I hate this!

[yeeeaaahhh]

I hate being bisexual.
I hate that I like other guys.
I hate that I like gay porn.
I hate it all.
I want to be straight.
I want to get married to a woman and have kids and have a happy non-controversial average life!
FUCK!

Everyone hates gay people. Even the other gay people.
I just posted a thread because I was confused and concerned and I just got yelled at.
I don't want to be a part of this anymore.

What do you have to say to that you fucking bastards!
Are you going to yell at me for hating myself now?

 

[Vacabbie]

I am just sorry you hate yourself because you want to be like everyone else. And not everyone hates gay people. Times are changing and attitudes are changing.

Your profile doesnt show your age. But think back in your life much how much has changed(even in the last ten years). Gay people do have a voice....we just dont have leadership and a figurehead to stand up and give us want we deserve.

I do hope everything works out for you.

 

[bzeus69]

I am just sorry you hate yourself because you want to be like everyone else. And not everyone hates gay people. Times are changing and attitudes are changing.

Your profile doesnt show your age. But think back in your life much how much has changed(even in the last ten years). Gay people do have a voice....we just dont have leadership and a figurehead to stand up and give us want we deserve.

I do hope everything works out for you.

Hes 19, and very bi-polar (acting) on these forums. (Look through his thread posts. All over the place.)

Looks for help, then bashes anyone who responds regardless of what they say.
As far as I can tell, hes the only person I have ever met who has such a hatred for gay people, and yet is one. (Online and in real-life.)

Good luck getting through to him.

 

[yeeeaaahhh]

Hes 19, and very bi-polar (acting) on these forums. (Look through his thread posts. All over the place.)

Looks for help, then bashes anyone who responds regardless of what they say.
As far as I can tell, hes the only person I have ever met who has such a hatred for gay people, and yet is one. (Online and in real-life.)

Good luck getting through to him.

Why don't you just go away? You are kind of an asshole, FYI.
I am not bi-polar. And I don't take "emo pills" (as you said in the other tread).
Yeah, I am kind of more emotional than your average guy, but who cares. That is just who I am. Get off my back.
And I don't hate gay people. I jsut have a different opinion on them. I like gay people.
I don't understand why people like you go around and comment on peoples threads when you know they don't like you. Which I don't.
And I'd appriciate it if you would just keep your nose out of my threads because you clearly have nothing valuable to contribute.

 

[rareboy]

Well, the simplest way not to be part of this is to leave.

You are obviously a conflicted and deeply disturbed young man in need of professional counselling. Your problems go way beyond a confused sense of sexual identity. Please try to find a good therapist to help you come to terms with the fact that you are gay and to help you live a full and satisfying life.

I suspect that calling people 'fucking bastards' is likely going to get you banned, so the entire point may be moot anyway.

 

[NickCole]

I hate being bisexual.
I hate that I like other guys.
I hate that I like gay porn.
I hate it all.
I want to be straight.
I want to get married to a woman and have kids and have a happy non-controversial average life!
FUCK!

Sometimes we don't get what we want. That's life.

Part of growing up and maturing is learning how to accept that. There are times we accept it with more dignity than other times, but ultimately accepting it is all we can do.

Everyone hates gay people. Even the other gay people.

That's not true. A lot of people don't hate gay people.

Be conscious about choosing who you let into your life.

I just posted a thread because I was confused and concerned and I just got yelled at.
I don't want to be a part of this anymore.

It's troubling that 20-somethings today can't take being "yelled at."

Confrontation, disagreement, criticism can be useful in helping us see our mistakes and weaknesses.

Somebody seems to have taught an entire generation that being "yelled at" means that person hates you. Sometimes it's abuse, sure; but sometimes it means they care enough to tell you a harsh truth.

If someone confronts you, don't refuse to play, don't take your bat and go home; listen first and see where it's coming from. The most valuable people in your life will be the people you learn from, not the people who flatter you over superficial nonsense.

What do you have to say to that you fucking bastards!
Are you going to yell at me for hating myself now?

Hating yourself is much more destructive than anything anybody else could ever do to you.

And that's something you control.

 

[eastietop]

I am so happy I'm gay.
It's not easy sometimes but I'm out at work and have a great friends both gay, straight and inbetween.
Life's what you make it.

 

[diane06]

What ever you do, please don't marry a woman you don't love, don't desire more than men and screw up her life!
You should perhaps seek some counseling and come to terms with who you really are so that you can be happy.
I don't think that gays should have to move away to be happy and be themselves but I do know some that did just that.
good luck

 

[tze100]

I just posted a thread because I was confused and concerned

If you are confused and emotional, you might not be interpreting other posts and responding to them in the way that you would if you were feeling a bit calmer. We all have those moments, but if they are seriously getting you down you're not going to be able to live your life to its fullest, and you may hurt a fair few of your friends and the people you love along the way.

Getting professional therapy is a good idea and it doesn't only benefit those who are depressed or angry. It's the best way to resolve those issues you are confused and concerned about. However, what you get out of whatever help and advice you seek is totally dependent on what you are willing to take on board. It is extremely easy to remain angry and self-destructive, and if you don't really want to change this state of mind yourself, nobody is going to do it for you.

 

[Stoopid]

If you want to get married to a woman and have kids and have a happy non-controversial average life, then do it. Being bisexual doesn't stop you from doing that, assuming that you really are attracted to women.

 

[WYSIWYG]

1. Being bi does not mean you can not get married and have children. (By the way marriage is only a convenience of the government and not to you.)

2. Denying who or 'what' you are will only bring you more pain than you think your experiencing now!

Been there done that! I denied who I was for most of my life and I was a very very unhappy person, until I changed my life, and found the most wonderful human being to love me and me to love him! I was married and it was the most unhappy 'existence', I have to tell you.

3. Using derogatory nouns to call people names will get you nowhere.

4. You were born the way you are and you need to accept that and love yourself.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>What do you have to say to that you fucking bastards! Are you going to yell at me for hating myself now?

No.

And won't THAT piss you off.

Lex

 

[confusedboy23]

It will take time for you to accept who you are, and I think you're right, being bisexual can be a lot harder than being gay or straight. There's nothing we can do to change who we are, but we can play our part in making our lives just a little better.

 

[backpacker]

You are obviously struggling with some issues. I would suggest that you seek some counseling to help you deal with these issues.

 

[latinoguy19]

Well I love being bi. I love being able to appreciate the male and female body....

 

[yeeeaaahhh]

A lot of you guys have said that being bi means that I can marry a woman and such. But that is where a big fear of mine comes in. Sure I am bisexual, and I like both men and women, but I feel like that means that essentially I can't have either. If I get married to a woman, what happens when I have feelings to mess around with other guys. And if I am with a guy, what happens when I want to suddenly be with a woman. I couldn’t hurt people like that. Telling them that I loved them and then leaving them because I "just didn't feel it anymore". I have thought about what if I fall in love with someone, and I do really want it to happen, but I am a bit terrified of the concept at this point. Just because... yeah.

And as for seeking professional help. I have been to counseling this past year at school. My counselor was great. I didn't go to him because of problems with my sexuality, but we eventually discussed that anyway. He is a big reason why I was able to being accepting who I was and what not. But then just these past couple days I haven't been so happy about it. It's hard to be completely okay with myself. I think a large part of it has to do with the fact that I am going to tell my parents today. And I am terrified. And I really wish I didn't have to do it. I can't help but wish that I was just another heterosexual guy who didn't have to have conversations with their friends and family about his sexuality. I envy them. So yeah, that's what I'm dealing with right now. My guess is that it probably has something to do with all of this.

Finally, I'd like to apologize for freaking out. I still don't like whoever you are who thinks that I am bi-polar. You just don't say that to people. Learn some tact my friend. But to anyone else who I agitated last night, I do apologize. It was not my intension.

 

[G-Lexington]

Two quotes without comment.

"I don't want to be a part of this anymore. What do you have to say to that you fucking bastards!"

"You just don't say that to people. Learn some tact my friend."

Lex

 

[MetaKnight]

Well u know it sucks to live a controversial life. But I mean, everyone has their own problems. So yeah, You'll have to learn how to deal with it instead of just hating urself for it. Seriosuly, if u feel everyone else hates u then why hate urself as well? Nah ah.

And I'm sorry, but if ur commited to somebody man or woman, you stick to that person. Thats it. Having feelings to mess around with other people? Everyone goes thru that and their sexuality is no excuse to make cheatin acceptable.

 

[luminum]

Just keep strong. We all know life is hard, and at some point in time, everyone has to confront something controversial in their lives that makes it hard, whether it be because they're dating someone who's another ethnicity, their wife can't get pregnant, they're the victim of an abusive family member or partner, they're a liberal, they're bi or gay, or they're lower on the economic ladder. It's up to us to put on a brave face even if we're scared and recognize what we are and love ourselves despite what others think and confront our issues. These things are not our problems, they are other people's problem and we have to believe that we deserve to exist and express ourselves and our love. We have to believe that we deserve better.

Luckily, we're not alone. Other people recognize that we're not hurting anyone with our love and that we're no different than they are. These people are just better accepting people than others.

It's okay to freak out once and a while, but never succumb to the belief that "normal" is good or that a lack of controversy means that everything is okay. The hollow ideal of the nuclear families of the 50's and 60's should be a clear enough lesson of that.

 

[rareboy]

I wouldn't give up therapy just yet. Some anger management work will do you a world of good.