I like a Guy...At Church Camp

[Endlessnight500]

I'm working at a church camp right now for a little extra cash. Its only ten days long, But I like this guy. I dont know what to do, I kinda want to tell him. The problem is ITS CHURCH CAMP!!! So I dont know. I'm so confused...I wouldnt think a gay guy would go to church camp...But I'm there, and I'm going to go next year... I have no clue what to do. I would want to tell him soon, camp if almost half over and i'd liek to get to know him alittle better, i know his name and i've talked to him a couple times. He is so cute, I just cant help it...Is it wronge to want a fling at church camp? LOL. Oh well Hope someone can help me.

 

[drhladnjak]

If I were you, I'd just focus on trying to get to know the guy first. If you hit it off and he's gay, great. If not, maybe you'll still hit it off and make a new friend. Or maybe once you start talking to him, he won't seem so great anymore and you'll move on. Regardless, if you don't talk to him because you're worried about the repercussions, you'll always wonder "what if".

 

[M4P]

I think you're playing with fire at a church camp. Wait until the 10 days are up and then ask him out

 

[Just_Believe18]

This is entirely inappropriate. You are employed to do a job, not hit on the church's campers.

 

[Endlessnight500]

All I have to do is wash dishes after the meals...so i have all the hours between meals with nothing to do but socialize and stuff...And i get the feeling he is gay, But it may be wishful thinking, then again i have a friend there who feels like He is too, and its a Girl so its less bias lol. And I've been working on getting to know him. I talked to him and Introduced myself, and hung out for a while... I'm going to see if he has an Email or Myspace i can contact him on, like outside of camp...Not going to far as to ask for his number tho...I want to establish a more casual mean of contact first. I already told him i'd probly stay in the dorms with the others next year, and I think he said he was coming back. As part of there camp they have to help out in the cafeterian for one meal a day and i talk to him then...Another problem is my little brother, who is 16, and my aunt and neighbor also work there lol. So it risky, but it may turn out to be worth it. I'll just see what happens tomarrow. I'll let you all know, and mabey you can help me more then. Thanks for the feed back already.

 

[JackFTwist]

This is entirely inappropriate. You are employed to do a job, not hit on the church's campers.

I have to agree

you don't shit where you eat and you don't fuck with the people (youth or adults) in your charge - that is just so wrong - there are some things you just don't do


and I suggest kindly that it is just a crush and that you can handle I hope, if you can't, church camp, any type of camp, is something you need to stay away from

your motives have to be clear and the trust in you has to be absolute

I say this as friendly as I can - I pray you hear it that way

 

[JackFTwist]

and it does not matter that you are in the kitchen - you are still camp staff - you have to worthy of the trust placed in you - plus all the other stuff you say, you realize the fucking shit that can rain down on you for inappropriate conduct? There are a lot of guys out there - the ones at church camp are not for you

 

[Raincoat Massacre]

I think you're playing with fire, kiddo. Sorry.

I have to agree. I wouldnt go for it.

 

[Danugh]

Talk about a bad place to go looking for a man.

Leave it alone. This post made me uncomfortable. If it was a regular summer camp then fine but...

 

[redheadbubblebutt]

Aren't most of the counselors at church camp gay? Just a rumor.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Dude,

Try to get yourself out of the Church Camp enviroment.

Call that a Project: I AM GETTING A LIFE.

Gay or not, the subject of your affection may or may not find you desirable. That is the question of key interest to you. His 'gay' or 'bi' or 'str8' or whatever his identity may be, is primarily for him to cope with and is of little importance for you, at this stage.

Keep in mind that he may be as gay as a circus and yet not wish to do anything with you, simply because you may not be his 'type'. Or that he may be actually 'Mr Very Str8 Arrow' now willing to experiment with a dude, he finds amazingly attractive & available? You are not talking about marrying him. You are talking about getting to know him, getting some sexual fun in the process and picking it up from there, rite?

So, get to know him. Start putting your moves on him and get together as soon as possible and preferably outside the church-job environment.

SC

 

[theblackajah]

Tell him Jesus told you to suck his cock.

 

[spreadeagle]

This is a great opportunity to learn one of Life's most valuable lessons - delayed gratification. If you can't manage 10 days of celibacy you're doomed.

The appropriate response is to practice being friendly and approachable without being flirtatious or seductive. If you're allowed to join in any of the camp activities you might do so. Write him a letter explaining how attractive you found him, why you chose not to act upon it in that environemnt, enclose your contact details and give it to him at the last possible moment.

 

[gabriel1]

Tell him Jesus told you to suck his cock.

Thats wrong, just wrong..

 

[maxxximum]

how old is he. if you're a 20 something and he's 15 that wouldn't look right but if you're about the same age then strike a casual conversation with him. i dont see anything wrong with that.

 

[latinoguy19]

Tell him Jesus told you to suck his cock.

Oh HELL NO!! Have fun in Hell haha....!!!!

Just playin thats kinda weirdly funny.

 

[confusedboy23]

You are EMPLOYED so that camp is WORK! Workplace relationships should always be kept "professional". Wait until the camp is over, and see where it goes. As others have said, you need to know whether or not he is into guys first and foremost.

 

[Endlessnight500]

OK...An update...I didnt get to talk to him today because we were understaffed so i washed dishes and Cooked on my breaks, so I worked the entire day.
I am trying to get to know him. There is no Legality issues, and Its not like i'm not doing my job. I only talk to him when i'm off work, between meals i dont have to be in the Kitchens or even in that building, I'm free to do as i please. The way alot of you are saying it, I'm going all goo goo yes over him and getting distracted from work, or that i'm trying to go out with come kid... The youth group is ages 14-21... and I'm 18, But i'm not some sicko, I wouldnt be breaking any laws...I find these things offensive...
Another thing. It is just a crush, and i know there are others. i just wanted advice on wether or not i should persue him. Either way i plan on trying to get contact information. I'm going to go to the camp, AS A CAMPER, next year and be apart of the youth group... Well I'm leaving now because i have to get up at 6 in the morning to go to WORK!!! And i'm tired after working 13 hours today... Which is probly the main reason i got so offened when alot of you implied i'm not doing my job...

 

[Just_Believe18]

^ Perhaps you should have explained your situation more in detail. Read your original post and tell us you didn't sound creepy and exploiting your job unprofessionally.

 

[tonyboy]

Tell him Jesus told you to suck his cock.

Crude, rude, and inappropriate man...
Camps for boys whether church or Scouts are great places.

Why the hell is it that when a jubber makes a post using the word 'church' or 'religion' there is all this hate speech that comes up????????

There are lot's of gay folk that believe in Christianity. Lot's of gay guys that are religious too.