I'm a member of another forum and...

[Txgoodoldboy]

That is a shame. You have been polite and helpful on JUB. You could tell them to "fuck off", and it would be their lost. But it sounds like you want to stick it out. Why not try to form your own group? Or just invite two or three for coffee or drinks.

I hope you feel better. Hugs.

P.S. I know, at times, we all get caught up in the internet web. Sometimes, it is good to step back, and give the situation a rest, or a break. I think the best advice is not to take it (forums), too seriously. That is easier said, than done. I find at times, I need to tell myself, Whoa!

Just be yourself.

Where is Soilwork when you need him? (Joking)

 

[gewhite3]

Noelie,

Chin up buddy. Don't let this "clique" get you down. I can tell you from my own personal experience with you here at JUB that you are extremely friendly, always so helpful to offer assistance, and your posts are always so thorough and thoughtful. I always get a smile on my face when I see a post of yours and I feel you are a truly warm and caring person.

I don't know much about where you live but are there any other areas even within a reasonable distance where you could make some other friends? Have you tried talking to one of the group (whomever you feel most comfortable with) in confidence to ask them for an honest opinion about why they are more "cold" towards you than others?

It seems that this group of guys is quite younger than yourself and this could make you feel uncomfortable. Have you ever thought that maybe they are intimidated by you for some reason? Could it be your increased level of maturity? Maybe they find you attractive and this could cause them to isolate you and feel intimidated.

I've been through a lot of bullshit in my life and have been really screwed over many many times by people that were supposed to be my friends and family members. It took me a long time to learn some very valuable lessons but I did. The main ones being that the best friends in my life didn't come to me easily, and some people can appear to be your friends and then stick a knife in your back the second you turn around. It can be hard to tell the difference but if people are going to make you feel like this group of guys is making you feel, then I would suppose that they aren't very good friends at all. You're much better than that and don't deserve this kind of treatment.

I'm here for you if you need somebody to talk to. PM me anytime my friend. Just remember that nobody can take anything away from you unless you let them.

I wish I could give you a big hug in person but this is the best I can do....

Be strong......

 

[gewhite3]

For you Noelie,

 

[Andreus]

i'm glad youre here with us

hugs

 

[Eagle653]

I'm glad you're here with us, too. Sorry they've treated you so poorly. Anyway, always know you'll have friends here!

 

[RicanDAB]

Noelie,

I don't go to the tech forum too often, probably only when I come a-running with a tech dilemma but should be more casually passing by too ... I saw your post and just wanted to say that YOU are definitely an asset here, and you're certainly valued here by me and clearly by the others that posted here. You've helped me a lot and I am grateful for that.

Don't let the fools on that other forum get you down ... it's their loss that they don't cherish your presence as we do!

 

[cellular]

Noelie, you are amazing here on JUB. I have had some tech troubles in the past with my computer and you have always helped me out on these forums. I think those people just dont see how amazing you are to appreciate you, which is sadly their loss.

 

[Andreus]

THE book of Kells????

the very ONE?

the ORIGINAL??????

OMG

I think i just came in my pants

 

[Corny]

I really wanted to fit in and be part of something local but it looks like I'll just have to forgo that and get my kicks in my home town of Dublin so [/SIZE]

i guess that was the mistake - "trying" to fit in always means that you usually don't. and forcing it rarely works out.

we had our moments here, but i can't imagine tech forum without you