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I chickened out

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So today I hung out with the guy who came out to me and I didn't like come back out to. I planned on coming out to him, but totally chickened out.

Maybe I'm just not ready.

I made an excuse for myself and it's that I don't want to awkwardly come out to him, I want a segue or something. If I did it via text I could do it, but in person is too hard right now.

Should I wait until I'm ready in person, or just go for it?
 
If he's already come out to you, I don't know what could be easier.

Stop being the coy bitch and grow a pair, I say...
 
Be a buddy and let him know he's not alone. We all need friends that understand us and you have one knocking at you door. Don't pass up this opportunity.
 
Just go for it!! You couldn't ask for a better situation.
 
Out yourself on Twitter and just get it over with all at once.
 
soreknees said:
Be a buddy and let him know he's not alone. We all need friends that understand us and you have one knocking at you door. Don't pass up this opportunity.
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It is quite possible he hoped you were gay too, and was looking for a real friend. Is he out to everyone, or did he confide in you. If he trusted you, can you not trust him? Or is it really a case of speaking it out-loud, forces you to admit it to yourself?

take care - do celebrate your life and who you are.

Rand
 
Coming out to someone who's already come out to you is one of the easiest coming out scenarios we have. That said, I know that in some cases it doesn't make it a slam-dunk to reciprocate and come out too.

I think it'd be great if your friend knew you were of like-minds on this and if the only way you feel comfortable doing this is via text, then the earth won't end if you do it that way. But, know that he's likely going to call you or somehow want to talk with you in person, so make sure you're comfortable having that conversation.

Back when I was pretty closeted, I had a high school buddy ask me if I was gay. I was shocked and alarmed and immediately denied it. How could he know? (in highsight...duh); How did he feel? Was he guessing or onto something? After I gave my customary protestations, he started literally crying--actually sobbing--and came out to me and said he'd hoped I was the same because he felt so alone.

Oh yikes, major awkward. So, I softened, backtracked and fessed up and we've had a special friendship ever since. Not romantic (we aren't each other's type and we're both involved with others anyway), but a special bond. I hope you can achieve that with your friend. Good luck to you, and let us know what you do and what happens.
 
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