I Lost It!

[edgeattraction]

After a long time waiting, I lost my virginity! The guy was so kind in teaching me, showing and giving me absolute pleasure. Not only did I get my first bj, but I got to blow him too! And afterward when got to sit and cuddle, while we talked about life. Sadly, this is short lived since we met while I was on vacation. But I'll always remember him and I hope to run into him in the future. (After tonight of course!)

 

[will_zeis23]

Well i'm glad you had such a fortunately positive experience. Good for you!

 

[Brer Fox]

Lovely. I had a very gentle, loving older guy take mine, and give me an experience for which I have no regrets. It is also probably to your benefit that you met him on vacation, as you almost invariably fall in love with the first person you get off with. I remember I started making some advances after that night in my post-sex euphoria that now seem so incredibly silly now that sex is a more regular occurrence.

 

[G-Lexington]

Did you look under the bed?

Seriously, congratulations. Glad it was a pleasant experience.

Lex

 

[rareboy]

Awwwwwwww.

You'll remember him forever. I'm glad he made it special.

Now remember to get in lots of practice.

 

[evil_danger]

What do you mean a long time of waiting, your profile says your 18, thats not a long time!

But it was good that you enjoyed your first time, just as you should!

 

[gameboy 11]

I'm so happy for you man. I read that and thought it was one of the sweetest things I've ever had the chance of hearing.

I would love my first real experience to be similar. I think everyone dreams of it that way.

 

[edgeattraction]

I'm still in shock at how wonderful it was, and he's coming back tonight. Of course those 'first love' feelings are here, but I know he doesn't really feel the same way...he is more in a 'friends with benefits' mode I think. We haven't really talked about it, and I don't plan to right now.

Let's just say that "Erotica" and "Justify My Love" have been on my ipod constantly since last night. ha

 

[tommyj]

How old is he?

 

[moschj]

Be careful here! It sounds like he's just looking for fun. That's not a problem because you can have fun too. But if your heart's more serious, gently let him know that, and see how he reacts. Good luck!

 

[backpacker]

I'm glad your first was so good. People always remember their first and it's nice to have a pleasant memory.

 

[rareboy]

Be careful here! It sounds like he's just looking for fun.

Just enjoy it for what it was.

 

[edgeattraction]

You guys are right. He is just looking for fun, and I realize that now. It's really hard for me to grasp that...

Sex isn't a simple thing...it really can be an emotional connection...like what I'm feeling right now. He's started crusing which really does hurt.

Are these normal feelings for you to have after the first time?

 

[Brer Fox]

Just accept it. You will get over it eventually. You are very young, yourself... it will be quite difficult to find someone who is truly into monogamy at or in the proximity of your age. That is not to say it does not happen, of course it does, but honestly if I were you I would play the field a bit, if just for a bit of sexual adventure.

Romantic longings will always be there, but so is the sexual fuck-through-a-hill-of-men lust. Fortunately, romance becomes easier as you age, and the latter becomes all the more difficult, which both work in the favor of long-term commitment. Use your strategery.

Although if you really feel you have met 'the one,' follow up on it, but this guy is statistically, and evidently not him. It is very common to think he is the best guy in the universe, but for like a week. My first partner had just come down off a ten-year semi-abusive relationship, and gave me fair warning out of his wisdom that I should take it easy with the 'shipping until I could really imagine myself forever with this man.

 

[edgeattraction]

Thanks guys...it's still very hard though. But I know there is no future with him...but I really do think I started to fall in love. We were just able to talk about everything, and he inspired me to go for my dreams down south without fear. It's just amazing that the first guy I meet seems to fill my fantasy. Crazy and complicated. I haven't really talked to him about my feelings though, that could be a start. The only thing I've really told him is that I would like to have a relationship, not just sex.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Positive beginnings can make for
positive futures. Enjoy the memory, and let go.
It was only a blow job and some nice cuddling and
conversation.

Observe what went wewll and what you would never
do again and prepare for a life to come.
Shep+