so on top of all the other shit i cheated on my bf. i think i just wanted to get back at him for cheating on me. doesnt help i was drunk and drugged up. yay. we're apart for 8 days or so and i want to tell him in person. i dont know if he will come clean to me about whats hes done. probably not. i just feel like ending it all at the moment, genuinely. im not a bad person.
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i am having suicidal thoughts
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Hey buddy,
Relationships come and go. That's just life. And life goes on
You can end your relationship with your bf. You don't need to end your life. Calm down. Get professional help to see a different perspective.
Chin up. Cheers!
Relationships come and go. That's just life. And life goes on
You can end your relationship with your bf. You don't need to end your life. Calm down. Get professional help to see a different perspective.
Chin up. Cheers!
its not that easy hunter. i got over depression last year and now its back and just as bad. ive upset my friends & family and pushed them away. i dont want professional help anymore. i just feel ill and drained and have noone to talk too
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Hi, SuperDave! There's nothing quite like a drama with the bf to push a guy over the edge into depression, is there? Having suicidal thoughts is a pretty fair measure of the misery you're going through, but definitely not a good plan of action -- it robs you of the chance to enjoy your recovery, writes you out of the plot before the movie gets better, and will probably ruin your carpet! Try something more self-empowering -- wash your hands of boyfriends who won't come clean with you, get away from him for a few days and consider this -- you're the star of your own life, not him! He might mean everything to you, but still You Matter More. And if you can pull a root behind his cheating back, you can take charge of this situation too!
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You are talking to us.
If you are having thoughts of suicidal action, as in you are thinking of doing it, please call 911, or a suicide hotline, or something. Please don't do it. I have been in that terrible dark place where one goes from "this is horrible, I'd rather be dead" to the infinitely more scary, "I want to be dead. How am I going to do it.". Get help.
I'm sorry you are tired of professional help. But there are many mental health professionals who are great at what they do. They all do what they do because they want to help people like you. Let them.
You made some decisions you regret. Regret is your mind telling you that you really want to learn from your mistake. You can't do that if you kill yourself.
It sounds like you and your bf have some tough work to do. If the relationship is important enough, the work is worth it. If it isn't then you need to move on, heal, and go on having a wonderful, complicated, stressful, fun, happy, normal life. But have a life.
PM me if you need someone to listen in a more private venue. You aren't alone, and you can make it through this.
You are talking to us.
If you are having thoughts of suicidal action, as in you are thinking of doing it, please call 911, or a suicide hotline, or something. Please don't do it. I have been in that terrible dark place where one goes from "this is horrible, I'd rather be dead" to the infinitely more scary, "I want to be dead. How am I going to do it.". Get help.
I'm sorry you are tired of professional help. But there are many mental health professionals who are great at what they do. They all do what they do because they want to help people like you. Let them.
You made some decisions you regret. Regret is your mind telling you that you really want to learn from your mistake. You can't do that if you kill yourself.
It sounds like you and your bf have some tough work to do. If the relationship is important enough, the work is worth it. If it isn't then you need to move on, heal, and go on having a wonderful, complicated, stressful, fun, happy, normal life. But have a life.
PM me if you need someone to listen in a more private venue. You aren't alone, and you can make it through this.
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Are you by any chance on any anti-depressants? I'm asking because it might be relevant to how you're feeling. Anti-depressants used to treat depression, anxiety disorders and the like stop working after a long period of time and might induce rebound depression. Hope that's not the case!
Nothing much more to add than to call an emergency hotline should you feel like you want to gut yourself (used suicidal-banishing humorously
). If there's no friend around to comfort you, just address them as what they are - suicidal thoughts.
Solutions:
1.Suicidal thoughts occur when one's "misery" (due to lack of criteria) exceed one's coping resources. Fortunately, the variable, time, fixes that problem by either diminishing perceived "misery" or increasing coping resources. (TEXTBOOK)
2. Life -------------------- Death
Life ----SUICIDE/DEATH
Death is an inevitable outcome that awaits us. Suicide would result in DEATH, one cannot rise from the living > thus, suicide is IRRATIONAL and ILLOGICAL for DEATH succeeds LIFE no matter the circumstances. (LOGICAL)
3. Talking to a friend would most definitely help. Also, we're here for you no matter what happens. If you feel suicidal again, it might make you feel better if you talked more about your problems here. You were rather brief and incoherent given the circumstances. Just know we're always here even though I'm a newbie.(COMFORTING)
PS. Yes, I am gay.
Nothing much more to add than to call an emergency hotline should you feel like you want to gut yourself (used suicidal-banishing humorously
). If there's no friend around to comfort you, just address them as what they are - suicidal thoughts. Solutions:
1.Suicidal thoughts occur when one's "misery" (due to lack of criteria) exceed one's coping resources. Fortunately, the variable, time, fixes that problem by either diminishing perceived "misery" or increasing coping resources. (TEXTBOOK)
2. Life -------------------- Death
Life ----SUICIDE/DEATH
Death is an inevitable outcome that awaits us. Suicide would result in DEATH, one cannot rise from the living > thus, suicide is IRRATIONAL and ILLOGICAL for DEATH succeeds LIFE no matter the circumstances. (LOGICAL)
3. Talking to a friend would most definitely help. Also, we're here for you no matter what happens. If you feel suicidal again, it might make you feel better if you talked more about your problems here. You were rather brief and incoherent given the circumstances. Just know we're always here even though I'm a newbie.(COMFORTING)
PS. Yes, I am gay.
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No one who has stopped themselves from suicide has ever regretted that decision. It not helping adding the drug alcohol, a depressant, into the mix. Many relationships survive infidelity.
The long term plan for yourself ought to include various support people to talk things over with. It sounds like things are better once you got a friend involved.
The long term plan for yourself ought to include various support people to talk things over with. It sounds like things are better once you got a friend involved.
Open relationships might not be for you, they might not work for you. Don't have to be in one just because that's what the Gay Pride Magazine said to do that month.
What might make you happy is a gay man that will fuck you and only you. You may think that's rare or whatever, but I'm sure there are a lot of gay men that want it, and really mean it. Really!
Furthermore, how are either of you cheating on anybody if you already said the relationship was open when you were first talking about it? I don't get it.
People don't mean to be sociopathic with wanting to fuck different people, the male brain was just hard-wired that way. But as gay men we tend to have female emotions on top of a male sex drive. So that's why we have DRAMA and inner confliction and fights with everybody else.
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What might make you happy is a gay man that will fuck you and only you. You may think that's rare or whatever, but I'm sure there are a lot of gay men that want it, and really mean it. Really!
Furthermore, how are either of you cheating on anybody if you already said the relationship was open when you were first talking about it? I don't get it.
People don't mean to be sociopathic with wanting to fuck different people, the male brain was just hard-wired that way. But as gay men we tend to have female emotions on top of a male sex drive. So that's why we have DRAMA and inner confliction and fights with everybody else.
