I could use Some advice

[seandong]

A little background info first

I haven't done anything with guy before and im still a virgin so i dont know any thing about sex or four play with a guy.
Just recently ( a couple months ago) met this guy i met through a friend at a party. his name is Josh. He's so funny, cool, smart, outgoing, and super hot. Josh and I got each others phone numbers and have been texting every day since. He live A couple hours away so we havent got together since the party. Just recently I realized I was attracted to him. Josh likes me too.
Every now then we send each other dirty pics and talk dirty. We want to see each other when he gets back from vacation in a few weeks. We've talk about spending the weekend together. Im sure things are going to be "intimate".

What are some things I should expect and be ready for? Im really nervous.

Any advice helps. Please be nice im new to liking guys and forums.

 

[gingentleman]

Just be cool, and only do what you are comfortable with. Maybe give each other backrubs and see where that takes you. Sex is so much more than sucking or fucking or orgasm. Its all about intimacy...

 

[strosbuff88]

i'd be concerned first and foremost about your own protection and safety. i'm sure someone could educate me and advise you on what would be necessary to ensure your own health, so if available please do so.

other than "wrap it up" and what i already know of being cautious as far as fluids go i'd recommend not to consume anything he may have. was that pg enough? lol

might be a buzz-kill but perhaps maybe before getting intimate ask if he would be comfortable getting tested, checking against any stds or diseases that may plague someone.

what i'm directed towards is how you state you're a virgin. does your virginity mean anything to you? do you want to experience anything intimate with someone you know as only a friend or with someone who means a lot to you?

while i don't have this immense feeling of curiosity into sharing sexual companionship with another guy you need to ask yourself the importance of experiencing that.

love or lust? you decide!

 

[fetaby]

It sounds like you know how to flirt and reel one in well enough. You just need some practical advice and tips.

Kissing!!!!

A clean mouth is a kissable mouth. If you guys go out for dinner, make sure you have a toothpick in your pocket to help clean your mouth when you're done eating. Or maybe one of those disposable tooth brush mint things they have out now. And definitely a piece of chewing gum or mint candy for freshness, and bring a spare piece for him too.

When you go to kiss him, move slow. Literally... If the movement is too sudden you run the risk of bumping foreheads or noses or even worse a tooth on tooth collision. Busted bleeding lips are not sexy.

Speaking of lips, make sure yours are not chapped, use your chapstick for a few days to make sure they're soft.


When you kiss, don't just shove your tongue into his mouth. Let the lips come together, wait just a moment, part your teeth, and then let the tongues do their thing.

Nibble spots!!!!


1. The ear lobe
2. The space just under and behind the ear
3. The side of the neck
4. The area where the neck joins the chest
5. The nipples
6. The area above the front of the elbow, below the bicep
7. The inner thigh
8. The back of the knee

There's a lot more places of course, but you can find them on your own.

But above all. Unless you know your guy has a thing for it, wash your ass! All of it! Clean behind your ears, clean out your bellybutton, between your toes all of it!

 

[Croynan]

i would suggest you go over to the Health and Wellbing Forum and read up on some of the subjects that are posted at the top of the page.

by all means do date several times and don't feel you have to rush into anything.

take care.

eM/

 

[medic1]

It sounds like you know how to flirt and reel one in well enough. You just need some practical advice and tips.

Kissing!!!!

A clean mouth is a kissable mouth. If you guys go out for dinner, make sure you have a toothpick in your pocket to help clean your mouth when you're done eating. Or maybe one of those disposable tooth brush mint things they have out now. And definitely a piece of chewing gum or mint candy for freshness, and bring a spare piece for him too.

When you go to kiss him, move slow. Literally... If the movement is too sudden you run the risk of bumping foreheads or noses or even worse a tooth on tooth collision. Busted bleeding lips are not sexy.

Speaking of lips, make sure yours are not chapped, use your chapstick for a few days to make sure they're so


When you kiss, don't just shove your tongue into his mouth. Let the lips come together, wait just a moment, part your teeth, and then let the tongues do their thing.

Nibble spots!!!!


1. The ear lobe
2. The space just under and behind the ear
3. The side of the neck
4. The area where the neck joins the chest
5. The nipples
6. The area above the front of the elbow, below the bicep
7. The inner thigh
8. The back of the knee

There's a lot more places of course, but you can find them on your own.

But above all. Unless you know your guy has a thing for it, wash your ass! All of it! Clean behind your ears, clean out your bellybutton, between your toes all of it!

What great advice What i would say as well is to have condoms and plenty
of lube just in case . Though as another poster has said there is more to
intimacy than just sex. Take it at a pace that you feel comfortable with and it
will be perfectly normal to be nervous buddy as you have probably been running
all sorts of different scenarios through your mind.
Remember that you are in control and dont feel pressured into going higher than
the limit that you feel comfortable with,though from your thread he sounds like
a nice guy. Hope you both have a great time keep us all posted.

 

[Seasoned]

Talk and touch. Touch a spot and then kiss that spot. Ask him questions about his experience; tell him about yours.

Do read about sexual health and safety. If he is sexually active ask when he was lasted tested. Don't rough up your gum tissue.

Be playful and be honest with how you are feeling physically and emotionally. Smile and laugh. In essence, make it an adult play date.

 

[HunterM]

1. Take a warm shower together as foreplay
2. Be playful
3. Soap up each other to make sure you both are clean (in the crotch and ass area)
4. Inspect for open wounds. Don't have sex if there are open wounds in his body or yours.

If you guys passed inspections, hopefully you both will be really horny by now and continue sex in the bedroom.

Have fun man!

 

[rareboy]

When I was reading 'four play' it conjured up some interesting images.

As far as foreplay goes, you're getting some good tips.

And speaking of tips, give his lots of attention with your tongue. And no teeth.

 

[BlackMamba47]

Hello there Sean. Hopefully I can be of assistance and give some advice I've gathered during my rather short (but nonetheless) active time in my cities gay scene.

1. Don't stress out about things. This is something that has to come naturally. Any stress will likely cause problems physically, and those problems might extend elsewhere. Be cool, be chill, and let things flow

2. If you have reservations, let Josh take the lead. I'm not sure if he has more sexual experience, but if he does, he'll know what to do with someone inexperienced. Utilize his knowledge to your advantage.

3. Most importantly rule for the future. Under no circumstance should you take what happens in the bedroom (or couch, backseat, etc.) to mean that he wants to shack up with you and have babies. I made that mistake many times with some of the first guys I did anything with, and I scared them all off because I thought sex = "I want to be with you". For many guys, it doesn't. See it as a purely physical act, continue to talk to Josh, and hopefully something beautiful develops thereafter.

 

[seandong]

Wow guys, i cant thank you all enough for every bit of advice! Everyone one on JUB is so nice.


Josh is a good guy with good intentions. He knows that ive never done anything with a guy. He and I have talk about taking things slow and he is very understanding and wants me to enjoy every minute of it.