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I Came Out 1 Year Ago

crowboy

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This time last year was the time of the biggest upheaval I have had in my life. It dawned on me I have just had my 1 year anniversary so I thought I would post as a follow up to my thread from this time last year. (see this link coming out thread)

13 months ago I was a bored, lonely guy who genuinely believed would be alone for the rest of my life and never know what it would be like to have a special someone to love be loved.

13 months later how things have changed.

It all changed because I finally accepted that I deserved more than the lonely closeted existence I had created for my self. I finally decided to do something about things that were holding me back in life and preventing me from being happy.

The first thing was obvious ....... come out.

I had blogged on here my story and I received a lot of support during that time. I have removed the blogs now but my thanks remain for all the guys here who supported me at a time when I needed it most.

I will sum up and say that 13 months on, I now enjoy a relationship with a very beautiful man who means the world to me. We have been together for almost 6months and I have never been happier. I did have to kiss a few frogs to find my prince, but it is all part of the process that led me to him and I am thankful for that.

Just over 12 months ago I came out to my family and then over the next few months my friends and coworkers. Now I am a proud out gay man. My parents did not disown me, my friends did not disown me when I told them. Everyone has accepted me for who I am, and frankly my sexuality means little to them. It was I who had issues relating to my sexuality not them. But once I accepted that and finally did something about it, things changed for the better.

Soon I will introduce my partner to my family for the first time and that is something I am nervous about, but also excited. I previously could only ever dream I would introduce my "boyfriend" to my family, now it is a reality about to happen.

I guess the point to all this is, if you believe you do not deserve to be happy, YOU ARE WRONG. Everyone deserves to be happy. DO NOT prevent yourself from being who you are by worrying about what others may think. YOU matter. YOU are important. YOUR happiness is important.

Be YOU.

Be HAPPY.

Be FREE.

:D
 
couldn't agree more. I'm really glad everything turned out great for you mate. Hope all goes well from now on too.
I also hope this can be taken as an example for others who are hiding themselves and not being who they really are.
 
Hey crowboy!

Been a while...... glad to see you are doing so well!

Almost a year for me as well now. ..|

Cheers! :wave:
 
What a great story--congratulations!

I'm glad things have turned out so well for you over the last year. I know it wasn't easy, and you've had some difficult decisions and conversations. But, look where you are now. All the best!:=D:
 
What a WONDERFUL post crowboy!!!

THANK YOU for sharing the incredible aspects of your coming out experience...

To a LOT of people, coming out seems as scary as walking off of the edge of a cliff -- what they don't realize, is that they don't fall, they fly...

:):):)
 
Congrats on your anniversary! :)

Crowboy is awesome... He was so helpful to me in a lot of ways, even being clear across the world from me.

(group)(!w!)(group)
 
Congrats on the happy ending!

I came out about this time 4 years ago.
 
Wonderwall said:
Just a reminder than you helped me to so thanks! Well done!
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Did I mate?
We are overdue for a chat.
Soon I hope.

Adhesion said:
Congrats on your anniversary! :)

Crowboy is awesome... He was so helpful to me in a lot of ways, even being clear across the world from me.

(group)(!w!)(group)
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Aww no worries mate. I hope all is well at the moment. We are overdue for a chat as well.

Audio Tech said:
Hey crowboy!

Been a while...... glad to see you are doing so well!

Almost a year for me as well now. ..|

Cheers! :wave:
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And another. lol Sorry not in touch mate, but As you can see I'm not in touch with a few guys. I have not forgotten you. I'll have to drop you an email. Well overdue. Just been very busy with work and now with the bf, not a lot of free time like I used to have.

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I may pop in to JUB a little more the next week or so as I'm on hols for 2 weeks. Who knows, maybe I'll catch some of you online and we can finally catch up.

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From here on JUB I have made a number of "friends". While I have never met most of these guys in person, I know that if I need some advice or someone to chat to I can go to them. There are some great guys here, and I got support from them when I needed it, I of course could only return the favour to others. It is nice to see a few of the good guys I know post here. Thanks for your support and posts.

:D
 
Hey Mate,

Congrats...I have just come out and hope to be able to share a similar story in a years time!

Also in Adelaide which is by far the best city in Australia :-P

Cheers
 
wazza380 said:
Hey Mate,

Congrats...I have just come out and hope to be able to share a similar story in a years time!

Also in Adelaide which is by far the best city in Australia :-P

Cheers
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Good on you mate. ..|
I hope your experience goes well. Just remember you are not alone and many have gone there before you and survived.

I love my town too mate. The scene is not great, but I'm past all that anyway. Feast coming up however next month and that should be great. I hope you get out and see something. I was too scared last year as I still knew no one at that stage. This year however I hope to go to a thing or two. Take care mate. (*8*)
 
so far so good...yeah wanna get out there...didnt even realise about feast..havw to check it out.
 
hey crowboy, you certainly have transformed in the last year, and your story is a great inspiration to guys looking to come out. Good luck with the family meet maaaayt. :-D
 
wazza380 said:
so far so good...yeah wanna get out there...didnt even realise about feast..havw to check it out.
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check out http://www.feast.org.au/ for info.
I have not yet looked myself, but should. lol

trikky said:
hey crowboy, you certainly have transformed in the last year, and your story is a great inspiration to guys looking to come out. Good luck with the family meet maaaayt. :-D
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trikky me ole mate. :D Good of you to drop in and post.
I admit I am loving that some of the special guys I have come to know through here, and continue to keep in touch with from time to time, have posted.
I may have won the race mate but I am so glad you kept going and crossed the finish line as well. I suspect you may have kept running while I stopped to collect the medal however and now you've gone on to win in another category.
*don't mind trikky and me guys, private joke* ;)

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Now wazza has reminded me of something from almost 12 months ago. I did blog some of it I think, but that is gone now so I will revisit this chapter for wazza and our newer members.

Last year after coming out to some family, a close friend & work colleagues, I set out to explore the "new gay me". I wanted to meet people. I was no longer in the closet, but I was still alone. I knew no one and dare not go to the gay club I knew of. What to do???

Feast.

I knew of Feast from online media and knew it was only a few weeks away. I checked out the website and looked at the program. I thought I would go to the opening pride march. I was rostered to work that day but it was OK. I finished and hour before it started so I could easily go to a spot & just watch. I looked forward to it all week. Then the weather changed a few days before ... HOT. Feast parade day would be 40+. Damn. :( The day came, I did not go. "Too hot" I said to myself. "I'll go to picnic in the park" I said to myself.

Picnic in the Park from what I gathered was the highlight of Feast Festival. I was nervous but determined to go. The day came. I got dressed as nice as I could look. lol Then caught a bus to the city to go. The closer I got, the more nervous I became. I got off the bus......... and proceeded to go to work on my day off. I chickened out .... again.

I was angry at myself at first for not having "brass balls" to go (trikky knows what I'm talking about lol). Looking back, I simply was not ready.

It is OK to not go do something. It is OK to push yourself out of your comfort zone. A balance is what you need. Keep pushing your boundaries and challenging yourself. If you want to do something, you will, when you are good and ready.

I look forward to going to something for Feast. This year I AM READY. :D

Take care guys. (*8*) :kiss:
 
hey crowboy

I always knew you had the "brass balls" and so do you now. Not sure which category you think I'm competing in but I'm more of a long distance runner lol :-D Hope you enjoy Feast. I went to my first Pride at the end of August and can honestly say it was one of the best weekends of my life. Hope you feel the same way about Feast. Good to see ya Maaaayt. :-D

ps love the new blonde look
 
Congratulations my old friend. As I said months ago - I am so proud of you, and I still am very proud of you.

I try not to impose, but it would be lovely to chat again too.

Best Regards
and
Lotsa Love
from Me.
 
wazza380 said:
See you at the opening night mate!
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ha. You never know. ;)

I will say to you mate. There is a show at Feast called Briefs. They were here in March for the fringe in "The garden of unearthly delights". They were great. I am so going to see it again, this time with bf. I would recommend it mate. :D

trikky said:
hey crowboy

I always knew you had the "brass balls" and so do you now. Not sure which category you think I'm competing in but I'm more of a long distance runner lol :-D Hope you enjoy Feast. I went to my first Pride at the end of August and can honestly say it was one of the best weekends of my life. Hope you feel the same way about Feast. Good to see ya Maaaayt. :-D

ps love the new blonde look
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I've been blonde for 6 months mate. haha. Clearly we are not in touch enough. lol
 
i googled search "feast festival march Adelaide" :)


Can't find the date, time and location ?
 
Try http://www.feast.org.au/

Don't know why you couldn't find anything Telstra? I found it in seconds. But then your name is Telstra. Self explanatory maybe. :lol:

November 13-28

Pride March opens the festival at 6:30pm November 13 from Victoria Square and
then march down Gouger Street, then Morphett Street and on
to Light Square for Feast’s amazing Opening Night Party.
 
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