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hello my name is lewis and i have never posted before (just browsed) but i need some advice.

ok i enrolled in this guidance college course to get more information about doing well in college this is the first week (kinda pointless info )

well i saw this guy i wasnt really paying no attention to him tho
first impressions kinda turned me off but he started talking about himself during a meet & greet phase and were both in to the same things such as acting , dance singing you know theater arts

once i found out he was in to that type of stuff i wanted to get to know him better
so i start my lil tactics to get close to him

i asked him about his current courses and asked him about music courses he was going to take and stuff like that i found out he is taking a psychology course with the same professior i took it with 2 semesters ago. after our guidance course he has to leave that part of campus to go to ther other for his psych class lol he told me he wished he had time to go get a vitamin water lol he likes vitaim water i just bought a whole case of that stuff

so the next day

i brought him a vitamin water he was thrilled and i liked making someone happy
but he felt like he owed me something but i said itw as cool lol
so we just keep talking about our interests and i helped him out alot when we were doing some computer work and after class was over i asked if i could hitcha ride with him to the other part of campus because i have to go there as well
he said it was cool and everything so he gave me a ride we were talking about music (WE BOTH LOVE MUSIC ALOT) SO THE NEXT DAY LOL

this is thursday i think

we went into class and like 20 minutes in to it he said
"you remember when they asked what my greatest challenge was and i said it was personal?" i said yeah

he said andhe leaned in to tell me "its because i have high functioning autism)

i was floored

because i told him

"omg thats crazy so do i"

we both have been diagnosed with high functioning autism

this really got us interested in each other
and so we started talking about the challenges we face how others see us
how we have trouble making friends and so forth just really connecting and i loved it

ok so class was over and we cought the shuttle down to the other campus and i followed him to his psych class and we sat down and started talkin some more

i gave him my number and email address and he in turn gave me his

personally i doubt we are going to call each other i have trouble talking with ppul on the phone and iam sure he does to but nehoo

we were talking some more and he was telling me about his family and he started talking about this book he had wriiten

i was like omg i wrote a lil book to

so we just kept talking and before we left i gave him a hug (you know the handshake one arm hug)

ok so here is where the advice is going to come in

i originally started wanting to get close to him because i was attracted to him
but now that i see we have so much in common i want to really just be firends with him because i think his friendship would mean alot more to me
i didnt tell him that i have same-sex attraction because i didnt want to scare him off if he was straight (in which i think he is )

but i was up most of the night thinking about him and being friends with him and all kinds of stuff

i am not sure if telling him iam bi-sexual would ruin our bond i eman we did just meet 4days ago lol

so should i tell him or should i let our firendship grow some more?:kiss:
 
Hi Lewis and welcome.

It's a hard call for someone else to make. It depends on factors that I can't possibly judge without knowing more.

My generic answer is not immediately but eventually yes, once you are both past the getting to know you stage and have become more comfortable with each other. So rather earlier than later in the friendship.
 
Lewis,

Welcome to the JUB - hope you enjoy yourself here. A good friend is rare. Hope you two are able to be good friends. Good friends also don't hide things from one another. So, like mentioned above, telling him is something you should do, once you are good friends.

best of luck -
Rand
 
I guess I'd just have to agree with the rest here! ;)

Anyway, welcome to the world of JUB! :D
 
Welcome Lewis...Good to hear your story. I'm reading Born on a Blue Day at the moment. It's written by Daniel Tammet who also has high functioning autism. Fascinating story. Just wondering if you have any savant areas yourself.

btw: for my 2 cents worth I'd let your friendship develope for a while.
 
Diodorus said:
Welcome Lewis...Good to hear your story. I'm reading Born on a Blue Day at the moment. It's written by Daniel Tammet who also has high functioning autism. Fascinating story. Just wondering if you have any savant areas yourself.

btw: for my 2 cents worth I'd let your friendship develope for a while.
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um i am not a savant by the normal definition but i am very musicly inclined
and so is my new friend:gogirl:
 
Hey Lewis, welcome from me too.

I agree with the others...let your friendship grow and if you want to confide more about yourself later, then you'll know when the time is right. It seems that you two have much in common and really seem to appreciate each other's company. Plus, you two can connect on levels that is impossible with others. So, I hope that what you have blossoms into a great friendship.

Welcome again, and enjoy JUB! :wave:
 
thankx for all the comments

high functioning autism

is autism that usually doesnt affect motor function or speech or normal cognitive thinking it pops up in certain aspects but not full throttle lol
 
averageguy said:
Hey Lewis, welcome from me too.

I agree with the others...let your friendship grow and if you want to confide more about yourself later, then you'll know when the time is right. It seems that you two have much in common and really seem to appreciate each other's company. Plus, you two can connect on levels that is impossible with others. So, I hope that what you have blossoms into a great friendship.

Welcome again, and enjoy JUB! :wave:
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oh man thank you so much thats what i wanted to hear

thanks man iam taking your advice (!)
 
Aww!

Ok kiddo, my advice? Just play it cool, keep talking to him, and build a friendship. I've learned the hard way that friendship is better than a boyfriend when you're younger. As someone once told me, Friends are forever, lovers are whatever.

What I mean is this: He'll likely be a better friend than a boyfriend. But just let the friendship grow, tell him when you want to, and see what happens.

Life is like that. Mysterous.
 
ladygrey said:
Aww!

Ok kiddo, my advice? Just play it cool, keep talking to him, and build a friendship. I've learned the hard way that friendship is better than a boyfriend when you're younger. As someone once told me, Friends are forever, lovers are whatever.

What I mean is this: He'll likely be a better friend than a boyfriend. But just let the friendship grow, tell him when you want to, and see what happens.

Life is like that. Mysterous.
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i agree thats what iam gonna do because i really want to be good friends with him
 
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