I think I might be transgendered

[innocentbychoice]

Hey everyone. Well after almost 10 years of coming out as a gay guy I think I might be transgendered. It all started as some sort of curiosity for transgenderism and transsexualism but through the years it evolved to something that actually makes me happy whenever I think of it and whenever I see myself like that. So long story short this past Saturday I started therapy to try and figure out who I am and what's going on. Wish me luck!

Btw, Is there any transgendered people here?

 

[palbert]

Best of luck to you! Let us know how things go.

 

[innocentbychoice]

^ thanks!!!

 

[QueenxElsa]

Its amazing you're doing some soul searching, should keep us updated on your progress.

 

[Seasoned]

I'm happy to hear you have moved in a direction to explore this for yourself. Best wishes!

 

[innocentbychoice]

thank u everyone for the kind words. it'll probably take a while until I get to a definite conclusion but I'll make sure to let everyone know here when it happens

@CupudBoy I'll check it out, I think I went there before. Thanks!

 

[innocentbychoice]

i meant CupidBoy.. im. replying on my phone its kinda hard.

 

[dereperez]

Finding out about yourself is a beautiful thing. It will be a very worthwhile process and it sounds like you are starting off well. Good luck!

 

[innocentbychoice]

Hey guys,

I figured I should give an update to my situation to the few of you who got interested.

I finished therapy on May and it really helped me get to know myself better. The conclusion is that, even though I have fantasies of looking like a girl, I actually feel comfortable and like living as a gay man, and in all honesty don't want to and wouldn't be able to change everything that I have in my life right now just to look different. Yes, look different, cuz in my case it was all about gender expression more than gender identification; I mean, I don't identify as a female, I don't feel like a female, but I do have fantasies of expressing as a female through my appearance, and that's something I can do temporarily (crossdressing or doing drag for example) instead of permanently (transitioning).

So basically I'll keep happily living as a gay man and will probably occasionally crossdress, maybe to party at gay clubs or in Halloween etc...I don't know! The possibilities are there, and that's all that matters. I do wish that in the future I can find a partner who actually likes it. My current boyfriend, who's being with me for 3+ years, understands the situation and is very supportive, but it's not something that he "likes", he just tries to be supportive, which is great! But I do feel weird crossdressing in front of him cuz I feel like I kinda lose the masculine appeal that he likes. But anyhow, I'm happy I did it all and got to know myself better.

Thanks for reading!

 

[hylas]

Woooo! (not much to say, just showing support)

 

[innocentbychoice]

Woooo! (not much to say, just showing support)

Thank you very much.

 

[AlmondMilk]

It's good to know you were able to figure out what makes you feel best.

 

[bankside]

I'm glad we're all free to consider these possibilities.

I don't think gender is as relevant to my own identity as it is to many other people, both those who are content with their apparent physiological gender, and those who wish to change it. To the degree to which I notice my own gender, I am happy with it, but that is a fairly low bar. Some might say its my own contentment that makes the concept of gender identity recede in my mind, but I would still say it has to matter to some people more than others. I'm happy to live in a world where we can undermine gender norms. My favourite way of doing that is not by transposing them but by ignoring them.

 

[Mariatenebre]

Hey guys,

I figured I should give an update to my situation to the few of you who got interested.

I finished therapy on May and it really helped me get to know myself better. The conclusion is that, even though I have fantasies of looking like a girl, I actually feel comfortable and like living as a gay man, and in all honesty don't want to and wouldn't be able to change everything that I have in my life right now just to look different. Yes, look different, cuz in my case it was all about gender expression more than gender identification; I mean, I don't identify as a female, I don't feel like a female, but I do have fantasies of expressing as a female through my appearance, and that's something I can do temporarily (crossdressing or doing drag for example) instead of permanently (transitioning).

So basically I'll keep happily living as a gay man and will probably occasionally crossdress, maybe to party at gay clubs or in Halloween etc...I don't know! The possibilities are there, and that's all that matters. I do wish that in the future I can find a partner who actually likes it. My current boyfriend, who's being with me for 3+ years, understands the situation and is very supportive, but it's not something that he "likes", he just tries to be supportive, which is great! But I do feel weird crossdressing in front of him cuz I feel like I kinda lose the masculine appeal that he likes. But anyhow, I'm happy I did it all and got to know myself better.

Thanks for reading!

I am glad you came to the realization that makes you happy. I am actually a Transsexual Female and I have full desire and will transition into being a Woman and get the surgeries to make me so. It has been something I have long wanted and I have never felt right as a guy. I have always wanted to do girlish things, to wear girl clothes and to be Female and soon I will have this. However there is a difference between a Drag Queen and a Transsexual. A Drag Queen identifies as Male but likes to dress in Female clothes where as a Transsexual Woman identifies as Female and wants to correct her body to be a Female. Here let Noxema Jackson explain it in depth.

 

[innocentbychoice]

I am glad you came to the realization that makes you happy. I am actually a Transsexual Female and I have full desire and will transition into being a Woman and get the surgeries to make me so. It has been something I have long wanted and I have never felt right as a guy. I have always wanted to do girlish things, to wear girl clothes and to be Female and soon I will have this. However there is a difference between a Drag Queen and a Transsexual. A Drag Queen identifies as Male but likes to dress in Female clothes where as a Transsexual Woman identifies as Female and wants to correct her body to be a Female. Here let Noxema Jackson explain it in depth.

Hi girl!! Good luck on your process.

I'm actually aware of the difference that's why I said that I think I would feel comfortable dressing up but not actually transitioning since I don't identify as a female. I just like looking like one sometimes.

Therapy helped me realize that, since I was super confused before I started it.

 

[Seasoned]

I'm really happy for you. Self-clarity is the gift we give to ourselves and that what enables us to then focus on career or job and relationships with partners or spouses, family and friends.

It was kind of you to provide the update. I wish you well. Perhaps you will be able to find an outlet with which you and your boyfriend will both be comfortable.

 

[innocentbychoice]

I'm really happy for you. Self-clarity is the gift we give to ourselves and that what enables us to then focus on career or job and relationships with partners or spouses, family and friends.

It was kind of you to provide the update. I wish you well. Perhaps you will be able to find an outlet with which you and your boyfriend will both be comfortable.

Thanks for your words!