I'm bisexual and I had sex with males before.

Yes, you should.