I have a problem: Don't wanna be gay!

[Maddog85]

Well, first of all, your analogy lacks an important aspect. Biological Sex and Gender are two different things. One can be born a women biologically, and accually BE a man gender wise. There is not such dichotomy with sexual orientation. If you didn't 'want' (born) to be gay, you wouldn't be.

I think what may be happening is that your coming to terms with the conflict that things that you wanted for the future that seemingly don't mesh well with your perception of the gay community. I went through that too, but you began to figure out that everything is still a possibility, nothing really has changed that much.

But, the best of luck to you, it is a hard road to travel.

 

[martin6]

I don't see how you can be born into the wrong orientation?? I can understand relating to the female gender even if you have that Y chromosome. But if you like guys, you like guys. How can you inwardly like girls if you like guys? I think you just might be scared of being gay... and there's really very little to be scared of.

 

[rareboy]

Well Rodnac...if you are a straight guy trapped in a gay guy's body, I can only suggest that you book some serious time with a gay friendly therapist to help you figure out why you feel this way. I suspect there are some other issues that you haven't touched on that are leading you to make this assertion.

You should be loving and living the life you were given......you don't get that many of them.

Good Luck.

 

[Martkell2007]

There are techniques you can learn to suppress your homosexual feelings and foster a heterosexual behavior and lifestyle.

 

[3nipples]

^^ the operating word above being "suppress"... not really a solution because you will still be gay.

 

[G-Lexington]

I wanted to be a musician when I grew up. Like nobody's business. I took years of piano and organ and bass lessons, and practiced forever. I still suck at it. I just don't have the talent for it. So instead of forcing myself into trying to be a musician, I've scratched my musical itch in other ways.

That's not too far removed from my take on my homosexuality. I've realized I'm NOT straight, the same way I'm NOT musically talented. I could bemoan my fate, and work on "fixing this". Or I can just accept it and move forward. I chose the latter. Now I love being gay. I can't imagine not being gay, or having Pubert in my life. Perhaps if you simply accept your homosexuality. you can move forward, too.

Lex

 

[rareboy]

There are techniques you can learn to suppress your homosexual feelings and foster a heterosexual behavior and lifestyle.

There's almost nothing worse than some fag trying to play straight because he's afraid of who he is.

The damage to self....because if you are dishonest about this, you're likely dishonest about everything....the guilt about the furtive sexual encounters you are sure to have....and the damage you'll do to so many other people like the woman you marry but don't really love.........gee whiz, I could just go on and on.......

Back to what I said earlier.....get real counselling about this and not dime store psychology from the internet.

 

[NomineDetracto]

dere rareboy & Lex,

you are my 2 favorite people here.

that's all,

(ben)