I hate playing games

[arc248]

Hey guys, I just wanted to say this somewhere. It's a long story, but I promise that there would no spelling errors or major grammar problems.

Anyway, I met this boy, who's 18 years old, and ridiculously cute, down to a point where even his eyebrows and eyelashes were perfectly shaped. Now, I (21 years old) usually don't like young boys, but he makes me want to take care of him. Arghhhh, he is just sooooooooo adorable. A lot of female customers and gay men coming to the store like to talk to him (see, cute people just have this unfair advantage). He is definitely "too cute to be straight", and I'm 99% sure that he is gay.

We work together, and we'd had some casual talks here and there. He seemed to enjoy talking to me as in he would always start a conversation with random topics. For example, he would drop by my section and look around and say random things, which he doesn't do to others. When I drop by his section, he would make jokes and say silly things. Then, however, when we happened to have breaks together, he stays away from me and sit with other people. On other days, he gets really happy when I say "hi" and seems upset when I don't. He would always watch me as I help another customer in the store. He also made me a CD, but I didn't ask him for it for a few days, so he got upset and brought it back home. When I asked him to bring it back, he said, "Oh, I forgot" and sounded upset. I think that was one of the days when I didn't say "hi". Then, there are some days when I tried to start a friendly conversation, it just ended nowhere. When I posted a nice comment on his myspace page, he rejected it. It almost seem as if he's upset with me and avoided me. (By the way, I made my sexual orientation very obvious on my myspace page.)

Are all those just my wishful thinkings? Or is him playing hard-to-get?

Arghhh, I just hate all these mind-games. I can't stand young kids!!!

I decided to move on and just get him out of my mind, starting with this post.

Thanks for reading guys.

 

[luminum]

I dunno, moody guys are exhausting and annoying. Don't go to him, let him come to you. Be personable and friendly, and if he wants you, he'll come to you. If he doesn't, he either isn't interested anymore, just likes to play games, or was the type of guy who needed lots of attention and probably wouldn't be fun to date or be in a realtionship with anyway.

 

[Soilwork]

Dude, he's 3 years younger than you. I have finger nails I trim less often.

But if he's not into you, then he's not into you.

Maybe you had a chance and blew it some how.

Maybe he needs some time.

Maybe he's straight and freaked when he thought that you were into him

(don't shit where you eat, by the way)

Why not just corner him and ask hiim what's up?

 

[rareboy]

It is just so High School and aren't you beyond that??? Grow up. Say hi to him and everyone else for that matter. You don't have to ignore him or play stupid little games at work. It will affect your job and eventually both of you are likely to get canned as other employees and customers get tired of watching this play out.

I can absolutely guarantee that you don't want this baby in your bed. His immaturity and passive-aggressive games will mess you up big time by the time he's finished with you. So what if he's cute? Is he smart? or funny? or kind?

 

[VICTORIADON]

YOU sound just too adorable. Ever thought of leaving NYC and moving to Canada? We appreciate guys just like you.

 

[backpacker]

I think you made the best decision, just move on. He could be intentionally playing games, immature and/or dealing with sexual identity issues. No matter what the case, it will only lead to heartache if you continue to pursue him.

 

[hermanding]

you decided to move on and forget him, starting with this post.
don't look back, dude. keep moving on with this one.
ding

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Lead by good example.

Decide, what your attitude towards this guy really is. You are either friendly and all to him or you are not.

If you choose to acknowledge him and say 'hi' to him every morning, do that every morning or drop it completely.

If you don't want him to play games with you, show him that you are perfectly willing to adopt a mature attitude and that you are expecting the same from him.

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Do your thing and stick with your guns. The dude is 19 years old. He is cute. Most people are after his ass. He knows that. He is young but not necessarily stupid. So, he is selling off his attention to the highest bidder. At the moment the currency is an ego boost. Tomorrow, who knows?

My topline: adorable dudes are usually good for adoring. You are doing that anyway. How about hitting on someone with a bit of more substance?

SC

 

[RicanDAB]

Arc,

You've done the right thing by moving on .. and keep moving on. You really don't want to waste your time with anyone who is wasting yours. You'll see as you get older that your tolerance for these games get less and less!

 

[arc248]

Thanks guys for the advices and support. (I know, this is so high-school cerca 1999)

I guess that I'll just have to accept that fact that he is only an eye-candy and nothing else. I tried to talk to him before, but the conversation is so "juvenile", and I know that down the road I can't communicate with him. Sometimes I do feel that he is so full of himself, such as when he said that he want to be a DKNY model. I felt that I had to piss him off and beat his ego, and said, "Yeah, for DKNY kids, maybe." (By the way, he is really short, which only makes him more adorable. Arghh )

Hmmm, but looking and appreciating such a fine creature is okay, right?

 

[RicanDAB]

... such as when he said that he want to be a DKNY model. I felt that I had to piss him off and beat his ego, and said, "Yeah, for DKNY kids, maybe."

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[VICTORIADON]

Hmmm, but looking and appreciating such a fine creature is okay, right?

YES, OF COURSE! Almost everyone likes puppys too, but not everyone wants to spend time picking up behind them and training them.