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I blacked out...

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About two weeks ago I went to a friend's place to have a guys night out to drink whiskey and watch basketball. I mentioned to my friends that I wasn't staying long and was only having a couple of drinks since I had plans the next morning. One of my friends was making my drinks (he was sitting at the end and passing me drinks) and made the first one really strong. I took my time drinking it and waited a while before another drink was handed to me. I told my friends that it would be my last drink before going home. The second drink was a lot stronger but I drank it. After that I blacked out and next think I know I woke up in my apartment. I called my friends to fill in the blanks and they said I got wasted and was vomiting and they took me home.

On the way home, my friends took pictures of me with my head in garbage can, puking. Several of the pictures Mark has his arm around me, I'm passed out in his arms. Two days after that we were all hanging out and talking about what happened and one of my other friends mentioned that I grabbed Mark's dick in the car. I have no recollection of this and I apologized to all my friends for all of my actions that night. A few days later we were all together again, I stayed sober while they all drank. They brought up me grabbing Mark's dick and teased me about it, calling me gay and other names (my friends don't know I'm bi). I have a thick skin about jokes but why do I feel like such a perv about it? I've had people tell me before that I get "touchy" when I'm drunk, for which I've made a strong effort to not get drunk when I drink. There's an awkward vibe between Mark and I but I don't remember what I did specifically. Should I bring it up? Should I let it go? I feel that bring it up might make this worse. Please help!
 
Don't bring it up and avoid alcohol if you are prone to blackouts.
 
Definitely don't bring it up. Take the L and move on. They will eventually forget about it and move onto something more interesting to joke about.
 
You've apologized to them, even though you have no memory of the event. That's all that is needed.

Now the question is why haven't they apologized to you for getting you drunk after you had plans the next morning? If you blacked out after 2 drinks, either those were close to pure alcohol or it wasn't just alcohol. Either way, it's something that friends shouldn't do to each other.
 
Don't bring it up. When you get drunk, you lose your inhibitions and your true self comes out.
 
I'd somewhat question their friendship if they're getting you drunk when you already stated you had plans the next morning. Tread carefully and don't continue drinking if you get a super strong first drink the next time. Also, like others have said, don't bring up what you did.
 
I've always felt like part of the straight guys getting drunk rules are to poke fun at the underdog (most drunk/silly) until the next drunk fool comes along. It's a "trophy" passed from guy to guy. Believe it or not, it's kind of a bonding thing, showing themselves at their most vulnerable, and weakest.

"I love you, Bro!" ... followed by puking.
 
borg69unimatrix said:
I've always felt like part of the straight guys getting drunk rules are to poke fun at the underdog (most drunk/silly) until the next drunk fool comes along. It's a "trophy" passed from guy to guy. Believe it or not, it's kind of a bonding thing, showing themselves at their most vulnerable, and weakest.

"I love you, Bro!" ... followed by puking.
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Agreed!

OP: Dont even think about apologising! When someone brings it up, laugh about it with them! If you start apologising they will bring it up more often and tease you with it. Thats a part of the game and thats just the way it is.

Also, have a smart answer ready if someone teases you about being "touchy" when drunk. Something along the lines of "Its all good, at least I dont get all worked up and ready to start swinging or you all would be in trouble" should work I guess ;)

99% of people I hang out with are male, and all my closest friends I hang out with the most, are all straight. We basically grew up together and I just happend to be gay and they all know it, so trust me on that advice ;)
 
Frankly all the Fratboy drunk "bro" shit is boys of all ages unable to soberly process platonic affection for other men, (and sometimes not so platonic.) Alcohol lowers the barriers.

Until you come out of your closet, you'll be afraid of losing control and "slipping" which is why this is obviously far more terrifying for you than anyone else you've described.

You're worried, because your inhibitions vanished and grabbing that cock is not what you really wanted to do...
 
As someone who's recently come out, I drank a lot in the build up to my coming out. But not once, not even at my drunkest and where there's memory gaps, did I ever come onto anyone I didn't fancy. Why would you? So if you don't fancy these guys I wouldn't worry too much about it.
 
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