i feel like im falling...

[FangBanger09]

...into a bottomless pit. i know that sounds cliche and dramatic but its the only way to describe it right now. im tired of having to dump my problems on this site and im sure yall are tired of reading about them but nobody is awake to talk to. it's 3:58 and i just got a text from Dean, the first guy i kissed. this first kiss was less than 2 months ago and i know i havent known him long but needless to say, i developed a little crush on him and he had no feelings for me. he said it was because i was too young and inexperienced. it hurt but i soon got over it. now, we're still friends and we even talk about guys we're dating and stuff. this hasn't been a problem until this past week. he tells me he met 2 guys, one back at home and one at decadance. the one he met at home is only 19 and "doesn't have that much experience" yet he told me he liked him. i couldnt stand the hipocracy when he told me that but i just wrote it off, figuring nothing would come from it. because he also met a guy at decadence who is 2 years older than him, 28 to his 26. i felt better about that because i was sure he was better for him than me. but now i cant sleep when i have to wake up in 5 hours because i just got a text from him telling me that hes hopping a plane to see this guy and he might stay for good. he's been in 2 ltr, one with a girl and one with a guy, in which he was almost engaged both times so it's not a surprise to me that he might settle down someday but he just met this guy less than a week ago and he's talking about living with him. im sorry to sound selfish or whatever but i just dont see how i can be happy for him right now. hes goin after these guys on conditions in which he said he didnt like about me... he was also diagnosed with bipolar disorder last year which pretty much put his life at a halt; thats what broke up ltr #2, he had to drop out of school and he decided to take a year off from life pretty much. i dont see how good it is for him to just be jumping back in there with no net of any kind.
im pretty worked up right now, so if ur gonna reply with a comment that you think might start an argument, dont.

 

[hotatlboi]

uh, I think you need to stop thinking about him and his life and start living yours.

He was the first guy you kissed. ok it didn't work out. There will be plenty more guys.

 

[FangBanger09]

i have been living my life and there's been a few other guys since him. its just that as a friend, i think he should take things slow with this guy and the fact that he's jumping in like this kinda worries me...

 

[KaraBulut]

General guidelines for life:

• Surround yourself with friends who are the kind of person that you want to be.
• Live your own life and let your friends live theirs.
• Sometimes pain is a great teacher. But only if you learn and don't do the same stupid things over and over and over again.
• Don't waste your life wanting things and people that you cannot have or who do not want you.

 

[rareboy]

^ To the above, I would add:

Turn off your teletext machine at 8 pm and never let it interfere with sleep.

Be happy for the guys that are finding someone to fall in love with.

Re-read:

i just got a text from Dean, the first guy i kissed. this first kiss was less than 2 months ago and i know i havent known him long but needless to say, i developed a little crush on him and he had no feelings for me.

 

[Lube]

Don't let his bipolarism screw up your life.

As you've surmised, he's jumping in waaaaaaaaay too quickly to that relationship. After the high, he's going to crash.

You're still crushing on him. Move on. He's not good for you (or anybody, at this point).

Good luck.

 

[FangBanger09]

sorry, i over-reacted. it WAS 3am when he texted me so i guess he just caught me in a cranky mood. im not as upset as i made it seem. although, i still think he'll get hurt... if he doesn't then ill be happy for him but if he does, ill be there for him.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>he's been in 2 ltr, one with a girl and one with a guy, in which he was almost engaged both times so it's not a surprise to me that he might settle down someday...

Until they break up, at which point he'll find somebody else, and settle down with him/her, until they break up, at which point he'll find somebody else... This guy sounds like he's more in love with being in an LTR than he is with the people he's been in these "LTRs" with.

>>>if he doesn't then ill be happy for him but if he does, ill be there for him.

Please don't "be there for him".

In movies and books, the good-dog lover who remains friendly and faithful always gets rewarded at the end. The dashing lover realizes the error of his ways, scoops up the dutiful friend, and vows that now he understands, that he's found what true love is, and they'll live happily ever after.

But this is reality. Much of the time, the dashing lover never bothers to come back. And almost all other times, the dashing lover isn't worth remaining loyal to.

If you're still mooning over him, stop. Cut contact, block his number, defriend him from facebook. And go find yourself a guy who actually DOES want to be your boyfriend. Not eventually, not "if this one doesn't work out", but NOW.

Lex

 

[CudDULL]

General guidelines for life:

• Surround yourself with friends who are the kind of person that you want to be.
• Live your own life and let your friends live theirs.
• Sometimes pain is a great teacher. But only if you learn and don't do the same stupid things over and over and over again.
• Don't waste your life wanting things and people that you cannot have or who do not want you.

wow so motivational and good way to put in perspective.

 

[FangBanger09]

emergency use... anyone else, i tell them to call me in the mornin

 

[rareboy]

Welcome Fangbanger09.

What a clever name.

Well that sounds so sensible to tell people to only call you in the middle of the night.

You sound like a very mature and sensible young man.

I guess this was just one of those emergencies.

We're all glad that you shared this story with us. We all have learned something from it by seeing how you dealt with it.

 

[FangBanger09]

yea... i didnt understand what you just said.
but to clarify, i keep my phone on at night in case anyone calls or txts with an emergency... if its not an emergency, i dont reply till the morning. in has case though, i couldnt believe what he was telling me so i ended up waking up anyway.