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I'm a newbie here...wanted to say hello and ask "Do you believe in life after love"?

Do You Believe in Life After Love?

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Re: I'm a newbie here...wanted to say hello and ask "Do you believe in life after lov

I have to believe there is. I've not experienced a loss of love at this point. However, when one loves deeply, there has to be hole in one's heart. My assumption is that the hole heals over in time, even if there is always scar tissue. It gets better.
 
i'm sorry to hear of your situation. i'm also recovering from my break up which i have not handled too well. however, life has to go on and i have found lots of support and encouragement here on JUB. my best wishes are with you :) and oh, as for your question, yes there will be life after love. as a matter of fact, there will love after love because love is always out there!
 
you should read some of the threads in the relationship forum. that will be of great help to you, i would think anyway.
 
There's a part of you that will always feel hurt, but there will come a time when it will stop dominating your everyday life... and yes, you will love again...
 
Take heart - there's definitely life after love! I've had two major breakups, first in my teens, then my late 20's. After that, was with my partner for 12 years until he passed away. Needless to say, it's devastating but (more to the point) temporary. There's an infinite amount of love out there, both to be given and received. Take some time to heal from your breakup (because time really is the cure) and then be open to it - you'll love again.
 
Hellooo and welcome to JUB.

I've just recently lost one I love. It's a daily battle sometimes to keep a "stiff upper lip."

I went through it 4 years ago. And from that relationship, it was 2 years before I felt whole again.

It does get better with time, trust me.

I'm avail. if you'd like to chat.
 
It sucks...a lot. Sometimes, it hurts so much you just want to cry and punch the wall over and over until your knuckles bleed, just praying that something will happen and everything will go back to the way it was.

Lean on your friends. Don't be afraid to open up to them. Things will get better, even if right now you don't want them to.

You'll have good days and not so good days and a piece of the hurt may never go away, but of course there's life after love...and when you're ready, there will be love too.

And when in doubt, think about ducks. Ducks are funny.
 
confusedboy23 said:
... as a matter of fact, there will love after love because love is always out there!
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I agree! Confusedboy is so right. :)

But first you do the healing, if possible. And then when you're ready to move on, put yourself back out there. It'll happen.

Sport, can you tell us more about what happened? Sometimes it helps to tell your story. You'll get a lot of sympathetic ears here, I promise!

(*W*)
 
I am a bit confused here. Was this a long distance relationship or an internet one? Do you see him every now and then only or have you only seen him 5 years ago?
And, you mentioned, for 2 years you have been lied to but I can't make out how 2 and 5 years go together and yeah, sorry, I don't really understand the situation. :(

I can say that if he has cheated on you and has constantly lied to you, he does not deserve you. I am sorry for your hurt and I wish you the best in getting over him. It will not be easy and it will take time. But I assure you, there are brighter days ahead. So, please, please, don't give up on love!!!

We are all here for you so please feel free to vent your feelings on this forum. :D
 
sport124 said:
The really sad thing is....I still love him, and always will.
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Of course you do. We're no different from you, Sport. I, myself have been there. :(

So now you grieve your loss. You talk about your feelings and write about them and cry whenever the urge hits you. Just let it out and out and out.

And slowly the hurt around him will diminish as will the desire to have him back. You'll still care about him but your heart will be ready to try again.

And this being your thread, its a great place to do some of that stuff. We're always around!
 
OMG! This is sad and I am just lost for words. :(

No way in this world does he deserve you. Let me reiterate it, HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU!

Look, you have been the one who has remained true all throughout the relationship and you have given him more than enough chances to come clean, but obviously he has not. He has played with your feelings and simply have taken you for granted and that is definitely not someone whom you want to share your life with.

When you love someone, you expect to be loved in return. When that does not happen, you get hurt and I know that you are hurting. I can only imagine the emotional pain you are enduring right now. Not only that, I feel really sorry for you because he has not only traumatised you emotionally but has left physically scarred too. Violence has no place in a relationship and I think you have done the right thing in calling 911 and having legal action against him.

There is no easy way out but you need to let time heal the wound inside of you. I am sure that you would have shared wonderful moments with him too and those memories are worth keeping because of your love for him. But you need to put behind you his abuse and his lies so that you may on and see that there are guys out there who would die to have you share their lives. I have learnt that crying and writing does help with healing. It reminds you of the ups and downs you have been through, and by crying, the tears you shed will wash away little by little the hurt you have endured, leaving only the memories worth keeping. It will take time, and I am sure in your case, it will take a long time. Just know that you will have support from us and know that there can only be brighter days ahead! Believe me, there can only be a good ending! :)
 
Your lover, from what you said, is HIV positive and yet is now having unsafe sex. Surely this is a criminal offence?
 
Re: I'm a newbie here...wanted to say hello and ask "Do you believe in life after lov

Rali_hates_Mondays said:
Your lover, from what you said, is HIV positive and yet is now having unsafe sex. Surely this is a criminal offence?
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Good point....unless he tells every guy he meets that he is positive and every guy that he meets is also happy to take the chance!

What are the chances that he would be honest with random guys if he has dishonest with his lover? :grrr:
 
Re: I'm a newbie here...wanted to say hello and ask "Do you believe in life after lov

confusedboy23: About your response.. I didn't tell you that you're awesome today, did I?

I said a lot of this in PM but you said it a lot better than I could've.
 
Rali_hates_Mondays said:
Your lover, from what you said, is HIV positive and yet is now having unsafe sex. Surely this is a criminal offence?
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I would give a call to the local department of health. Let them know what's going on. I did it with a girl I know whose goal it was to infect as many men a she could. Cunt.
 
I'd feel sick to my stomach. Then other not-so-pleasant emotions would take hold.

Try not to dwell on what happened. It'll only eat away more at you.
 
Re: I'm a newbie here...wanted to say hello and ask "Do you believe in life after lov

sport124 said:
Thanks for your heartfelt words of support, I re-read them when I am most alone, at night and they do comfort and reassure me that I did the best I could do and as time goes by, I am realizing that he does not deserve someone like me.....and while the heart is broken, I am relieved that he is in fact out of my life, he is toxic and well, evil is the only word that comes to mind......but again thanks...I am getting the support I need and slowly feeling reassured that the loss is going to turn out to be a gain....at least experience will be my guide, and my heart will just have to take a back seat! Hope all is well......take good care and know that I am here as well......Deep Peace....

Sport
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Sport, I'm really glad to know that you are finally, slowly but surely, "regaining" yourself. There will be days when you'll feel 100% but there will also be days when you will feel as if you're free falling. Don't fret, and don't turn back. Be strong and always know that we are here for you. Just cry out to us and allow us to be your support in your darkest moments. I wish you all the best, and may you find peace within your heart and soul again! :) Take good care of yourself......
 
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