On Topic Discussion If someone close to you was dying would you want to know?

[TickTockMan]

Would it just make you worried or would it help you in the long run to know?

 

[Maklaar13]

I most certainly would like to know. I am going through something like that. I am mostly blind and have a lot of health issues, so I was forced to retreat from a lot of social activities and was not able to see some people I care about. Last easter a supposed close friend was at my house and we were talking about a friend that I had not seen in a while, a very lovely woman and close friend of mine. The visiting friend, in a casual conversation said that my woman friend had died over a year earlier. My partner and I were shocked and upset, not only about the fact that our dear friend had died but mostly about the fact that this other friend had not even bothered to tell us. She mentioned it in such a nonchalant way and like it was not important at all. I am still very upset about it. I have not interacted with the visiting friend since that day.

 

[rareboy]

Of course I want to know.

My mother made us keep the severity of her cancer away from the family for 8 of the 12 weeks she lived after it was found.

I always thought this was somewhat selfish.

It meant that there was no one in our family (and all of her friends) to help us through that time and we definitely weren't in a place to help them with their own grief during the final days as they learned about it.

 

[LeicsDom]

I have just lost an ex-boyfriend
I knew he was dying over a year ago
I am glad that I was able to spend time with him and say all the things we needed to say
He lasted a lot longer than either of us expected