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What can I do, if I really love my wife and I am BI. I can´t to tell her about my problems . Is there any way, what can I do.......? :help: :( :help:
 
You need to find a way to discuss it with her. I do know bi-sexuals who have monogamous relationships. If you are in a truly loving relationship, she'll understand. She might freak out a little, but she deserves to know the truth.
 
sometimes people cant accept what the other person is but only what they expect to be

it's your decision. i could easily tell you to tell her, talk with her BUT you and only you can tell if she can handle it
 
find the right moment to talk with her... you don't want to resent you relationship with her...
 
Guys, thanks a lot , I am sure I´ll must to tell her ,but I am afraid to talk....so, maybe I´ ll wait for the right moment and believe.....It is really not easy situation for me. Thanks guys.......
 
marbalk said:
What can I do, if I really love my wife and I am BI. I can´t to tell her about my problems . Is there any way, what can I do.......? :help: :( :help:
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Hi, mar! ;) That's tough. I told my boyfriend BEFORE we started that I'd continue to have sex with other girls, and I think he kind of likes havng a bi girl. The only problm is when he wants some pussy, and I'm out getting laid! LOL

Were you bi BEFORE you got married, or is this a recent urge? Do you just want to fool around, or is it just with guys?

See a marriage counsoler? I don't know.

T
 
Mar, I was married for many years and kept my secret in. When I started acting on my feeling, my wife suspected something was wrong. She said she could handle anything. Well I told her and guess what she couldn't handle it. So think twice before you tell her anything. Good luck.
P.S. There is no easy answer especially once you are married.
 
Well, you're in a very tough situation. One that doesn't have any easy answers. But in the end the best advice I can give is that secrets are dangerous little things and best put out in the light where they disappear quickly.

You are in a relationship which doesn't fulfill you completely. If choose not to address this your dissatisfaction will grow and your relationship will suffer. You will likely find yourself unhappy, and since you found JUB, I can assume you will also soon find more ways to fulfill yourself discretely. The more you do, the further from your relationship you will grow and the more unhappy your secret will make you.

Be careful. Weigh the value of your happiness and the happiness of your wife. Don't allow your secret to take on a life of its own and ruin your life for fear of being honest. Admitting to having feelings may be hard, but it's a hell of alot easier that admitting to an affair or worse.

This thing that you're experiencing, your wife is experiencing it too, though she doesn't know it. If you value your relationship with her, and respect her as a person and trust her, you owe it to what you've built and your happiness to talk with her about this situation.

Good luck friend
 
To ERIC55, Closetno,Thetrish,Inner voice,Kentucky python,Getstoseven,Lazaro..| .....I really don´t know ,how I can thank you , I am glad you gave me yours opinions and you can believe me I wanna to do everything I can to find the right way, what I am sure, I´ll need time to make a right decision. Anyway, Life is no easy, maybe I´ll keep my secret inside to me...... Maybe I ´ll unhappy, maybe I´ll not......

Thanks a lot friends........Marián..|
 
You could always do what I did and approach it S-L-O-W-L-Y! My wife and I were talking one night and I told her I wouldn't mind sharing her with another man. After countless hours of conversation and yes some arguments one night she spotted someone she got excited over and he and I shared her together that night. Several months later I made a couple of comments about how she 'tasted' so good that I'd suck a cock to taste her. Well one thing lead to another and one night...yeah yeah during a drunken sex get together (LONG STORY)...I sucked my first dick in front of her. She got so turned on seeing that I've been openly bi with her since. It takes time. It takes guts. It takes two calm heads to make it work. Hang in there. If your marriage is strong you two will make it through this.
 
Hi, mar! ;) I been thinking some more which is probably dangerous! LOL

Don’t tell. Your wife will blame herself, “if only I sucked cock better.” You will really need to reassure her. Oh, sure, eventually, your secret has to come out, living a lie is no good for your wife or you. But I’d really suggest a third party, marriage counselor, therapist.

Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

T
 
I'm not sure what to tell you man. I mean the only thing that I can say is don't be one of the DL (Down Low) guys who cheats on his wife but thinks that he's not totally gay so he doesn't wear a condom or whatever. Maybe you should talk to her about it. I mean that's your life partner. You should be able to trust her.
 
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