So lets start with some info about me first. I'm bi, not out. No relationship at the moment.
I'm currently having an issue with a guy i think of as a close friend. He seems to be ignoring me. Which came out of the blue, seeing as how close i thought we were.
So this guy and me have been friends in college. Our friendship is very intimate for two guys. He was a virgin until his early 20's and i would encourage him to go out there and get with chicks. i would tell him in great detail about my exploits with women, so detailed it was pretty much verbal pornography. We used to talk about what chicks we were into, what we would do with them etc. Well he got a steady girlfriend and soon enough they were married, had a house and had a baby. But during this same period we'd still continue our talks about everything, work, politics and especially sex.
i would openly ask him if i could bang his gf and now wife (who im a mutual friend with btw) and he wouldn't feel insulted or get aggressive,he seemed to like the idea of us three in a threesome together. I showed him photos of my erect penis, which he admits looked 'nice', he said he even thought i was 'good looking' and 'wanked thinking about me fucking women'. He even said he'd like to have my sloppy seconds (post-creampie) and wouldn't mind fucklicking a chick i was fucking.
Well one time i suggested i see his cock for comparison as he's seen plenty of mine through pics and always bragged about his. he said he wouldnt take photos of it, but i suggested to him to compare in person. he seemed shocked but open to the idea. Well anyway after college we still chatted about the same things, but recently he had his son and since then he hasnt talked to me at all.
i at first thought he blocked me on social media, but he looks like he doesnt use facebook etc at all. which i confirmed through mutual friends. I normally would of texted him but have lost his number. I direct message him but get no reply. its been like a year since i last talked to him.
I thought it's not unusual with him working, his wife being on maternity leave and a new baby that he didnt have much free time. But to not even text message or to even ask how i am or anything kind of hurts.
So i kind of started to analyse the friendship. We work in the same industry and when i was unemployed he never offered to put in a good word for me or anything, but when our other acquaintance was looking for work he asked me if i knew of any jobs going around? Then i think about how i wasnt invited at his wedding but two people who knew both him and his wife were, who i know for a fact arent as close to him or her as i was. He even invited his work colleagues.
Now its got me thinking that maybe this whole time our friendship was merely a networking opportunity for him as we were in the same industry. Though im not that well connected to be some sort of great prize. I also think how in 99% of all our contact im the one to initiate the conversation, direct message first etc.
So i kind of want to know what you guys think of this friendship? i'm not attracted to him in a sexual way. i just assumed if i was open about sex and other topics and allowed myself to be vulnerable id have a deep and meaningful lifetime friendship. but now thinking back on everything i feel as if i was just used as wank fodder and gotten rid of as soon as life got serious and i couldn't be used as an opportunity. If he doesnt want to talk to me anymore or hates me, or just used me thats fine. but i long for the closure of a 'fuck you', or 'okay, well cya when i cya' or anything.
I genuinely felt that we were close, kind of like best friends and that we'd continue to be friends throughout our lives. I now have mixed feeling of confusion, sadness, anger, betrayal, rejection its kind of like a bad breakup. I think about if we ever met in the future, like worked for the same employer. Should i even acknowledge that i know him, or just pretend he doesnt exist. im just really hurt by the whole thing. So please guys give me your thoughts?
I'm currently having an issue with a guy i think of as a close friend. He seems to be ignoring me. Which came out of the blue, seeing as how close i thought we were.
So this guy and me have been friends in college. Our friendship is very intimate for two guys. He was a virgin until his early 20's and i would encourage him to go out there and get with chicks. i would tell him in great detail about my exploits with women, so detailed it was pretty much verbal pornography. We used to talk about what chicks we were into, what we would do with them etc. Well he got a steady girlfriend and soon enough they were married, had a house and had a baby. But during this same period we'd still continue our talks about everything, work, politics and especially sex.
i would openly ask him if i could bang his gf and now wife (who im a mutual friend with btw) and he wouldn't feel insulted or get aggressive,he seemed to like the idea of us three in a threesome together. I showed him photos of my erect penis, which he admits looked 'nice', he said he even thought i was 'good looking' and 'wanked thinking about me fucking women'. He even said he'd like to have my sloppy seconds (post-creampie) and wouldn't mind fucklicking a chick i was fucking.
Well one time i suggested i see his cock for comparison as he's seen plenty of mine through pics and always bragged about his. he said he wouldnt take photos of it, but i suggested to him to compare in person. he seemed shocked but open to the idea. Well anyway after college we still chatted about the same things, but recently he had his son and since then he hasnt talked to me at all.
i at first thought he blocked me on social media, but he looks like he doesnt use facebook etc at all. which i confirmed through mutual friends. I normally would of texted him but have lost his number. I direct message him but get no reply. its been like a year since i last talked to him.
I thought it's not unusual with him working, his wife being on maternity leave and a new baby that he didnt have much free time. But to not even text message or to even ask how i am or anything kind of hurts.
So i kind of started to analyse the friendship. We work in the same industry and when i was unemployed he never offered to put in a good word for me or anything, but when our other acquaintance was looking for work he asked me if i knew of any jobs going around? Then i think about how i wasnt invited at his wedding but two people who knew both him and his wife were, who i know for a fact arent as close to him or her as i was. He even invited his work colleagues.
Now its got me thinking that maybe this whole time our friendship was merely a networking opportunity for him as we were in the same industry. Though im not that well connected to be some sort of great prize. I also think how in 99% of all our contact im the one to initiate the conversation, direct message first etc.
So i kind of want to know what you guys think of this friendship? i'm not attracted to him in a sexual way. i just assumed if i was open about sex and other topics and allowed myself to be vulnerable id have a deep and meaningful lifetime friendship. but now thinking back on everything i feel as if i was just used as wank fodder and gotten rid of as soon as life got serious and i couldn't be used as an opportunity. If he doesnt want to talk to me anymore or hates me, or just used me thats fine. but i long for the closure of a 'fuck you', or 'okay, well cya when i cya' or anything.
I genuinely felt that we were close, kind of like best friends and that we'd continue to be friends throughout our lives. I now have mixed feeling of confusion, sadness, anger, betrayal, rejection its kind of like a bad breakup. I think about if we ever met in the future, like worked for the same employer. Should i even acknowledge that i know him, or just pretend he doesnt exist. im just really hurt by the whole thing. So please guys give me your thoughts?
