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I Can't Have Sex

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...because I'm soo tight and I hate using dildos. A turn off. What do u suggest?
 
A very changed attitude and a patient partner with lots of lube at hand...

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Agreed. Most tightness is due to you not being relaxed/comfortable enough.

You have to relax your muscles and slowly and surely it will loosen. With a partner, this is mostly caused by foreplay, but if it isn't working, just tell your partner and see if he can be a bit more creative and distract you and slowly start working you over. Rimming, fingering, brushing, all those things will help you loosen up as well as stimulation in other parts of the body.

And your partner has to be patient, too. Using lots of lube and slowly entering you, stopping when you tell him so you can adjust for a while and keep going are all important parts of anal sex that's enjoyable for both partners.
 
Anal is not compulsory - there's very much more to sex than fucking.

Amen.

Mate...theres much more to being intimate with someone that penetration. Take your time here...discover the pleasures of touch smell taste... at your age its easy to think that you have to give or take to have sex. Thats not true and there are guys who just never want to have anal sex. You dont have to either.

Take your time, dont rush , relax and just enjoy the experiences of just being with some one. And who knows, when you are really comfortable and relaxed with someone person close to you and that person means a lot you, anal may not seem as bad as it does now. But its not something that every one can or will do.

Relax and explore the amazing possibilities that dont involve penetration...theres a whole lot of safe pleasurable fun to be had!
 
Start practicing by having things up your ass. I'm still a virgin, but I started shoving things like my fingers, ice condom and garden hose head up my ass for over 9 years now.

When I first started my ass was really tight and I struggled to even get half a condom length inside me (those extra thin/tight ones). Now I'm making ice out of normal sized condoms and can shove a decent length up my ass though I'm still careful about it because it is think but still a real turn on. *|*

As Tallguy297 mentioned, try other activities (depending on your preferences) like BDSM, mutal jack off, whipping, spanking, sucking, feeling eachother up or pressure points etc.
 
I don't recommend putting objects in you that aren't designed to be there, i.e. garden hoses. Dildos, plugs, fingers, cocks, that's about it. Chapter and verse has been written in reputable sources the world over about why this is a bad idea.

I remember Soilwork getting pissed off about people sticking things like that in them... and he's a pornographer, so he'd know about sex better than any of us. So definitely have to agree.

I find anal extremely painful, but I think the relaxation thing is key. I remember when I needed an operation on my toe, and the painful part was the injections. It was truly agonising (needle went all the way through my toe). Then I needed the exact same one on the other big toe, and this doctor told me to relax before I did it, because the pain is mostly from tensing up. I did, and that time it didn't hurt nearly as much. Quite a relief.
So maybe that's it. Everything's more comfortable when you're relaxed. Date a Masseur, perhaps? ;)
 
...because I'm soo tight and I hate using dildos. A turn off. What do u suggest?

well if you are wanting to bottom that's a problem. could you be satisfied by playing on top? If not, still try being on top where you would have more control over the amount of meat in your cooler. If you know what i mean.

Or you could let the top "get you ready for fucking" by letting him insert 1 finger then 2 fingers and so on until you are getting into it. If you want to get fucked you'll be fucked. And I mean that in a good way.:sex:
 
I like what SuperQueer said:

"Or you could let the top "get you ready for fucking" by letting him insert 1 finger then 2 fingers and so on until you are getting into it. If you want to get fucked you'll be fucked. And I mean that in a good way"

Im a virgin & only came out a few weeks ago. Since that short time Ive have felt an unusual amount of sexual liberation. So much so that Ive been able to easily penetrate my ass just tonight, with 3 fingers & VERY deep! It was incredible & caused an ejaculation display I havnt seen in over a decade! I doubt I'll ever masturbate again w/o something up my ass.

Man, whatever you do, DONT GIVE UP ON BOTTOMING! I hope to be VERS someday, but no doubt I wanna have my ass plowed on a regular basis; once I get a bf. [lucky you].
 
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