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Im 35 he's 22 need your HELP!

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OK here's th deal. Im 35 he's 22. He has a a strong sex drive, mine is is not as strong. I found out he's been playing on the side safely. I asked him about it and he was honest with me about it. I truly love him and i know he loves me. For him it's a physical thing. Filling a void. I'm thinking of an open relationship. But i dont want to know about what hes does and when he does it. For those of you in such a relationship does it work?
 
Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I'm a one guy kind of guy.

I have a rather high drive, more than my partner's, but doing stuff of the side is unacceptable.
 
OK for him to bring his playmates home and be with you--either as participant or spectator?
 
He is playing you and will continue to do so for some time. His highly active sex drive is a manipulating tool over you. What may gay men (and others in the mainstream of life) fail to accept is that relationships based in sex will never last. A 22 year old, generally, does not have the emotional maturity to sustain a meaningful relationship. Look for someone closer to your own age and maturity.
 
tough call

I imagine many will say - no way and others would say what the fuck

for me, I'd like to say it could work, but i know that it wouldn't - sharing a man with another man I could see for fun - but not long term

but really, it doesn't matter what I or others think - does it work for u?

that's all that matters

good luck

good job getting the 22 year old too
 
I am 7 years older than my ex. When we were together I was the one with the insatiable appetite. I still kept to the exclusive agreement we established once we got serious. If you can do open relationships, power to you. I know that I can't.
Good luck!
 
Depends on if your in a relationship or not! Everyone has their own definition of what a relationship is!

As mentioned with other JUBBERS would not work for me, or my 30 year old bf. We respect one another and would not go out and hookup just for the 'physical' thing as you say! In my case, he is always horny and I like that, but I am not. We have learned to work around what works for the both of us emotionally and sexually!

This is one of the many reasons why we are together and love one another.
 
If you have an open relationship, can you trust him ... can you trust him to play safe, every time? I agree, he is playing you with this strong libido thing. The question becomes, can your psyche handle this? If you are ok with it, then you have your answer. Since you are askng, it sounds like you have a lot of doubt.
 
perfect ingriediants for disaster.](*,)

it will work until someone gets fed up , or someone gets more attached, and wants more.:confused:

if you love him and he loves you . is that not enough...|
 
I seem to agree with much of what has been said. But the biggest point for me is that he was cheating on you simply cos he wants more sex? Poor excuse for a relationship. If you got into it understanding it was an open relationship ( tho it rarely works long term) that's one thing, but a cheater cheats, and a big sex drive is no excuse, we are not dogs, we have minds, and like Gabriel 1 said, that's what jerking off is for!
 
hi there,
i moved your forum to the co & relationships forum since the forum where you posted it in is more for the "nasty bits" as we say :) (adult content)
 
Don't listen to the prudes. Sex and love are two entirely different things that most people lump together for some reason.

An open relationship can work. Almost all of the really long lasting relationships I know about are open ones.

However, both partners have to be totally into it, and have to establish "rules" etc..

Remember, one meaning of the word "open" is "honest". So, I often think of the guys who are so opposed to open relationships as being in favor of dishonest relationships. :-)

And, trust me, most of those guys who are in long term "monogamous" pairings, would be shocked to find that one or both of them are lying. They almost always cheat....
 
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