How would you react?

[afguy_1983]

How would you react if you found out your partner did not tell you they had a non-cureable STD until after you had sexual contact? Would you end the relationship or could you forgive and move on?

 

[KaraBulut]

I'd wonder what else he would lie to me about... after I kicked his sorry ass out the door.

 

[Guy89]

It would depend on many different circumstances for me; how long we've been together, what the disease is, how healthy the rest of our relationship is, if I really liked/loved him, etc. It would definitely make it hard to trust him again though and a lack of trust will slowly kill a relationship. So actually I guess I'd probably just call it off. I could make better use of the time it would take for the relationship to crumble.

 

[Lefty]

that relationship would be over...if he would lie (or fail to warn) about something that important then he can't be trusted in any thing else either. to the max is what i'd be

 

[NineOfClubs]

All healthy (no pun intended) relationships require honesty.

When honesty is lacking from the beginning, the "relationship" is doomed to fail.

 

[Corny]

What kind of non-cureable STD do you mean?
And what kind of sexual contact .. did you play safe?
And how do you define partner .. are you guys together or was that just a hookup?

 

[biguy732]

What kind of non-cureable STD do you mean?
And what kind of sexual contact .. did you play safe?
And how do you define partner .. are you guys together or was that just a hookup?

These were my thoughts also - need more info for a qualified answer.

 

[Ekim23]

All healthy (no pun intended) relationships require honesty.

When honesty is lacking from the beginning, the "relationship" is doomed to fail.

+1

 

[afguy_1983]

What kind of non-cureable STD do you mean?
And what kind of sexual contact .. did you play safe?
And how do you define partner .. are you guys together or was that just a hookup?

Well it was with a girl, not a guy, and it was oral where I was the receiver and I manually stimulated her and had my face and mouth down by her vagina. I also manually stimulated her and she manually stimulated herself then touched me. There was also some genital-genital contact without intercourse.

There was no condoms involved and we are dating, and the disease is genital herpes.

 

[payit4ward]

Kick her ass out and call the local health department or cdc and report her she has no excuse for her behavior and has done something to you that could alter your life permanently in a very bad way and if she didn't tell you it probably stands to reason that she has kept it a secret from previous sexual partners as well.

 

[jdoe4822]

If she knew and didn't warn you then yeah I'd break up with her, esp since the activity is the sort that can transmit herpes. Morally its probably not as bad as HIV since Herpes can't kill you but it will still put a big damper on all future sexual activity. I'd get tested right away.

 

[3nipples]

Well it was with a girl, not a guy, and it was oral where I was the receiver and I manually stimulated her and had my face and mouth down by her vagina. I also manually stimulated her and she manually stimulated herself then touched me. There was also some genital-genital contact without intercourse.

There was no condoms involved and we are dating, and the disease is genital herpes.

Honestly, I don't think it's such a big deal.