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I want sex more than him! But I guess it's normal?

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So, my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for only a few months. We spent a lot of time together, and he often stays at my place or I stay at his. I'm finding that I want sex a lot more often than he does. He's okay with a few times a week, I feel like I could go 2-3 times per day!

I'm not concerned really, though, because when we do finally do it, it's pretty good. And I've stopped masturbating completely, so I usually explode when we do it.

For those of you in relationships, how long have you been together and how often do you have sex? For what it's worth, are you (usually) the top or bottom? We're both vers, but I tend to prefer bottoming and he tends to prefer topping, which works out nicely. :)
 
It's a little early in your relationship to be having concern over the frequency of sex. My first suggestion is to communicate and not to expect. Have a talk about this with him. We all have baseline needs, but sometimes we confuse intimacy with sex. Remember, too, that it's your choice to have stopped masturbating. I bet he hasn't. There's nothing wrong with masturbation unless it distracts to the point the partner is affected.

Have the talk; find out what he needs and wants. Perhaps the two of you can compromise. Perhaps he'll agree to be present sometimes when you jerk off. Perhaps, every once in awhile, he'd agree to a "fuckfest" weekend.

Good luck sorting this out with him.
 
I had a similar situation with my last boyfriend, except he had the stronger libido - a much stronger libido. At the time, I had a physically-exhausting job, so I wasn't in the mood for sex many nights. It used to bother me at first that there was such a difference between us, but I eventually accepted it. However, we didn't really take the time to talk about each other's feelings, so I second Season's advice above to communicate, communicate, communicate! Sometimes you just have to take care of your own orgasm. A good rule of thumb is to not depend totally on someone else for your own sexual gratification - as long as it doesn't interfere with your regular sex life with your boyfriend.

Seasoned has some great advice. Follow it.
 
Hey this is really great advice. This is exactly why I turn to this forum.

We have talked about it. He says he doesn't have a strong libido and never has. He says he doesn't masturbate anymore since we have sex every few days. He challenged me not to as well, since it makes for explosive fun when we finally do have sex. I admit, it's true.

Anyway you are right, talking and being open is what it's all about. That's what we are trying to do. He has a high stress job and so do I. I'm not disappointed, I'm just more curious to hear the perspective of others who have been through this.

Regardless, thanks for the responses. The level-headed feedback is much appreciated.
 
If your libidos are different, he should remember that him waiting two days is a different level of challenge than you waiting two days. That's fine if its fun for you, but that might not work forever and ever.

My hope is that he would still find your horniness sexy even if he doesn't need to cum at the same time.

If he's tired but he knows you're horny, it would be great if he said "I'm not up for sex right now but I want to watch you jack off." It's really erotic to watch someone put on a show for you or to put on a show. It gives you a chance to be fully sexual and still share the moment with him at the same time. And it gives him a chance to be more low-key until he's charged up again.

Maybe I'm horny more frequently, but my guy and I are close to even. But there are times where I just didn't feel like it, but I totally enjoyed watching him cum. Total grin on my face and fun for me to think of later, and fun for both of us in the moment.
 
sounds like the situation I've got with my boyfriend. if we have sex in the morning, that's like it for me for the rest of the day.

meanwhile, my boyfriend is horny all day and gets hard at the drop of a hat. we've talked about it, and discussed the fact that while I'm more than happy to help him get off (which can mean anything from oral to just holding him and kissing while he jerks off), he needs to not take it personally if I'm not getting off as frequently as he is.
 
I understand what it means to have a high sex drive. My ideal situation is once a day although 2-3 times is a lot for even me to handle :lol:

There are other ways to find satisfaction with your partner. Like another member suggested, jerk off in front of him. Have him jerk you off more often rather than a full sex romp. You can do this in the shower or something.
 
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