I Gave oral sex to a guy without a condom

[mexicano]

so the other day i went to my friend's house and gave him some head, but i didn't use a condom, and i had just brushed my teeth, he didn't cum in my mouth but he said that he had pre-cum, what do you think are the odds i got HIV, and i don't know if he has AIDS

 

[luminum]

Okay, some things first:

You will know if your friend has AIDS. AIDS is where the immune system is in danger. You'll probably know.

Being HIV+ is what you may not know, since being HIV+ has few symptoms and hasn't caused the immune system to deteriorate too badly yet.

Now, as for your actual problem...

HIV can be transfered from pre-cum or semen through the membranes in the gums, usually if the stuff lingers in the mouth (i.e. you didn't swallow or spit, you just let it sit there).

That's why you shouldn't brush your teeth directly before or after because brushing creates cuts inthe gums, allowing for a more direct trasnfer. Since you mentioned this, it seems like you know about it.

That being said, if he was HIV+ and he didn't cum in your mouth, your chances of getting HIV probably weren't too high (though there's always a risk).

I would say that you should go to a clinic and tell them what happened. If it happened 'the other day' it might not be detectable for at least three months. But it's good to go there anyway and see what they tell recommend you should do.

Now, do you have any reason to believe your 'friend' is HIV+?

From what you've said I think your risk is low, assuming that this guy isn't incredibly promiscuous (though it only takes once) and someone you didn't know very well.

But, I still think it's a good habit to get routinely tested if you're sexually active and since you don't know, it's important to go to a clinic and find out.

 

[mexicano]

he has been with 7 guys and he is 20

 

[luminum]

Does he usually practice safe sex? Were these 7 guys just hook ups or relationships? How well do you know him?

But these questions are just to ge an idea.

No one will be able to tell you if you possibly caught HIV or if you didn't. The onyl one who can tell you is a worker ata clinic after you've been tested,

 

[mexicano]

he knew all of them, and i know him well, and he says he always practices safe sex

 

[puka-pride]

the risk is far lower than anal sex... I wouldn't worry too much as long as ur not blowing strangers

 

[HartfordGuy]

Don't sweat it. I think it is over reacting to run out and get tested. It would be unrealistic to run out and get tested after every guy anyone ever gave a BJ too.

As stated above, the risk is small in oral sex. So unless your gums were bleeding and he was HIV+, I wouldn't worry about it.

But never assume just because a guy "looks ok" that he isn't HIV+. There are NO visable symptoms! The only sign of infection is right away when your body reacts to it and you get a bad flu like illness with lingering fever.

After that a person usually can go 5 or 6 years before their immune system drops enough to require taking Anti-viral meds.

And just because you "know" someone doesn't mean you should trust them for being 100% safe 100% of the time. That is where most guys screw up. They may forget the condoms and because they think their buddy isn't promiscuous they go ahead and bareback "just this one time". Not realizing he may have also made that same mistake with a different "close buddy" in the past. He got it from him, doesn't know he's HIV+ now, then you come along and make the same mistake. That's how this gets spread.

 

[lonestar]

If he didn't come in your mouth, you probably don't get AIDS. If he has AIDS, the amount of viruses in precum is so low, that the risk is alsmost zero. So, don't panik

 

[BenF]

You're far more likely to get one of the many over STDs other than HIV.

 

[Homoerectus]

Your friend says he "always practices safe sex". Are you certain he does, because he DIDN'T practice safe sex with you!

 

[3nipples]

so the other day i went to my friend's house and gave him some head, but i didn't use a condom, and i had just brushed my teeth, he didn't cum in my mouth but he said that he had pre-cum, what do you think are the odds i got HIV, and i don't know if he has AIDS

As long as he didn't cum in my mouth, I wouldn't give it a second thought.

 

[mexicano]

thanks guys

 

[D-Base]

You should not sweat that much, as someone said chances that you got something from a BJ are slim. But if this is playing with your head you can always go and get tested. HIV tests are free... at least here.

BTW, I have never seen someone giving a BJ to a condom, 99% of guys do it the way you did.

 

[mexicano]

so the chances are slim

 

[luminum]

They are slim, but they're still odds.

We're telling you they're slim so you won't freak out. But don't dismiss it. Learn from it and always keep it in mind.

 

[blondish]

you definitely shouldn't have brushed your teeth tho, luminum is right. just use mouthwash.

 

[RicanDAB]

You will know if your friend has AIDS. AIDS is where the immune system is in danger. You'll probably know.

I do not believe this is an accurate statement. Someone can have AIDS and still look as healthy as a horse. My ex-roommate is a prime example. When I first met him and became aware of his condition, he told me that his T-cell count was low enough to clinically classify him with full-blown AIDS. That was 10 years ago and I am happy to say that he has continued to be healthy and has never been hospitalized (for an AIDS-related condition that is). Then again, he is on top of his medication and visits the doctor regularly (and for that matter, still leads an active sex life with guys who know he is HIV+).

I suppose there is a misconception that if one has AIDS they are on their deathbed - NOT TRUE. With the advent of new drugs on the market, people with HIV can now achieve undetectable loads of the virus and still lead near-normal lives. However, I am not (thankfully) personally knowledgable in how this would translate into whether or not you develop or have developed full-blown AIDS. But my point is that you can still look healthy and have AIDS - you would just be at an early stage of the disease.

We as gay and bisexual men (and "straight" men who man-play) have a responsibilty to be tested regularly for HIV and other STDs so that we can take care of ourselves and act accordingly to protect ourselves and do our part to control the spread of sexually transmitted disease. If one is grown up enough to engage in sex, they should be grown up enough to understand the risks and take responsibility that comes along with it.

I am like most guys here and hate to blow a condom'ed cock. However, I do what I can to minimize the risk by actively knowing what risky behavior is and by knowing my partners VERY WELL before I start to relax my safety concerns. Mexicano, I agree that your activity might have been low-risk for contracting HIV but if you are engaging in more than just oral with men, even with condoms, you should still be tested regularly (by that I mean at least every 6 months). It's an unfortunate reality that we as gay men (or sexual beings in general) have to deal with.

Sorry for having jumped on the on this topic, but I hope it helped to raise awareness that AIDS is still a serious epidemic.