"I don't want to fall in love with you because I know you will break my heart."

[fantod217]

Someone said this to me and it really hurts me. Makes me feel like I'm a bad person and I am incapable of being loved.
What would you take from that if someone said this to you?

 

[Willie Boy]

That would depend.....

If it was someone I loved I would say, "Thank you for breaking my heart in an attempt to avoid your alleged heartbreak". Then I would walk away.

 

[bankside]

Are you out yet? I'd say that too to someone who might eventually choose to ditch me instead of dealing with coming out. I've seen it happen, and it would have stopped any relationship from getting off the ground if I even thought it might happen to me too.

And, I'm not saying you would do that, but if someone worries that you could do it, it makes a difference.

 

[TX-Beau]

I'd take from the that, that the guy was a serious drama queen.

Dodged a bullet.

Unless there were some pretty serious mitigating circumstances.

I'd also suspect he was blowing me off because he just wasn't that into me.

Without more context, it's kinda hard to read.

 

[dash17]

I dunno, I read it as a compliment!

I'd be floored if someone said that to me... I think it's rather beautiful. But then I'm quite romantic, lol.

Perhaps they weren't in the right place/time to begin something with you, but they wanted to...

 

[recuerdeme]

Someone said this to me and it really hurts me. Makes me feel like I'm a bad person and I am incapable of being loved.
What would you take from that if someone said this to you?

You are not someone that should be trusted.
Be it your partying ways.
Your attentiveness.
Your history that you've told to this point.
Who knows but something about your person makes the other guy cautious.

I've uttered those same words to my first boyfriend because of his partying ways and his history. I wasn't mistaken.

 

[AlmondMilk]

I would be heart broken too. It would take awhile for me to accept that rejection. After I've had time to think it over, if I'm ready, I'll try to go out and meet other guys.

 

[Willie Boy]

You are not someone that should be trusted.
Be it your partying ways.
Your attentiveness.
Your history that you've told to this point.
Who knows but something about your person makes the other guy cautious.

I've uttered those same words to my first boyfriend because of his partying ways and his history. I wasn't mistaken.

That assumes there is a valid reason for the words to be said. In most cases they are said because the speaker has been hurt in the past and is judging based solely on that previous occasion, not on current circumstances with the current individual.

 

[Chardius]

I would feel like that guy is a manipulative jackass and shouldn't be trusted to look out for anyone but himself.

Now you can not want to take a risk on a relationship and thats fine. BUT to say that to that persons face? They're playing some kind of weird game that you don't want to be part of. Put me in the dodged a bullet camp. I can imagine its hurtful to hear but you're probably better off.

 

[Echoes]

it depends but mostly I'd say how do you know? don't take things for granted, life is too short.

 

[texan_slant]

It depends on the context from which that was said, however, whatever the case might be, if that is the transpiring thought or feeling here, then you prob shouldn't waste your time and energy on each other.

 

[rareboy]

It would tell me that the guy either read you like a book, or that more likely, he was just being a dick about not wanting to get involved in a relationship and so he just shifted the load back onto you.

No matter what, you're way better off without a passive aggressive asshat like him in your life.