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I can't seem to come out

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And it's not so much that I can't accept it, it's that I don't wanna have to go through the process of actually manning up and telling people. It seems like it'd be so much work when I think about how many people I know and see weekly, and how they'll think different of me. Of course this isn't unique to me, I'm sure every gay or bisexual man thinks of this, and it sucks...
 
I was the same way, I just came out to my Mom and Best Friend on my birthday back in May. I thought the same things but I finally got pissed off and told myself that I was going to live my life for me and stop living it for everyone else.

Now 2 months later ive told about 2 dozen friends and family members.

Some dont accept it, Most did.

Im not going to lie and say its going to be easy because its not. I still have my moments but it is such a relief to finally be able to tell people and know that I dont have to lie about who I am anymore.


GoodLuck!




-Matthew
 
Coming out for me was simple. People always speculated and questioned my sexuality. Still, at the time, I was in deep depression and felt it was no one's business.

Something inside told me to be open and honest. This is my life, the way I want it. I first told my bisexual and gay friends, then my mother and sister, then my straight friends. Everyone applauded me for being so upfront about it.

You can come out, it's not about being ready to say it. It's about being comfortable, proud, and prepared to open yourself up to others.
 
The funny thing is I am definitely someone who speaks their mind about something; I make it known I have no problem with homosexuality if it comes up. In fact I don't even pretend to be straight, but I don't make comments indicating I'm gay either.

But when you go your whole life with people assuming you're straight it definitely makes it tough. Some people are ignorant, others aren't; but I know even the ones who aren't ignorant will at least temporarily be taken back just because it's human nature. I know if someone I knew really well told me they're gay after me thinking they're straight for years I'd be like "whaaaat?" and I myself am gay.

I guess it's just getting harder as people are probably speculating. It seems like I get asked at least once a week why I don't have a girlfriend. I'm 22, have never had one, and people indicate I'm at least reasonably attractive, so I'm sure they're wondering. And the one girl I told (over instant messenger, who I haven't seen in person since) admitted that it was the type of thing where she had entertained the though that I might be gay because I don't act like I'm into girls but dismissed it as "nah he can't be gay." Apologies for the length of this now I'm just going on and on :p
 
I just don't see anyone's sexual orientation as anyone elses business. There's no reason to call someone out and potentially destroy my relationship with them. They didn't ask, so why should I tell? It's not an important issue. You don't come out to your parents and say "Mom, Dad, I'm straight". So why should anyone do so just because they're gay?

I say you should only come out if the subject comes up, and you're being directly addressed. Otherwise, there's no point.

But that's just me.
 
How they will think different of me? If I could answer these questions for me "which I think about often of course" I would also be a rich man off of prospective betting whether it would be sports or stock market.

It seems illogical to think that I can make an accurate prediction about how will they react to this, especially in the long term. No matter about that because I know the thoughts will stay there until the situation really (if it does) happens.
 
In my experience, people think much higher of a guy who's out than a guy they suspect of being gay but in the closet. They're possibly already talking about it when you're not there anyway.
 
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