I want to get with my friend's younger brother, not sure of his orientation though

[rareboy]

I guess you're going to have to grab yourself by the balls and ask the guy if he'd like to hang out, catch a game on TV or grab a bite or hit the bar or something social.

I'm assuming he knows you're a homo and if not, you should tell him early on. You'll know from his comfort level whether he's interested or not.

 

[texan_slant]

Spend more 1:1 time with him.

 

[Seasoned]

It's all cat and mouse with guys you know or random hook ups with strangers until you start coming out. Wanting to be close to you and wanting to be sexual with you are two different things.

 

[Horschallen]

Try finding some mutual interests and pursue activities in these areas together and see where they lead you both to.

 

[KaraBulut]

Just ask him to go hang out and do something like you would any other friend.

But honestly, there's a lot of effort going into an uncertain situation here. You'd be better off finding a gay guy closer to your age and spending time with him.

It's a bad habit to get into- pondering the sexuality of your friends and acquaintenances, over-analyzing every possible hint and pursuing guys who "might be gay". Especially when there's a world full of gay guys looking for someone.

 

[gavin89]

Like rareboy said, you should come out to him.. If he's still comfortable and doesn't change attitude, then take it up a little.....

Is he homophobic or cool about the whole thing?

 

[Nomenclature]

He's gotten a little touchy-feely with me when drunk, such as hugging, arms around shoulders, back massaging, and one time he even kissed me on top of my head.

It doesn't sound like any of that was sexual, though; he didn't grab your dick. If he was gay or bi, i'm sure he would have done something a little more gay and a little less "i'm drunk and you're my bro!!". I mean, look at all the silly things frat guys do when they're drunk.

Errrrr, on the other hand, he's hooked up with some girls and had one girlfriend while in HS.

So, he's repeatedly had sex with girls yet has never shown a sexual interest in guys.





Sweetie, he's straight.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Leave it alone.

 

[Spiffy]

I guess you're going to have to grab yourself by the balls and ask the guy if he'd like to hang out, catch a game on TV or grab a bite or hit the bar or something social.

I'm assuming he knows you're a homo and if not, you should tell him early on. You'll know from his comfort level whether he's interested or not.

I think your head on. If it doesn't seem like he wants to hang out with you alone or is uncomfortable then you'll know by that time if you should move on.

Just don't push yourself towards him.

 

[Smitho]

I would leave him alone, come out the closet and go out and look for gay guys, then the only cute guy you presently know will not seem so desirable, as someones who's gay and actually wants whats on offer.