I need help again asap IDK what's wrong with me

[bryan757vb]

Hey everyone,

I'm back again asking for your help, I'm sure you remember my previous posts, about hooking up with a guy for the first time, and now us dating, etc. etc..

Well about 6 days ago something weird happened, I'm gonna try to explain this in the best way I know how because quite frankly even I cant place it exactly....Everytime me and my bf have sex I feel like I'm just detached/on autopilot, I'm doing it and its not really that enjoyable to me and its even to the point where when we kiss I just feel kinda queezy.

However, I really have deep feelings for this guy and love his company, but lately I feel like I want nothing sexual or even physical contact with him, yet I still have sex with him everyday but it feels like doing something you have to...Has anyone been through anything like this at all? Let me clarify I know I dont like women so it cant be that...I just really dont know.

 

[altlover85]

How long has you two been together?

Are there any issues that you have that are unresolved?

What you are talking about happened to me with my ex, but it was really because there were so many unresolved issues that I didn't feel as close to my ex.

 

[bryan757vb]

How long has you two been together?

Are there any issues that you have that are unresolved?

What you are talking about happened to me with my ex, but it was really because there were so many unresolved issues that I didn't feel as close to my ex.

Thats just the thing we've only been together 6 weeks its still a new relationship and there are no issues yet, we still are in that I love you more, no you hangup first type of stage, Its just I dont know sexually hes a beast and thats what I want or did want but now I just feel like not doing it at all.

 

[altlover85]

Thats just the thing we've only been together 6 weeks its still a new relationship and there are no issues yet, we still are in that I love you more, no you hangup first type of stage, Its just I dont know sexually hes a beast and thats what I want or did want but now I just feel like not doing it at all.

Were you attracted to him before?

 

[bryan757vb]

Were you attracted to him before?

Yeah and I still am I think he is beyond georgous and I dont even feel the need to notice other guys anymore, its just I feel like I'm at a phase right now where I just want to cuddle with him and be held by him and enjoy his conversation but not really do anything too physical.

 

[altlover85]

Yeah and I still am I think he is beyond georgous and I dont even feel the need to notice other guys anymore, its just I feel like I'm at a phase right now where I just want to cuddle with him and be held by him and enjoy his conversation but not really do anything too physical.

Do you guys cuddle before, during, or after sex?

 

[bryan757vb]

Do you guys cuddle before, during, or after sex?

We always cuddle before and again after, but the strange thing is even though I said Im not all that turned on while its happening, it seems like hours later it finally sets in like I'm having delayed reactions to our sex.

Heres example: We got really really kinky and wild yesterday afternoon I wont go into specifics but it was just kinda like ok it is what it is, but then like 24 hours later (now) I'm starting to think WOW holy S**T yesterday was hott! what the heck is up with that?

 

[altlover85]

I honestly don't know what's up with the issue you're having. Have you thought about journaling your feelings or clearing your mind and focusing on your thoughts and feelings?

It might give you some insight. If it persists, it might be worth going to see a doctor or counselor about the issue.

 

[bryan757vb]

I honestly don't know what's up with the issue you're having. Have you thought about journaling your feelings or clearing your mind and focusing on your thoughts and feelings?

It might give you some insight. If it persists, it might be worth going to see a doctor or counselor about the issue.

My best Friend is trying to get me to go with her this weekend for a weeklong roadtrip/vacation and I'm thinking that would be beneficial to clear my head and enjoy some best friend time, but just brining the subject up to my bf about me leaving town without him is getting him upset

 

[altlover85]

My best Friend is trying to get me to go with her this weekend for a weeklong roadtrip/vacation and I'm thinking that would be beneficial to clear my head and enjoy some best friend time, but just brining the subject up to my bf about me leaving town without him is getting him upset

Have you asked him why he's upset and if he has any fears, what those are?

Sometimes it's nice to be able to express your fears to someone without feeling like they will think you are whining.

 

[HunterM]

Don't have sex everyday. Take a break for a couple of days. Then try role playing to spice things up.

 

[bryan757vb]

Don't have sex everyday. Take a break for a couple of days. Then try role playing to spice things up.

I definetely am gonna do that, but it still leaves me puzzled why I am feeling so non affectionate, I was always the type that loves to kiss and makeout and felt so warm and fuzzy now kissing atm just feels odd.

 

[evanrick]

you might be depressed.

 

[bryan757vb]

UPDATE: Well I was hoping it wouldn't be true, but an experience with someone else last night kind of showed me that I apparently am not as into my boyfriend as I thought I was, long story short last night something happened with a friend of mine that I have been crushing on forever and I felt alot when we kissed, etc..

Now unfortunately not only am I a cheater, now I feel like I have to do the horrible job of breaking up with what is quite possibly the sweetest human being I have ever met, this really sucks...