I can see light coming into the closet!!!

[saxappeal]

Hey guys, I'm a long time lurker here and I just recently started posting...

Anyway - I had an experience today that really made me "want" to come out. It's a pretty lame story on the outside, but the feeling I got was pretty cool...

Up until now I've never told a single person that I'm gay except for a couple of internet friends. When I started college, I thought I was finally ready to come out, but being the stubborn guy I am felt that I didn't need to conform to the typical gay stereotypes. So, I ended up spinning my wheels for three years and still haven't told anyone. I felt like I was in a haze while almost all of my close friends were getting into serious long term relationships and I was the third, fifth, or whatever wheel. But, now I finally feel like the "conditions" are right for me to let my friends know that I'm a little different from them, but still the same person they hang out with.

The moment I had today was so stupid, but like I said - it was like a change just happened.

Thanks for letting me vent about this... This feels so empowering!
Anyone else have a "moment" where they knew it was time to kick down the closet door?

 

[martin6]

Freshmen year of college I was taking a shower and I had a little epiphany. I realized I wasn't making a whole lot of friends because I was too scared to let anyone know about myself, girls were scary people because I thought one might hit on me and I'd have an awkward moment trying to get away from it, and I wasn't gettin laid. I said aloud to myself in the shower: "Who are you kidding?!" Let it be known.


So tell us what was your "moment," anyway? You never told us after all that suspense!

 

[Tizinsane]

Yes!! Please tell us! I really want to know.

 

[G-Lexington]

You don't have to conform to any stereotype other than "diggin' guys". Other people might assume things, but they'll assume things based on your height, weight, nationality, hair color, and so on. It's really no big deal.

Lex

 

[backpacker]

Congratulations! Getting that moment of clarity is the first major step in coming out. Just continue to be yourself; you don't need to fit any stereotypes. Your friends probably already have an idea about your sexuality, therefore I bet they will be supportive. Good luck!

 

[saxappeal]

First of all, thanks for the kind words!

Second, my "moment" was just me telling a stupid joke in rehearsal that made everyone laugh... I told you it was a dumb story...

 

[jubalon]

Your story is very much similar to mine. I don't think I had an exact moment, though. There was more of a thought-process going on for a couple of weeks, where I prepared myself mentally and weighed for and against coming out. When I realized that my reasons for coming out were so extremely much more important and numerous than the reasons not to come out, I made up my mind.

There was probably one moment that made an extra difference. One night, I couldn't get myself to sleep at all. Not because of the fear of coming out, but because I was so excited about it. I laid there in bed with a real buzz and my heart pumping of excitement.