I am fewmin'!

[LeicsDom]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66588085

Across all ages, the ICO (Information Commissioner's Office) found that 17% of the public had received unwanted contact from employees after using their businesses. London had the highest rate, with 33% of respondents in the city reporting it happening to them.

Why don't I ever get unwanted contact? Is it cos I is old?

 

[rareboy]

Probably.

Unless they are looking for a sugar-grand-daddy?

 

[Thad1527]

Maybe you're patronizing the wrong establishments.

 

[pigface]

Equally shameful is that only 66% of the males asked thought this was morally wrong. Civilization is deteriorating.

 

[LeicsDom]

Probably.

Unless they are looking for a sugar-grand-daddy?

How very dare you!

 

[NotHardUp1]

Tempest in a virtual teapot.

There has been an elevated concept of anonymity and privacy that has grown in the internet age.

The article referred to the recipients as "prey." Total bullshit.

Guys and gals have always made overtures to strangers they have met and found attractive. Automatically categorizing that as predatory or sexual predator behavior is both false and vain.

Do sexual predators fall within the number of people who reach out? Undoubtedly, but they would exist in all contacts. Shaming the rest is simply denying human behavior. If you don't try, you won't meet her or him. It's like junk mail. May take 10 or 100 pitches to get a date, but young people should be trying, not just sitting at home jerking to porn.

 

[pigface]

Guys and gals have always made overtures to strangers they have met and found attractive. Automatically categorizing that as predatory or sexual predator behavior is both false and vain.

There is a great difference between, say, asking out a shop assistant, or waiter, who has served you and talked to you for a short while, where you each have equal knowledge of each other, and a situation as described where the perpetrator has full access to all the victim's personal information, yet remains a total stranger to the victim. That is more like a stalker who reads your mail - profiling you - before trying to get a "date".

 

[Vannie]

*slaps everyone's ass in thread*

Sue me.

 

[NotHardUp1]

There is a great difference between, say, asking out a shop assistant, or waiter, who has served you and talked to you for a short while, where you each have equal knowledge of each other, and a situation as described where the perpetrator has full access to all the victim's personal information, yet remains a total stranger to the victim. That is more like a stalker who reads your mail - profiling you - before trying to get a "date".

"Like" is simply not good enough to presume either predatory intent or stalking. Stalking requires persistence and stealth. You'd have to have a complete and very detailed data set to know the nature of the contacts.

If 98% of them resulted in a date or a "no thanks" or a "leave me alone," and that was all that came of it, then it was an overture, either accepted or denied. End of story.

These contacts are unlikely to be either predatory or stalkerish, as the identity of the contactor is known. It came from a company. It's traceable.

Not claiming these are not nuisances to some, threatening to others, especially alarmists or drama-prone worriers, but they'll find something to feel endangeed by, no matter what.

Find actual stalking and I'm all empathy. This isn't stalking just because someone sees the potential for it to become stalking.

 

[Kahaih]

Equally shameful is that only 66% of the males asked thought this was morally wrong. Civilization is deteriorating.

Actually, if you look at the breakdown, it was only 58% of the males who thought this was morally wrong.

Which should be expected, really, considering that about 42% of the general population is so hideously ugly they shouldn't introduce themselves without a bag over their head.

 

[LeicsDom]

If 98% of them resulted in a date or a "no thanks" or a "leave me alone," and that was all that came of it, then it was an overture, either accepted or denied. End of story.

Unfortunately, in this age of perpetual victimhood, some people assume any approach is predatory or stalking

 

[Kahaih]

Unfortunately, in this age of perpetual victimhood, some people assume any approach is predatory or stalking

I'm not sure that 'victim' refers to the attempts to contact/date.

They may be referring to the company's/employee's breach of trust with the victims' personal information.

Either way, we should be able to order a fucking pizza without the fear of signing up for hookups.