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okay. well im in this relationship with 2 guys. yes its all 3 of us in one relationship. its not by any means an open relationship, just 3 guys sharing life together. however i have gotten really close with my parents since comming out of the closet when i was 16. i hate hiding things from them, but ive been hiding this from them for the past few months.. i cant stand hiding this from them. say what you will call me a mamma's boy or whatever.. i just feel that im letting them down.. what do i do? i love these two with all my heart. i dont want to lose it but i cant stand the thought of my parents being upset with me. especially since we've gotten so close. help???:^o
 
Wait I dont get it, do you mean they know your gay but not in a 3 way relationship?
 
yes. they know i'm gay but they do not know about my 3 way relationship. im scared to let them know but i dont like keeping things from them..
 
Well Its kinda a bizarre situation to be in, I cant see many people getting to grips with it, but they survived you coming out the closet. I think the best place to start is to invite your parents over to dinner, or get yourself and your partners invited over for dinner, just to break the ice and introduce two important people in your life to another two important people. Go from there, explain how close you 3 are without giving two much away, just to get your parents used to the idea that you share your life with them. It might be that it’s the best you can hope for, after all it’s a strange concept by todays standards and think what generation your parents are from, even more bizarre.

Stick with it mate, after all they clearly are important to you. Just run the idea past your parents “Oh what’s his face from school is in a 3 way relationship, been that way for a few years now, what do you think” might work? Worth a try?
 
thanks alot man. that does sound pretty good. you helped quite a bit already. ive just been scared to let them know.. maybe this will make things easier to bring it about. thanks alot!
 
That’s okay, at the end of the day I’m sure your parents love you and want you to be happy.
 
I agree too.

Good luck to you.

I don't know of any statistics, but I imagine this is more common in the gay community than we might realize.

If you can, come back sometime and fill us in on what, exactly, you did and how it went. Many here would be interested!

Thanks.
 
holy shit i told them and they were like what the fuck are you doing to yourself. and they wont talk to me now..
 
Give them a bit of time they will start to talk eventually, it sounds like there expecting you to hurt yourself, just need to show them your happy together and that you intend to make it work, and fully understand the risks involved.
 
Well how old are you and how many other relationships have you been in and how long has this been going on?
 
You can choose to make your parents happy.
Or you can choose to make yourself happy.

While I can't imagine doing what you do, if it makes you happy, and you think it'll work, then you're doing what makes you happy. In short, you're doing the right thing.

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
You can choose to make your parents happy.
Or you can choose to make yourself happy.

While I can't imagine doing what you do, if it makes you happy, and you think it'll work, then you're doing what makes you happy. In short, you're doing the right thing.

Lex
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Lex is right. In the end, it's your life and not theirs. You can either continue doing what works for you and brings you joy or make them happy by destroying your own happiness. If they knew that was really what it would mean, your parents probably would never want that to happen.

Give them time and if they never come around, then you can still be happy with these two guys in your life.
 
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