I might be gay

[The_Aviator]

Hey buddy!

Welcome to JUB!

I'm not very good at answering questions like this but I'll give it a try lol.

From what you've just said (looking at guys on the internet and avoiding a relationship with a girl) I would say that there is a possibility you are gay... it's up to you to decide at the end of the day though...

 

[bayern20]

Are you attracted to women whatsoever? When you have fantasies, what do you think of? When you masterbate, who do you think of? In general do you find yourself caring more about what guys think?

 

[looseliam]

No one can tell you if you're gay; you must find out for yourself. Try not to obsess about labels.

You find yourself looking at naked men and enjoy it, then keep doing it.

You happen to have sexual contact with a man and like it, then keep doing it.

Have fun above all else!

 

[doctorsun]

Like the others have said, only you can tell if you're gay. We all know how difficult it can be to come to that realization. We've all had to go through it at one point. There's no instructions on how to do it, either. You just need to evaluate all of your feelings and see what they tell you.

 

[ladygrey]

Well,

you think about naked men.

you're on a gay website.....

that seems to suggest you might have a little gay in you somewhere?

lol

Look kiddo, we're a bunch of nice guys (exepct for some of us), but try a website that offer more support.

Just google gay youth support and you'll find tons. It's a good place to start.

As for your sexuality,

whether you are or not, you'll still be you. Nothing will change the moment you say "i'm gay". So relax. You're safe.

Anyway, hang around here if you like
look through other posts on this page

you'll find some support, i'm sure

pm if you need help



and remember,
no matter who you are, you are a wonderful beautiful soul that is both loved and valued

^believe me, I have an inside opinion on that one

 

[jockboy01]

Look kiddo, we're a bunch of nice guys (exepct for some of us), but try a website that offer more support.

What? That's why I'm here. This is a supportive website. LOL. And no I'm not kidding. But there are others.

Ultimately, as others have said, sounds like you're not 100 percent str8. But only you can tell if you're gay. The question is, do you get aroused by women? Are you sexually attracted to them? If not, welcome to the club. And definitely welcome to JUB

 

[ladygrey]

^
LOL

I didn't mean leave! I meant look for website that might led to support in your local area....

And yes, we can be very suppotive.
Jockboi espixally....

 

[chance1]

It started with me looking at pictures of hot men because I wish I could look like them,

Very familiar indeed - I remember it well

Looks like you dig men

The only question is how about women?

If no, then you are . . . . . . . .

in the right place

Welcome

 

[jockboy01]

clarification: I'm here to get support. Sometimes I give it too

 

[confusedboy23]

Don't bother with labels. Accept who you are and you'll feel a whole lot better and happier.

 

[conrad]

You're not confused on that, confusedboy23! Why let others define (label) you? Why not let yourself do the defining, first to yourself and then to others?

 

[Soilwork]

I'm not supportive at all.

Ok, maybe sometimes.

and yes. Sounds like yoiu're gay.

 

[tonyboy]

Sounds like you have gay tendancies man, may young men do. As others have said though, there is no need to place a label on yourself. Do what feel natural. If you meet a pretty girl and want to date do it. If you meet a gay guy that you are attracted to ask him to meet you for lunch.
Nothing says you have to decide right now which team you're on. You've got plenty of time. And lot's of support on JUB when you have any questions man.
Good luck to you.

 

[Mitchee]

i have the same problem....but i know that im not gay i never pushed a girl away i really like them THE THING IS I DONT KNOW HOW TO BE A BOYFRIEND NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND IM STILL A VIRGIN AND A GIRL LIKES ME AND IM DEATHLY SHY LOL CUZ SHES MY FIRST ..THATS HOW I KNOW IM NOT .. ya i do get turned on by naked people lol gys includiin i dont have fantasies bout men lets just say im not dirty minded i dont think that way at all i dont get turned on easy im hard to please...i dont get turned on by sight i get turned on or aroused by touch lol..u get me know im not gay im a virgin never had a gf...looking forward to have a son..and a wife...lol know i have the same problem as the guy who posted it but ya lol here ya go i can control myself i can change who i am if im gay ill change it ..right now im not worries i just live life without any worries ..JUST GO FORWARD DONT GO BACK to ur problems lol iahd that problem got over it lol

 

[confusedboy23]

Thanks Conrad! I used to be confused and I used to be stuck with the notion of labels. I broke free from it and I am no longer bothered with it. How I wish I could have realised it sooner and not have to endure years of denial. It's made me happier now but being confusedboy23, I am still confused about other things. LOL. But I'm sure it'll all make sense very soon.

 

[bayern20]

Mitchee

You do realize that mid July you said that you were leaving and would not be back because you are not gay. Its Sept 1st, and you are here.

If you need someone to talk to, we are all here for you. Denying things, having a gf, having kids, and then being so afraid and realizing you got yourself into a situation that you dont want to be in, its not good man.

 

[The_Aviator]

...but there does appear to be a lot of hot guys here .

Couldn't agree with ya more buddy!

 

[kce24]

welcome to the club honey

 

[jockboy01]

I'm not supportive at all.

Ok, maybe sometimes.

Sure you are... just in a bit of a different way

if im gay ill change it

No you won't. Trust me, I tried for a long time. The faster you quit trying, the sooner you can get to work on accepting who you are which is possible.

 

[CoolBlue71]

Dear radbrad,

It's a matter of considering the facts, your feelings, that will determine your sexual identity. And it's your willingess to be honest with yourself that gives you such ability to recognize this.