i don't like gay sex:

[CameronR098]

hello,

here is my problem:

i over think sex. whenever i think i about having sex, as a bottom, i freak out. have i waxed? have i eaten? have i cleaned out?

not to sound lazy, but this is so much work for just sex. i can't imagine getting into a relationship and every night, douching or worrying about it. i'm just wanting some perspective on this.

it is frustrating to be because i feel like i have a list of things i need to do hours before sex. is this just typical and i need to get over it?

 

[luckynumbah7]

hello,

here is my problem:

i over think sex. whenever i think i about having sex, as a bottom, i freak out. have i waxed? have i eaten? have i cleaned out?

not to sound lazy, but this is so much work for just sex. i can't imagine getting into a relationship and every night, douching or worrying about it. i'm just wanting some perspective on this.

it is frustrating to be because i feel like i have a list of things i need to do hours before sex. is this just typical and i need to get over it?

Anal is not a requirement for sex. There's oodles to do that don't involve anal. You don't have to wax if you don't want to. You don't need to enema yourself every night, either, I'm fairly certain that's not the healthiest way to go for your rectum. You should try to remember when (and what) you've eaten and when you last used the can but when you get to know your own body remembering when those things occurred and whether you should use the bathroom (always a good idea, ime) or avoid that burrito, these things get a lot easier, second nature so to speak. And straight people have to learn the same lessons, it isn't just gay men. Perhaps, since you're feeling overwhelmed, you should focus on activities besides anal until you feel more at ease with bodily functions.

 

[KaraBulut]

i over think sex. whenever i think i about having sex, as a bottom, i freak out. have i waxed? have i eaten? have i cleaned out?

Your issue isn't sex. Your issue is more about control issues and body-phobias. If it reaches a point where it will interfere with dating or a relationship, it is something that you should see a therapist to work on.

 

[BiMeGuy]

Listen, if you partner has a problem with something; they will tell you. Until they do, STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT.

 

[mbamike]

Hello Cameron,

You need to get over it. During the first phase of your relationship, you two will fuck like rabbits. Then as time progress, you will fall into a sexual routine. As a Bottom, fiber is your friend. I ingest Chia seeds with my protein drink for breakfast. They provide lots of omega-3 and fiber at the other end. Makes douching a breeze.

Also, your partner will understand and will be non-judgmental if dirty accidents do happen. It comes with the territory.

So, relax and enjoy your sex life.

 

[kallipolis]

Your issue isn't sex. Your issue is more about control issues and body-phobias. If it reaches a point where it will interfere with dating or a relationship, it is something that you should see a therapist to work on.

This....

 

[mcbrion]

Hello Cameron,

You need to get over it. During the first phase of your relationship, you two will fuck like rabbits. Then as time progress, you will fall into a sexual routine. As a Bottom, fiber is your friend. I ingest Chia seeds with my protein drink for breakfast. They provide lots of omega-3 and fiber at the other end. Makes douching a breeze.

Also, your partner will understand and will be non-judgmental if dirty accidents do happen. It comes with the territory.

So, relax and enjoy your sex life.

He is not going to 'get over it.' This appears to be a phobia, not an everyday concern.
One size (answer) does not fit all.

 

[Seasoned]

Hook ups or dating sex is different because of the increased intimacy and the ability to communicate one's concerns. You don't do this stuff alone in a healthy relationship.

 

[huskyrose]

I feel the same.

Whenever my boyfriend comes over, I need to take shower and shave, also douching. It takes lots of effort to do it sometimes.

Maybe I care too much about how I look in bed.

 

[crubbed]

I'm on the same page as the original poster.

I don't have a boyfriend, but the only prospect of making him happy sex-wise bores me. With my sex urges, I just watch a porn clip and be done with it within 10 minutes.

And don't get me started with random hookups. 99% of them are not worth remembering. They always follow the same pattern. You two meet. You suck his dick. He won't even kiss you or care about you. Then he comes. He reluctantly waits for you to come. Then he gets clean super fast, because God forbid he leaves sperm on his body for more than 30 seconds. He gets dressed. And you're back to zero.

Watching a porn flick or paying an escort is much more satisfying and STD-free.

 

[Narvin]

I'm on the same page as the original poster.

I don't have a boyfriend, but the only prospect of making him happy sex-wise bores me. With my sex urges, I just watch a porn clip and be done with it within 10 minutes.

And don't get me started with random hookups. 99% of them are not worth remembering. They always follow the same pattern. You two meet. You suck his dick. He won't even kiss you or care about you. Then he comes. He reluctantly waits for you to come. Then he gets clean super fast, because God forbid he leaves sperm on his body for more than 30 seconds. He gets dressed. And you're back to zero.

Watching a porn flick or paying an escort is much more satisfying and STD-free.

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