I hate being single

[Telstra]

Whoever said that the single life is great is a liar. Yeah, you do have freedom and can come and go as you please,but I just find it to be lonely. All of my friends I hang with are in relationships and I feel like I am a burden when I tag along without a date. And when i do go to clubs, the only guys that approach me are the one night stands. It's just so frustrating. It seems like guys my age are not looking for anything long term. That's why I stopped going to clubs altogether. Now, I'm bored out of my mind, no one to talk to, and still single. Like I'm trying to be patient but I want to have someone special in my life too. Being young and single living in a big city is absolute misery for me.

"Whoever said that the single life is great is a liar." True

"Being young and single living in a big city is absolute misery for me" Not True for some.

 

[looseliam]

I've been single and in the same big city, and had a blast.

It's a matter of perspective.

But sitting around thinking about it, is the worst thing you can do.

 

[WYSIWYG]

Dude you need to get out and explore the possibilities! Trust me your guy is out the, but your not going to find him sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself!

Howe did all your friends find a bf and get into a relationship? Have you asked them?

I am like you, being single was not cool, I am much happier in a relationship! Oh, and just because your in a relationship does not mean you can't do your own thing from time time time. Each relationship is different, as you know!

So dude get OUT and EXPLORE!

 

[panda29]

I was single for 50 years and it sucked!!1 I have had a partner for 3 1/2 years now,It has been the best years of my life so far I would not change a thing.

 

[inboxdotcom]

Being single can be a drag sometimes but if you really don't like it then try to open up your possibilities. Go places you wouldn't normally do. Take some chances and maybe ask someone out more often. If it doesn't work then there'll be someone else.

I just got out of a relationship and I feel it's refreshing.
But we weren't exactly working out...

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>. It seems like guys my age are not looking for anything long term. That's why I stopped going to clubs altogether.

Well, if you're looking for something long term, you need to stop going to places where people aren't looking for that. No matter how many times you go back to Pizza Hut, you're still unlikely to find a burger there.

Dude, you're in CHICAGO. There's millions of people out there. Do a Google search for gay clubs (as in activity clubs, not dance clubs) and organizations in town. Join a gay biking club, or a gay volleyball league, or a gay choir, or a gay volunteer group. Gays don't go door-to-door looking for friends and would-be partners. They're out there. Go find them.

Lex

 

[Telstra]

>>>. It seems like guys my age are not looking for anything long term. That's why I stopped going to clubs altogether.

Well, if you're looking for something long term, you need to stop going to places where people aren't looking for that. No matter how many times you go back to Pizza Hut, you're still unlikely to find a burger there.

Dude, you're in CHICAGO. There's millions of people out there. Do a Google search for gay clubs (as in activity clubs, not dance clubs) and organizations in town. Join a gay biking club, or a gay volleyball league, or a gay choir, or a gay volunteer group. Gays don't go door-to-door looking for friends and would-be partners. They're out there. Go find them.

Lex

very good advice.

 

[123kid]

I love being single, and wouldn't have it any other way

 

[texan_slant]

I've always been single and have loved it. It gives you a self-confidence other perpetual non-singles might not have. At my age (40), I would definitely welcome love and hope that it happens at some point.

Clubs are not always the best place to meet people who necessarily want the same as you. Sometimes it's also good to let relationships occur naturally rather than trying to "find it too much. For example, I'd be happy with just letting it happen when it happens, but at the same time, putting myself out there when meeting people, being open, etc.

"They" say that before you can share your life with anyone, you gotta be comfortable with being single also. The underlying theme to this is that you have to know what you want, be comfortable in your own skin, know and have your own likes/dislikes, and as a result, you end up being happy "from within" - first and foremost.

Being single shouldn't have to mean being "lonely" - those two characteristics should be mutually exclusive.

 

[954dude]

It's all in perception. Everyone needs love and affection, so one should date whenever possible. But being single also means time to focus energy on themselves. It's a liberating feeling with no commitment or attachment.

 

[liam88]

Well you should really treasure your "single status" before you get all smitten and besotted I guess.. A serious relationship is very beautiful indeed. But the more serious a relationship is, the more heartaches, worries, and pain it entails. So yeah.. enjoy this freedom for now I guess.. and when "it" comes.. there's no turning back! LOL..