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I dunno what to do.

Kester

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I think I'm gonna break up with this guy I've been seeing.

He thinks the world of me and I'm probably gonna break up with him. And I know that it is gonna break his heart.

Before I went away on holiday he was pretty upset cos I was leaving and he said to me that he sometimes thinks that maybe I don't care about him as much as he cares about me.

And maybe he was right. I dunno. He should be with someone who feels the same way, and i don't think that person is me.

I dunno what to do.
 
It's a hard thing to do, but the way you are describing your situation it's the right thing to do. While it is noble that you consider staying with him because you don't want to break his heart, it wouldn't help you at all.
You were just on holiday - did you miss him during that time? Were you happy to see him when you are back?
 
I didn't really miss anyone when I was away, my friends or him.

I spoke to him online and stuff and I'd think about him then, but otherwise... I should have missed him, but I didn't, not really. Not as much as I know he missed me.
 
I never even felt like this until he said what he said the night before I left. And since coming home I just feel like someones painted the world in different colors and I don't know what I'm doing, and its pissing me off.
 
Be honest with him. Explain how you feel. Let him know that you do care about him and would still like to remain friends, but that you no longer feel as seriously towards him as he does towards you. To continue the relationship as it is, is not being fair on either of you.

Easier said than done, I know.
 
How do I explain to him how I feel when I don't even know how I feel.

If I knew exactly how I felt, I wouldn't have a problem because I'd be able to make a decision and know that I made the right one.

Thanks for reading though, I really appreciate it.
 
In the back of my mind I think I have made a decision, but I still don't know.

And what if I do tell him and then realised that I made a mistake. He isn't going to want to take me back and why would he.

Thats what I'm afraid of. I could have a really good thing going here and not even realise it. And now I'm just gonna go and fuck it all up.
 
What if...?

  • What if you ended this relationship because you are uncertain about how you feel and you are uncertain about dating someone who has feelings for you? The guy gets hurt and you end up alone and still confused.
  • What if you continued dating someone who sounds like a nice guy and sounds like he genuinely cares about you? Neither of you ends up alone but you have to deal with whatever issue is making it so hard for you to accept the love of another person.

In one scenario, someone gets hurt. In the other scenario, no one gets hurt but you have work to do on dealing with your issues.


The real problem here is the lack of communication between the two of you. If there is a relationship here and there is trust, you can be honest with him about what you're feeling.

That doesn't necessarily mean saying, "I don't care about you like you care about me".

It does mean opening up about your feelings and trusting him enough to say, "I'm going through a period of depression and it's really hard for me to know that I'm feeling right now. I don't want to hurt you but I just want you to understand what's going on with me and why I'm having a hard time right now".
 
I think I'm gonna go to the doctors today see if he can change the medication I'm on... maybe that'll help.
 
He just sent me this text message telling me that he's always here for me and how I mean the world to him.

I'm going to destroy him. I just know it.
 
Kester said:
I'm going to destroy him. I just know it.
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Nah, in the end you will destroy your own happiness if you don't deal with your issues.
 
Kester said:
He just sent me this text message telling me that he's always here for me and how I mean the world to him.

I'm going to destroy him. I just know it.
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actually,you won't destroy him
everybody's got a broken heart once,if you really liked him you wouldn't have a doubt,it looks like you're only trying to find an excuse to break up with him without feeling bad for it.

he will hurt,yes..but later he will thank you for being honest,and if he is a nice guy like you say,that's the least you owe him.be sincere both to him and yourself.
 
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