I just wanna tell him he's cute

[Pikiface]

So I been crushing on this guy who works at my local grocery store. From the moment I first saw him, I liked him very much, but refused to flirt or anything because I have a sort of respect for someone who I find very attractive. I was just happy to know his name from his nametag. Anyway, one day, after grocery shopping I purposly went through his check out register, and though I seen him numerous times before, I suddenly had to fight the urge to become lost in his eyes, same as you would when you try to fight sleepiness, and remain in state of consciousness lol. He greeted me as an ordinary clerk would, but it was for me and I finally got to hear him speak, even if it was only him telling me how much the bill was. He seemed so friendly I wanted to ask how work was going, but became shy when the bag boy came.

Afterward, I just couldn't shake him from my head. I am moving soon, and might not see him again but I thought it might be ok to bluntly yet politely, tell him I think he is cute. I anticipate that If he is ok with it cool, if not im cool with it still, I just feel he should know it from me for some reason. Do any of you think it is a good idea? Or how would I go about it?? Thanks in advance.

 

[TX-Beau]

Well, he really doesn't have any need to know anything from you, but if you think you could get a date out of it, go for it. I've asked guys out cold like that before, it has a low probability of success unfortunately.

If you're just going to gush at him about how hot he is - yeah, I probably wouldn't do that.

 

[hotatlboi]

So tell him.

 

[Pikiface]

Well, he really doesn't have any need to know anything from you, but if you think you could get a date out of it, go for it. I've asked guys out cold like that before, it has a low probability of success unfortunately.

If you're just going to gush at him about how hot he is - yeah, I probably wouldn't do that.

I'm not actually asking for a date, or a relationship, but if it turns into either then great. But it's just I want him to know just once from me that he is cute, then on my way.

 

[TX-Beau]

Well, just don't be creepy about it then - though I have to say I don't see why you're so set on it.

 

[Rolyo85]

What I do is I put on a goofy grin and just say it as a half-joke. Kind of an "in your face" cutesy bluntness. It works perfectly, they are always disarmed.

 

[MascutarHero]

hmmm, you wouldn;t have anything to lose if you told him, maybe possibly gain out of it. I say got for it, but don't creep him out, either way good thing you're moving away right?

 

[JohnstonKommer]

Yeah, in that situation, it's easy to creep someone out. if you say it at all, it's considered hitting on, unless you're a little old lady (they can say anyone is a sexy beast and no one can say anything). If you don't have any indication he bats for the "same" team, I wouldn't do anything. Unless YOU are legitimately godlike attractive, straight guys generally will get offended. And if he is extremely textbook gorgeous, he might get the compliment often and not care. There's are a lot of factors how that could go. I sound superficial I know, but there's a reason those stereotypes exist.

PERSONALLY, I'm not that bold/confident/outgoing to tell a stranger they're perfect in my eyes

 

[Seasoned]

Crushing and finding people cute is nature's way of letting you know the types you're attracted to. This seems too random a situation to pursue. I'd find something other than his "cuteness" to comment upon. "Do you mind telling me who cuts your hair?" might be a better icebreaker.

 

[ben9651]

GO FOR IT!
Ur moving out so whats the worst thing that could happen

 

[Pikiface]

Crushing and finding people cute is nature's way of letting you know the types you're attracted to. This seems too random a situation to pursue. I'd find something other than his "cuteness" to comment upon. "Do you mind telling me who cuts your hair?" might be a better icebreaker.

Actually, he did smell very nice that day and i wondered what kinda cologne he was wearing.

 

[Kyanimal]

Actually, he did smell very nice that day and i wondered what kinda cologne he was wearing.

Then tell him that, and ask what it is. If he frowns, and answers, or not, leave it at that. If he smiles, and maybe blushes, then tell him how cute he is! (And see if he blushes even more.)

Whatever his reaction, most people like compliments, even if they might react differently.

I'd say, go ahead and make his day! It's always great to exchange Smiles!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

"He seemed so friendly I wanted to ask how work was going, but became shy when the bag boy came."

Why it's just small talk? Ask the cute guy if he has a late night?- Jesus. Wait for response, see if he offers anything more or less. If he does, comment on it. Make conversation- Don't force it, if he's not into it- maybe give it a try next time around. Maybe comment or sly laugh take note of something that happened with a previous customer- Sometimes a smile is more then enough to share an understanding of something.- Showing you both have something in common. See where the conversation and flattery leads- About what he's doing after work, what your doing, etc. Leaving the possibility of asking him or you asking eachother to hang out at least, or even go out. Even if it's small talk, it's still something more then just looking all shy and running away each time.

Seasoned offers good advice on if you feel like flattering/declaring your attraction in a vague, but direct way. His lines are a bit dated, No offense seasoned. <3 But if you do tell him your really diggin the haircut. That it looks good on him. You don't need to make it sound creepy or anything. It's just conversation after all. Have fun with it.

"I wondered what kinda cologne he was wearing."
That could have worked as well.

 

[Ganoderma]

So I been crushing on this guy who works at my local grocery store. From the moment I first saw him, I liked him very much, but refused to flirt or anything because I have a sort of respect for someone who I find very attractive. I was just happy to know his name from his nametag. Anyway, one day, after grocery shopping I purposly went through his check out register, and though I seen him numerous times before, I suddenly had to fight the urge to become lost in his eyes, same as you would when you try to fight sleepiness, and remain in state of consciousness lol. He greeted me as an ordinary clerk would, but it was for me and I finally got to hear him speak, even if it was only him telling me how much the bill was. He seemed so friendly I wanted to ask how work was going, but became shy when the bag boy came.

Afterward, I just couldn't shake him from my head. I am moving soon, and might not see him again but I thought it might be ok to bluntly yet politely, tell him I think he is cute. I anticipate that If he is ok with it cool, if not im cool with it still, I just feel he should know it from me for some reason. Do any of you think it is a good idea? Or how would I go about it?? Thanks in advance.

Hi,

I was wondering how 'open' you are ('only to my friends') , how 'comfortable' you are with your own sexuality and how much experience you have with other guys. I mean, you don't need to answer this questions, but they might provide us with some more insight who you are and, in response, give you a better advise.

I tend to think that part of his friendship / smiling towards you is just 'part of his job'. I mean, people like to return to a grocery when the employees are friendly and helpfull towards custumers, and customers will less likely return when the employees are not friendly.

So maybe this guy is just friendly to you because you are a 'wellknown' customer, or so. Have you ever made any 'smalltalk' with this guy? Any clue is he is married and/or has a girlfriend?

Pfoeh, a difficult question. I tend to think that a guy like Rolyo85 can indeed say and do what Rolyo85 himself advised (?) you to do, and I am quite sure that Rolyo85 can cope with any follow-up?

Why not start to make some 'smalltalk' with him, about any subject which pops up?

 

[Pikiface]

"He seemed so friendly I wanted to ask how work was going, but became shy when the bag boy came."

Why it's just small talk? Ask the cute guy if he has a late night?- Jesus. Wait for response, see if he offers anything more or less. If he does, comment on it. Make conversation- Don't force it, if he's not into it- maybe give it a try next time around. Maybe comment or sly laugh take note of something that happened with a previous customer- Sometimes a smile is more then enough to share an understanding of something.- Showing you both have something in common. See where the conversation and flattery leads- About what he's doing after work, what your doing, etc. Leaving the possibility of asking him or you asking eachother to hang out at least, or even go out. Even if it's small talk, it's still something more then just looking all shy and running away each time.

Seasoned offers good advice on if you feel like flattering/declaring your attraction in a vague, but direct way. His lines are a bit dated, No offense seasoned. <3 But if you do tell him your really diggin the haircut. That it looks good on him. You don't need to make it sound creepy or anything. It's just conversation after all. Have fun with it.

"I wondered what kinda cologne he was wearing."
That could have worked as well.

Yea, kinda same thing my brother said. Yall are right. I don't want to have to leave and wonder what might've happened.

The thing is I am rather private and shy and would prefer to tell him this when it is not so busy and the person in line after me cant hear me say it. After all he is working and don't want to make him feel awkward in front of the other customers.

 

[rareboy]

So go in near the end of his shift or something and make a bit of small talk.

Even thought we're not hitting on the clerks, we always find something to talk about with them.

We've even told a few that they cheer us up on days when we need it, etc. etc.

Just be relaxed.

 

[epod85]

The thing is I am rather private and shy and would prefer to tell him this when it is not so busy and the person in line after me cant hear me say it. After all he is working and don't want to make him feel awkward in front of the other customers.

Well every store has a quiet peroid. If it's not attached to a mall then you're probably looking at early mornings or later at night as the "dead" times. If it is attached to the mall then probably just early mornings or maybe in that odd time between 1 and 2 when everyones lunch hours seem to be over. Either way you can probably find some period in the day when there are little customers in the store, which could be the perfect time.

And trust me if he's like most cashiers I've met he wont feel awkward infront of the other customers by a passing compliment... unless you decide to sernade the poor boy with def leppard.

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, there is still something about this that's bothering me. You don't know this guy, so why all the elaborate and baroque plans to isolate and then tell him.

'Cause that hits my creepy meter. So you're shy, so does that mean you will never do any of this? Because I gotta tell ya that it's going to be harder alone to stay away from the stalkery than it is in the check out line.

Odds are this guy isn't interested, and you've said nothing to indicate you think he is. So what's the deal?

WHY is it so important to you that he absolutely must know?

Do you think he wants to know? Despite what all has been said in here, It's far more likely that he doesn't want to know you think he's hot if he isn't gay and/or interested than he does.

Frankly a large percentage of straight guys do not take that as a compliment. No matter how delicately put.

What's the deal? Why is it so important that he ABSOLUTELY must know? I see hot guys all day long that I feel no compulsion that they MUST know.

 

[Pikiface]

Yeah, there is still something about this that's bothering me. You don't know this guy, so why all the elaborate and baroque plans to isolate and then tell him.

'Cause that hits my creepy meter. So you're shy, so does that mean you will never do any of this? Because I gotta tell ya that it's going to be harder alone to stay away from the stalkery than it is in the check out line.

Odds are this guy isn't interested, and you've said nothing to indicate you think he is. So what's the deal?

WHY is it so important to you that he absolutely must know?

Do you think he wants to know? Despite what all has been said in here, It's far more likely that he doesn't want to know you think he's hot if he isn't gay and/or interested than he does.

Frankly a large percentage of straight guys do not take that as a compliment. No matter how delicately put.

What's the deal? Why is it so important that he ABSOLUTELY must know? I see hot guys all day long that I feel no compulsion that they MUST know.

Yea, it's been frustrating except I don't have to tell every hot guy I see what I think of him either.

 

[Kyanimal]

Yea, it's been frustrating except I don't have to tell every hot guy I see what I think of him either.

I think I know what you mean. There are those FEW guys, that are so damned Cute, that you just want to let them know what they might not realize. Not for any 'gain' for yourself, but rather to let them know for their own sake. Kind of like wanting to give them a 'boost'. Almost a feeling that they 'deserve' to be reminded how attractive they are, sort of for their own 'good'. Almost a 'brotherly' reinforcement of their own 'power', that they may not even be conscious of having within their grasp.

Why certain guys trigger that reaction from us is a question that I've run across a few times myself. It's just something about them that triggers that desire for us to impart that 'knowledge'. It's as though it's a 'gift' that we feel inspired to give. How they might react is purely up to them. Yet, it is an inner feeling, from us, that we'd just like to let them Know.

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz