I wanna tell my friend I'm Bi

[curboi321]

So straight to the point(no pun intended), Me and this guy I've met at work about five months ago have been hangin out and he's pretty cool. We mostly text over the phone talking about random stuff but somehow all of our conversations eventually end up with us joking around about both of us being gay. At first when I would joke around with him he would get upset and tell me to stop but lately he's been the one that starts it and he REALLY gets into it saying stuff like "You like it when big daddy talks to like this". Well numerous times in our conversations he has told me he would be okay with me being gay and to just come out already but again we both joke around saying stuff like that and I've already told him I'm not gay which is true.
I wanna just tell him I'm bi already and just get it over with but I don't know if things would be the same or if he would want to joke around with me anymore. Plus, I don't have any sexual feelings for this guy which is a good thing for me since I'm usually attracted to every goodlooking guy I see, but even if I tell him that I don't see him that way he may not believe me and start getting all weird around me.
One good thing would be that it may draw us closer because we would have something in common since he is biracial and he has problems accepting he is half white and only wants to be black like me having problems accepting I like both guys and girls and only wanting to be attracted to one. Maybe that could get him to open up more about his issues and me open up with mine which is something I haven't been able to do yet with anyone. It could bring us closer or it could drive us further apart I don't know what I should do?

 

[bluepheonix]

You're never going to know exactly how anyones going to take it. Personally it sounds rather promising. But you're going to be a better judge of how he might react than any one of us.

Seems like you want to tell him, there will come a time when the desire to come out outweighs the desire to stay in. If I were you i'd rip of the bandaid and find out how he really reacts (it will save you alot of time endlessly playing through scenarios in your head).

Remember, Closets are for Clothes.

Best of luck

 

[G-Lexington]

I'd say the best way to tell him is to just slip it into conversation. I wouldn't specifically say "I don't have sexual feelings for you" - as you said, he might not believe it, or he actually might feel a bit hurt by it. Instead, you might talk about (say) a guy you saw that you thought was hot. "He was pretty hot. But I don't know - I wouldn't have known what to say to him, and I'm not sure I'm ready to start dating guys, anyway."

Lex

 

[curboi321]

Hey thanks for the 2 replies i got

My friend just texted me about a bbq he's having on labor day I'm thinking about telling him then wish me luck.

 

[rareboy]

Oh fpr heaven's sake. He already knows you're a homo.

Just tell him the next time he asks if you're gay that 'no, you're apparently bi-sexual' and get on with being friends.

 

[Lube]

Like the posters above said: it's pretty clear that you both know that each other likes guys.

But, yeah, be careful about hurting his feelings. Maybe he's crushing on you. Go gently, that's all.

He knows already, for god's sakes!

 

[curboi321]

Oh fpr heaven's sake. He already knows you're a homo.

Just tell him the next time he asks if you're gay that 'no, you're apparently bi-sexual' and get on with being friends.

NO! I'm not a homo I'm one of the most masculine guys you'll ever meet and so is he which is why it's so hard for me to actually tell someone I care about because I don't want to get hurt even though I know it's a possiblity.

 

[curboi321]

Like the posters above said: it's pretty clear that you both know that each other likes guys.

But, yeah, be careful about hurting his feelings. Maybe he's crushing on you. Go gently, that's all.

He knows already, for god's sakes!

I'd say the best way to tell him is to just slip it into conversation. I wouldn't specifically say "I don't have sexual feelings for you" - as you said, he might not believe it, or he actually might feel a bit hurt by it. Instead, you might talk about (say) a guy you saw that you thought was hot. "He was pretty hot. But I don't know - I wouldn't have known what to say to him, and I'm not sure I'm ready to start dating guys, anyway."

Lex

Honestly,I do get the feeling that he likes me for more than a friend but he has a girlfriend so even if I was interested in him and he was to make a move on me I wouldn't want to get in the way of his relationship with his girl.

 

[Lube]

NO! I'm not a homo I'm one of the most masculine guys you'll ever meet and so is he which is why it's so hard for me to actually tell someone I care about because I don't want to get hurt even though I know it's a possiblity.

"You're a homo" means you like men. You're a homo. I'm a homo. Everybody here is a homo. Even if you're bi, you're a homo/hetero hybrid. But you're still a homo.

Get over it.

Honestly,I do get the feeling that he likes me for more than a friend but he has a girlfriend so even if I was interested in him and he was to make a move on me I wouldn't want to get in the way of his relationship with his girl.

If he has a girlfriend, what's the problem with coming out to him? He even told you it'd be OK!!!! Hello?